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hbugal
Lesigh
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As a parent of a child with a disability...
I wanted to share something...
WELCOME TO HOLLAND
I am often asked to describe the experience of raising a child with a disability - to try to help people who have not shared that unique experience to understand it, to imagine how it would feel. It's like this......
When you're going to have a baby, it's like planning a fabulous vacation trip - to Italy. You buy a bunch of guide books and make your wonderful plans. The Coliseum. The Michelangelo David. The gondolas in Venice. You may learn some handy phrases in Italian. It's all very exciting.
After months of eager anticipation, the day finally arrives. You pack your bags and off you go. Several hours later, the plane lands. The stewardess comes in and says, "Welcome to Holland."
"Holland?!?" you say. "What do you mean Holland?? I signed up for Italy! I'm supposed to be in Italy. All my life I've dreamed of going to Italy."
But there's been a change in the flight plan. They've landed in Holland and there you must stay.
The important thing is that they haven't taken you to a horrible, disgusting, filthy place, full of pestilence, famine and disease. It's just a different place.
So you must go out and buy new guide books. And you must learn a whole new language. And you will meet a whole new group of people you would never have met.
It's just a different place. It's slower-paced than Italy, less flashy than Italy. But after you've been there for a while and you catch your breath, you look around.... and you begin to notice that Holland has windmills....and Holland has tulips. Holland even has Rembrandts.
But everyone you know is busy coming and going from Italy... and they're all bragging about what a wonderful time they had there. And for the rest of your life, you will say "Yes, that's where I was supposed to go. That's what I had planned."
And the pain of that will never, ever, ever, ever go away... because the loss of that dream is a very very significant loss.
But... if you spend your life mourning the fact that you didn't get to Italy, you may never be free to enjoy the very special, the very lovely things ... about Holland.
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cgdg61606
Little Brother Christopher
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Re: As a parent of a child with a disability...
That was very special!!
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| Posted 4/4/08 7:31 PM |
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MsSissy
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Re: As a parent of a child with a disability...
Posted by hbugal
But after you've been there for a while and you catch your breath, you look around.... and you begin to notice that Holland has windmills....and Holland has tulips. Holland even has Rembrandts.
I love this part
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ArmyOfBabies
Growing older but not up
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Re: As a parent of a child with a disability...
That is beautiful. I just teared a little.
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| Posted 4/4/08 7:33 PM |
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tiki03
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Re: As a parent of a child with a disability...
Beautiful
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| Posted 4/4/08 7:56 PM |
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Tany
Becoming a different woman
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Re: As a parent of a child with a disability...
wow, that was so beautiful
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| Posted 4/4/08 7:58 PM |
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pinkandblue
Our family is complete, maybe
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Re: As a parent of a child with a disability...
beautiful
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| Posted 4/4/08 8:05 PM |
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ME75
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Re: As a parent of a child with a disability...
we read that at my mom's group last week and i really loved it....thanks for sharing it!
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| Posted 4/4/08 8:11 PM |
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BMonster
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Denise
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Re: As a parent of a child with a disability...
That's beautiful
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| Posted 4/4/08 8:28 PM |
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lilacwine
only love...
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Re: As a parent of a child with a disability...
Thank you for sharing that!
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| Posted 4/4/08 8:32 PM |
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Janice
Sweet Jessie Quinn
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Re: As a parent of a child with a disability...
I love that
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mommy2bella
Where does time go?
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Re: As a parent of a child with a disability...
I love this story, it make me tear every time...
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| Posted 4/4/08 8:38 PM |
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CrankyPants
I'm cranky
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Re: As a parent of a child with a disability...
So special-that was lovely
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| Posted 4/4/08 8:49 PM |
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CunningOne
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Re: As a parent of a child with a disability...
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traceyd
Big Sister to Be!
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Re: As a parent of a child with a disability...
That is beautiful-thanks for sharing
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| Posted 4/4/08 9:02 PM |
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Belladonna219
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Re: As a parent of a child with a disability...
beautiful
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BaroqueMama
Chase is one!
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Re: As a parent of a child with a disability...
That was so incredibly beautiful
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| Posted 4/4/08 9:27 PM |
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SweetCin
My green-eyed boy
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Re: As a parent of a child with a disability...
Very touching
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4monkeys
boys will be boys =)
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Re: As a parent of a child with a disability...
aww that was so touching. 
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| Posted 4/4/08 9:56 PM |
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waterspout4
My loves
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Re: As a parent of a child with a disability...
Beautiful!!!!!!! 
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2BEANS
wow time is going fast.
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Re: As a parent of a child with a disability...
wow that was sweetly expressed. Thank you. Makes you really think and appreciate what God gives you.
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Diana1215
Living on a prayer!!!
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Re: As a parent of a child with a disability...
That was so beautiful!
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| Posted 4/5/08 8:34 AM |
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MrsBumbleb
it's me
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Re: As a parent of a child with a disability...
I received this when I first started working with children with Autism. I found it very insightful.
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jprimrose
I love my little munchkins!
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Re: As a parent of a child with a disability...
That was so beautiful. I cried as I read it. Thank you so much fro sharing.
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