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Smileyd17
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Baby and NO DRIVE! I mean S-E-X!
I dont know if its the fact that I feel well, very unattractive, fat and the added stress of our house (that is under construction) and baby...but its pretty bad. I have no sex drive.
I know its going to impact our marriage if it dont get better. 
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Posted 7/31/07 5:01 PM  |
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CkGm
They get so big, so fast :(
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Re: Baby and NO DRIVE! I mean S-E-X!
I will be honest. I had NO sex drive AT ALL until I stopped breastfeeding my DD and got my period. I mean NONE. I felt so bad for DH- I would only do it to please him but I felt NOTHING. It was awful.
Its soooo much better now so hang in there.
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| Posted 7/31/07 5:02 PM |
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Charly
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Re: Baby and NO DRIVE! I mean S-E-X!
I still don't have the drive I used to and I'm 8 months PP. I think for me its body image and pure exhaustion.
Thankfully my DH is just as tired and I make it seem like it's his fault
In all seriousness I get worried sometimes that there's something wrong with me. I should talk to my OB about it. Have you spoke to yours?
I hope we both find our mojo!!!
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| Posted 7/31/07 5:04 PM |
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Smileyd17
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Re: Baby and NO DRIVE! I mean S-E-X!
Posted by Charly
In all seriousness I get worried sometimes that there's something wrong with me. I should talk to my OB about it. Have you spoke to yours?
I hope we both find our mojo!!!
No but maybe I should. I have an appt this wk.
Crazy too since last nite i dreamt I had it 
So, something is there right???? 
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| Posted 7/31/07 5:05 PM |
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Charly
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Re: Baby and NO DRIVE! I mean S-E-X!
Posted by Smileyd17
No but maybe I should. I have an appt this wk.
Crazy too since last nite i dreamt I had it
So, something is there right????
I had a dream this weekend too and I woke up wanting it...but the baby woke me up so there was no having it and then it was gone
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| Posted 7/31/07 5:39 PM |
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emilain
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Re: Baby and NO DRIVE! I mean S-E-X!
It definitely requires extraordinary effort, even if you;re not n the mood, push yourself and probably within a few minutes you'll be ready to go
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| Posted 7/31/07 6:04 PM |
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vegalady
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Re: Baby and NO DRIVE! I mean S-E-X!
Posted by CkGm
I will be honest. I had NO sex drive AT ALL until I stopped breastfeeding my DD and got my period. I mean NONE. I felt so bad for DH- I would only do it to please him but I felt NOTHING. It was awful.
Its soooo much better now so hang in there.
U know its so weird b/c I dont feel like i have a sex drive at all and I am very sexually person usually. (sorry if TMI) I am BF'ing so maybe that has something to do with it.
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| Posted 7/31/07 6:20 PM |
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johnsae
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Re: Baby and NO DRIVE! I mean S-E-X!
I've had no drive since I first got pregnant. It's awful and I feel really bad for DH. Sometimes I force myself, but most nights I'm just exhausted.
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| Posted 7/31/07 6:48 PM |
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CkGm
They get so big, so fast :(
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Re: Baby and NO DRIVE! I mean S-E-X!
Posted by vegalady
Posted by CkGm
I will be honest. I had NO sex drive AT ALL until I stopped breastfeeding my DD and got my period. I mean NONE. I felt so bad for DH- I would only do it to please him but I felt NOTHING. It was awful.
Its soooo much better now so hang in there.
U know its so weird b/c I dont feel like i have a sex drive at all and I am very sexually person usually. (sorry if TMI) I am BF'ing so maybe that has something to do with it.
I think it did since I always had a high drive and then it just disappeared after having her. It came back after I stopped BF so I think the chemicals keep your drive down or something
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| Posted 7/31/07 6:58 PM |
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FeliciaDP
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Re: Baby and NO DRIVE! I mean S-E-X!
I still feel this way and I am almost 10 mos. post partum 
I KNOW for me, though, it's totally the extra weight I'm carrying around that is making me feel uninterested. I have the lowest self esteem lately and I just hate the way I look overall.. my skin, hair, body all just seem so fug. And the thought of getting naked makes ME  .. so I cannot imagine DH wanting to see me that way (even though he insists otherwise )
I hope it gets better for us all soon though!
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| Posted 7/31/07 7:05 PM |
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JavaJunkie
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Re: Baby and NO DRIVE! I mean S-E-X!
I spoke to my OB about this and she just suggested that I start taking an over the counter supplement called DHEA. I would definitely talk to your OB first though before starting anything. Then there are all the other things you can do to help boost your drive, date night, alone time after DC goes to bed, foreplay to heat things up etc....
Message edited 7/31/2007 7:23:55 PM.
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| Posted 7/31/07 7:23 PM |
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pharmcat2000
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Re: Baby and NO DRIVE! I mean S-E-X!
15 months PP here and mine is still LOOOWWWWW! I BF for almost 6 months so I think that contributed, plus the exhaustion, and now...??? Honestly, part of me thinks that the BFing made my BBs so sensitive (still) that I really don't want them touched (sorry of TMI) and that just turns me off now.
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gottaluvmusik
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Re: Baby and NO DRIVE! I mean S-E-X!
I have none!! I completely understand my dh said is there something wrong with him and I said no I just dont know
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| Posted 8/1/07 12:09 AM |
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DandN
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Re: Baby and NO DRIVE! I mean S-E-X!
I think they removed mine when they did the c-section!
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| Posted 8/1/07 1:14 AM |
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MelToddJulia
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Re: Baby and NO DRIVE! I mean S-E-X!
Posted by CkGm
I will be honest. I had NO sex drive AT ALL until I stopped breastfeeding my DD and got my period. I mean NONE. I felt so bad for DH- I would only do it to please him but I felt NOTHING. It was awful.
Its soooo much better now so hang in there.
Same for me too!
It does get better!
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| Posted 8/1/07 8:00 AM |
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Eleanor
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Re: Baby and NO DRIVE! I mean S-E-X!
For those BFing, it's definitely a factor. My midwife told me that it lowers your sex drive as a way to not get pregnant, since you are providing for one child already.
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| Posted 8/1/07 8:06 AM |
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GenLCSW
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Re: Baby and NO DRIVE! I mean S-E-X!
Posted by Charly
I still don't have the drive I used to and I'm 8 months PP. I think for me its body image and pure exhaustion.
Thankfully my DH is just as tired and I make it seem like it's his fault
In all seriousness I get worried sometimes that there's something wrong with me. I should talk to my OB about it. Have you spoke to yours?
I hope we both find our mojo!!!
I am going through the same thing...I am just so tired by the end of the day that all I want to do is sleep...maybe I should talk to my OB also
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dawnygirl25
Growing up soo fast..
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Re: Baby and NO DRIVE! I mean S-E-X!
13 mth PP and mine is still low...Aly doesnt sleep well - pure exhaustion plays a big part poor DH....
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Karebaby
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Re: Baby and NO DRIVE! I mean S-E-X!
I am in the same boat as you. I feel so unattractive that sex is the last thing on my mind. I do it anyways because DH practically begs but it is not very fun when you are not in the mood whatsoever.
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| Posted 8/1/07 10:34 AM |
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TwinMama
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Re: Baby and NO DRIVE! I mean S-E-X!
Try getting some toys to spice it up it works!
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| Posted 8/1/07 10:44 AM |
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JenBenMen
party of five
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Re: Baby and NO DRIVE! I mean S-E-X!
12 weeks PP and not so into it---u are not alone
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pmpkn087
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Re: Baby and NO DRIVE! I mean S-E-X!
Posted by TwinMama
Try getting some toys to spice it up it works!
I agree! We have dwindled to about twice a week, if DH is luck, usually at least once a week.  But, even if I'm not in the mood once we start I'm ready to go
I KNOW for a fact it is my body image in my mind. Because I am used to feeling so confident about myself, now that I don't it's a whole new emotion for me 
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