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saraH
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Babies at bridal showers?
Go or no go?
It's my dh's cousins FW's bridal shower, if that matters. The child, MY DD  will be 5 months.
If you were the bride, would you be offended or would it not bother you?
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MrsPJB2007
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Re: Babies at bridal showers?
hm...toughie---i think it depends on how close you are to the bride.
if the bride doesn't have kids---and most of her friends don't--they might not understand and feel like the baby shouldn't be there.
but if the bride is close with you--maybe she won't mind?
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Lisa
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Re: Babies at bridal showers?
Hmmm...thats a hard one
I would have to say no unless you are the sister of the bride or groom.
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HoneyBadger
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Re: Babies at bridal showers?
I wouldn't bring a baby to a shower.
What are you going to do with her? I would think she'd be more comfortable in her own home. Do you have to bring her in order to attend the shower or is her father around to take care of her?
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saraH
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Re: Babies at bridal showers?
WE are not close. I wouldn't be doing it out of spite, just want everyone to see the baby.
Hmmm....I don't have to bring her. My mom or DH can watch her, I just wanted to see what the consensus was on this.
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Re: Babies at bridal showers?
Unless I spoke with the bride first (or the person throwing the shower) I would not bring my baby and I would be annoyed if I were the bride to be.
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Shelly
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Re: Babies at bridal showers?
My sister and I brought out DD to my cousin's shower. It was fine.
I would just ask whoever is throwing the shower if its adult only. People are funny about these things. I don't get it, but people are.
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Re: Babies at bridal showers?
Posted by saraH
WE are not close. I wouldn't be doing it out of spite, just want everyone to see the baby.
Hmmm....
honestly--than no.
not to be harsh--but its a shower for HER and not for you to show the baby off. she might feel like you are stealing her thunder and i don't think she would appreciate it. i know i wouldn't.
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saraH
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Re: Babies at bridal showers?
Posted by Shelly
My sister and I brought out DD to my cousin's shower. It was fine.
I would just ask whoever is throwing the shower if its adult only. People are funny about these things. I don't get it, but people are.
I see what you're saying. I mean, if I had no choice but to bring her, but I have the option to leave her home.
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Re: Babies at bridal showers?
Posted by saraH
WE are not close. I wouldn't be doing it out of spite, just want everyone to see the baby.
This is why I would be annoyed, or think a lot of brides to be would be. IMO, it is not the place to show everyone the baby, it is the bride's day to be celebrated and paid attention to.
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saraH
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Re: Babies at bridal showers?
Posted by MrsPJB2007
Posted by saraH
WE are not close. I wouldn't be doing it out of spite, just want everyone to see the baby.
Hmmm....
honestly--than no.
not to be harsh--but its a shower for HER and not for you to show the baby off. she might feel like you are stealing her thunder and i don't think she would appreciate it. i know i wouldn't.
that was my thought too. but then I thought maybe she's like to see the baby, she hasn't seen her yet.
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Lisa
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Re: Babies at bridal showers?
Posted by Shelly
My sister and I brought out DD to my cousin's shower. It was fine.
I would just ask whoever is throwing the shower if its adult only. People are funny about these things. I don't get it, but people are.
yes but your cousin is the bride....the OP said it was her Dhs counsins FW...no relation yet....
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Re: Babies at bridal showers?
Posted by saraH
WE are not close. I wouldn't be doing it out of spite, just want everyone to see the baby.
That's exactly why you should not bring the baby. Let the party-goers celebrate the bride-to-be. It's her day.
If you'd like people to see the baby, find a different day for those visits.
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saraH
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Re: Babies at bridal showers?
Then it looks like she'll stay home with daddy.
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Re: Babies at bridal showers?
Posted by saraH
Then it looks like she'll stay home with daddy.
maybe you can invite her over later on after the shower? or DH can come by when the shower is over with the baby and help load up gifts for the bride and she can see the baby?
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Re: Babies at bridal showers?
Posted by saraH
I wouldn't be doing it out of spite, just want everyone to see the baby.
I wouldn't bring the baby if you arent' close with her. JMO but she may feel you are stealing the spotlight.
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Re: Babies at bridal showers?
Posted by MrsPJB2007
Posted by saraH
Then it looks like she'll stay home with daddy.
maybe you can invite her over later on after the shower? or DH can come by when the shower is over with the baby and help load up gifts for the bride and she can see the baby?
That's a good idea.
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saraH
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Re: Babies at bridal showers?
See, it's kind of a strange relationship we have with this cousin.
It's hard to explain, I think there is a little resentment going on. I wasn't planning on bringing the baby. My MIL asked me and I said no b/c of various reasons. I feel like if it was a baby shower, it would be more PC.
I'm happy for them and plan on going to the shower no matter what, just wnated to see what others thought of this.
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Re: Babies at bridal showers?
Posted by dita
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Then it looks like she'll stay home with daddy.
maybe you can invite her over later on after the shower? or DH can come by when the shower is over with the baby and help load up gifts for the bride and she can see the baby?
That's a good idea.
I agree, I like this suggestion. This way you're not taking anything away from the bride but you're also making the baby "available" for anyone who wants to stick around and see her.
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saraH
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Re: Babies at bridal showers?
Posted by imthecindyofcindyandkevin
Posted by dita
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Posted by saraH
Then it looks like she'll stay home with daddy.
maybe you can invite her over later on after the shower? or DH can come by when the shower is over with the baby and help load up gifts for the bride and she can see the baby?
That's a good idea.
I agree, I like this suggestion. This way you're not taking anything away from the bride but you're also making the baby "available" for anyone who wants to stick around and see her.
I may have him do this. Great idea, thanks!
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bicosi
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Re: Babies at bridal showers?
I wouldn't bring my child to a shower unless the host/bride invited him/her to come. 
ETA that even when friends/family do invite my kids to these types of things, I treat these things as ME time, so I thank them nicely and just leave them at home.
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Re: Babies at bridal showers?
You can't bring a baby without the go ahead. You should ask. If the place is at a restaurant, I would say no, but in a house- why not.
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Karen
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Re: Babies at bridal showers?
Posted by MrsPJB2007
Posted by saraH
WE are not close. I wouldn't be doing it out of spite, just want everyone to see the baby.
Hmmm....
honestly--than no.
not to be harsh--but its a shower for HER and not for you to show the baby off. she might feel like you are stealing her thunder and i don't think she would appreciate it. i know i wouldn't.
I totally agree with this. I would not bring the baby, let the bride to be have her day.
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Re: Babies at bridal showers?
My LI shower was at a restaurant. While that was going on, my FIL had all the guys, and one newborn of one of my friend's over at his house. Everyone got to see the baby later when they all came back to the house.
There were no kids invited to my shower by my parents house either, and that was at my aunt's house.
When it comes to children and anything relating to weddings, never just assume it's okay to bring them. This created WWIII with relatives on my side of the family actually, but I really don't care ;).
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dm24angel
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Re: Babies at bridal showers?
Unless I spoke to someone and asked or if other kids were invited, no I wouldnt.
Because other peoples kids are not coming and it might get them upset that they had to plan for care for their kids while yours is there ya know?
I try not to bring my son to any events like that ever.
ETA- I just read you said you wanted people to see the baby. In that case. NO...Its her day and all the focus should be soley on HER.
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