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FeliciaDP
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Re: Bachelor Partys
Posted by Marcie
He can go - I have no problems with it.
I also know that my DH hates going to bachelor parties with strippers (I think he is the minority!  )
Well my DH also gets NOTHING out of strippers or that sort of thing, so I guess both our hubbies are in the minority 
That said - am I THRILLED when I hear that my DH might be at a party with strippers? well NO, not particuarly. But do I care/would I prevent him from going? Again- NO
What I DON"T agree with (and many of you may disagree with my feelings) is the "private parties' in hotel rooms and such, where strippers are hired as entertainment  I dont mind strip clubs because there are some rules and limitations to what goes on, but the private stripper thingy is BAD NEWS (IMO) I've heard TOO many stories and its just not something I'd really like my husband to be a part of, IF I had the choice (which I don't , since he can choose what he wants to do)
AND NO it has nothing to do with trust, I trust my DH completely .. its just sleazy is all 
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FeliciaDP
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Re: Bachelor Partys
Posted by Janice
I hate this topic it wears me out it is too late in my work day to give it my full defense, last time Don and I went on and on for 4 pages.
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| Posted 8/11/05 5:26 PM |
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MrsERod
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Re: Bachelor Partys
Posted by Moehick
So I have no problem with DH going to a bachelor party and I have no problem if he drinks or if there are strippers. Am I in the minority here?
i don't see anything wrong with it. as long as there's trust in a marriage, it shouldn't be a problem at all!!
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| Posted 8/11/05 5:26 PM |
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Jenziba
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Re: Bachelor Partys
It's ok with me!
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| Posted 8/11/05 5:26 PM |
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QuoteTheRaven424
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Re: Bachelor Partys
exactly, here's what most women don't realize
These women are paid performers. The only interest they have in men is our money. What they say and do is all part of the act. Any decent guy wouldn't EVEN consider trying to get with a stripper.
With us, here is the deal. When it was my bachelor party, boosh and I talked. There were things I was allowed to do and things I was not. I followed the rules, which included telling her everything that happened. She did the same.
Now, on the rare occasion that I am exposed to a stripper I only watch, I don't participate. And if I do, it's for a brief time. And, it's gotten so that strippers don't do it for me anyway.
For other men, it's like this. Too much of something is no good. if your man is going frequently and getting lap dances, yeah that's a problem.
But for an event like a bachelor party that happens once in a blue moon, for a wife to disallow the husband to go, demonstrates a serious trust and insecurity problem. it's basically telling the guy, "I don't trust you enough not to be tempted into doing something physical with this girl."
IMO
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| Posted 8/11/05 5:27 PM |
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FeliciaDP
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Re: Bachelor Partys
Its pretty funny that those who are voting "ABSOLUTELY NOT" are not posting why
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| Posted 8/11/05 5:27 PM |
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MrsERod
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Re: Bachelor Partys
Posted by FeliciaDP
Its pretty funny that those who are voting "ABSOLUTELY NOT" are not posting why
hmmmmmmmmmm
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| Posted 8/11/05 5:28 PM |
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Moehick
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Re: Bachelor Partys
Posted by FeliciaDP
Its pretty funny that those who are voting "ABSOLUTELY NOT" are not posting why
Thats what I was thinking!
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| Posted 8/11/05 5:28 PM |
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Janice
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Re: Bachelor Partys
somebody please tell me it is okay that I don't respond!! I am an hour away from drinks and I just don't have the energy
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| Posted 8/11/05 5:28 PM |
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FeliciaDP
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Re: Bachelor Partys
Posted by Janice
somebody please tell me it is okay that I don't respond!! I am an hour away from drinks and I just don't have the energy
Its ok You and Don can duke it out another time , or we can just copy an old thread from LIWs about this topic 
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| Posted 8/11/05 5:29 PM |
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Moehick
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Re: Bachelor Partys
Posted by CaptainCharisma424
exactly, here's what most women don't realize
These women are paid performers. The only interest they have in men is our money. What they say and do is all part of the act. Any decent guy wouldn't EVEN consider trying to get with a stripper.
With us, here is the deal. When it was my bachelor party, boosh and I talked. There were things I was allowed to do and things I was not. I followed the rules, which included telling her everything that happened. She did the same.
Now, on the rare occasion that I am exposed to a stripper I only watch, I don't participate. And if I do, it's for a brief time. And, it's gotten so that strippers don't do it for me anyway.
For other men, it's like this. Too much of something is no good. if your man is going frequently and getting lap dances, yeah that's a problem.
But for an event like a bachelor party that happens once in a blue moon, for a wife to disallow the husband to go, demonstrates a serious trust and insecurity problem. it's basically telling the guy, "I don't trust you enough not to be tempted into doing something physical with this girl."
IMO
Well said...like if your DH was going to cheat it's least likely he will with a stripper....check out who he works with thats where most cheating goes on.
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| Posted 8/11/05 5:29 PM |
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Janice
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Re: Bachelor Partys
Posted by FeliciaDP
Its pretty funny that those who are voting "ABSOLUTELY NOT" are not posting why
I think it is because people automatically assume that the reason we say absolutely not is due to insecurities and I feel like that is not always the case
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| Posted 8/11/05 5:30 PM |
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MrsERod
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Re: Bachelor Partys
Posted by FeliciaDP
Posted by Janice
somebody please tell me it is okay that I don't respond!! I am an hour away from drinks and I just don't have the energy
Its ok You and Don can duke it out another time , or we can just copy an old thread from LIWs about this topic
unless it got pulled!!!
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| Posted 8/11/05 5:30 PM |
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Janice
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Re: Bachelor Partys
Posted by FeliciaDP
Posted by Janice
somebody please tell me it is okay that I don't respond!! I am an hour away from drinks and I just don't have the energy
Its ok You and Don can duke it out another time , or we can just copy an old thread from LIWs about this topic
that is fine!! paste and copy
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| Posted 8/11/05 5:30 PM |
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june262004
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Re: Bachelor Partys
Posted by CaptainCharisma424
exactly, here's what most women don't realize
These women are paid performers. The only interest they have in men is our money. What they say and do is all part of the act. Any decent guy wouldn't EVEN consider trying to get with a stripper.
With us, here is the deal. When it was my bachelor party, boosh and I talked. There were things I was allowed to do and things I was not. I followed the rules, which included telling her everything that happened. She did the same.
Now, on the rare occasion that I am exposed to a stripper I only watch, I don't participate. And if I do, it's for a brief time. And, it's gotten so that strippers don't do it for me anyway.
For other men, it's like this. Too much of something is no good. if your man is going frequently and getting lap dances, yeah that's a problem.
But for an event like a bachelor party that happens once in a blue moon, for a wife to disallow the husband to go, demonstrates a serious trust and insecurity problem. it's basically telling the guy, "I don't trust you enough not to be tempted into doing something physical with this girl."
IMO
EXACTLY!!!!!!!!!  This is how Mike and I feel.
He thinks strippers are nasty and would never be with one if she wanted to be with him. Besides the fact thats its cheating his feeling is who knows what they have
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Marcie
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Re: Bachelor Partys
Posted by FeliciaDP
Posted by Marcie
He can go - I have no problems with it.
I also know that my DH hates going to bachelor parties with strippers (I think he is the minority! )
Well my DH also gets NOTHING out of strippers or that sort of thing, so I guess both our hubbies are in the minority
That said - am I THRILLED when I hear that my DH might be at a party with strippers? well NO, not particuarly. But do I care/would I prevent him from going? Again- NO
What I DON"T agree with (and many of you may disagree with my feelings) is the "private parties' in hotel rooms and such, where strippers are hired as entertainment I dont mind strip clubs because there are some rules and limitations to what goes on, but the private stripper thingy is BAD NEWS (IMO) I've heard TOO many stories and its just not something I'd really like my husband to be a part of, IF I had the choice (which I don't , since he can choose what he wants to do)
AND NO it has nothing to do with trust, I trust my DH completely .. its just sleazy is all
I agree completely with this!!!
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FeliciaDP
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Re: Bachelor Partys
Posted by Janice
Posted by FeliciaDP
Posted by Janice
somebody please tell me it is okay that I don't respond!! I am an hour away from drinks and I just don't have the energy
Its ok You and Don can duke it out another time , or we can just copy an old thread from LIWs about this topic
that is fine!! paste and copy
Here ya go!!!!!!!!!
http://www.liweddings.com/chat/topic.aspx?ID=195825&P=4
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| Posted 8/11/05 5:32 PM |
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MrsERod
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Re: Bachelor Partys
Posted by june262004
Posted by CaptainCharisma424
exactly, here's what most women don't realize
These women are paid performers. The only interest they have in men is our money. What they say and do is all part of the act. Any decent guy wouldn't EVEN consider trying to get with a stripper.
With us, here is the deal. When it was my bachelor party, boosh and I talked. There were things I was allowed to do and things I was not. I followed the rules, which included telling her everything that happened. She did the same.
Now, on the rare occasion that I am exposed to a stripper I only watch, I don't participate. And if I do, it's for a brief time. And, it's gotten so that strippers don't do it for me anyway.
For other men, it's like this. Too much of something is no good. if your man is going frequently and getting lap dances, yeah that's a problem.
But for an event like a bachelor party that happens once in a blue moon, for a wife to disallow the husband to go, demonstrates a serious trust and insecurity problem. it's basically telling the guy, "I don't trust you enough not to be tempted into doing something physical with this girl."
IMO
EXACTLY!!!!!!!!! This is how Mike and I feel.
He thinks strippers are nasty and would never be with one if she wanted to be with him. Besides the fact thats its cheating his feeling is who knows what they have
uh oh juney...watch out...you never know if there's an ex-stripper on here you just offended?? 
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| Posted 8/11/05 5:32 PM |
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Janice
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Re: Bachelor Partys
Posted by FeliciaDP
Posted by Janice
Posted by FeliciaDP
Posted by Janice
somebody please tell me it is okay that I don't respond!! I am an hour away from drinks and I just don't have the energy
Its ok You and Don can duke it out another time , or we can just copy an old thread from LIWs about this topic
that is fine!! paste and copy
Here ya go!!!!!!!!!
http://www.liweddings.com/chat/topic.aspx?ID=195825&P=4
OMG let the fun begin
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| Posted 8/11/05 5:32 PM |
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ggt08
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Re: Bachelor Partys
When I first started bartending, I bartended a bachelor party. There was a stripper and although most of the guys watched her little "show" with the groom to be, most of them just stood by the bar and hung out. Now if I was the groom to be's wife, I wouldnt have been so happy with what he participated in but the guys there really could care less about her. Its all for show.. He11 I even watched!! :)
Things DO get out of hand at bachelor parties though but its usually the axxhole loser guys that are the ones participating in the "games" that are out of control...
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june262004
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Re: Bachelor Partys
Posted by MrsERod
Posted by june262004
Posted by CaptainCharisma424
exactly, here's what most women don't realize
These women are paid performers. The only interest they have in men is our money. What they say and do is all part of the act. Any decent guy wouldn't EVEN consider trying to get with a stripper.
With us, here is the deal. When it was my bachelor party, boosh and I talked. There were things I was allowed to do and things I was not. I followed the rules, which included telling her everything that happened. She did the same.
Now, on the rare occasion that I am exposed to a stripper I only watch, I don't participate. And if I do, it's for a brief time. And, it's gotten so that strippers don't do it for me anyway.
For other men, it's like this. Too much of something is no good. if your man is going frequently and getting lap dances, yeah that's a problem.
But for an event like a bachelor party that happens once in a blue moon, for a wife to disallow the husband to go, demonstrates a serious trust and insecurity problem. it's basically telling the guy, "I don't trust you enough not to be tempted into doing something physical with this girl."
IMO
EXACTLY!!!!!!!!! This is how Mike and I feel.
He thinks strippers are nasty and would never be with one if she wanted to be with him. Besides the fact thats its cheating his feeling is who knows what they have
uh oh juney...watch out...you never know if there's an ex-stripper on here you just offended??
Did I say they were nasty. NO I don't think they are however some of the ones who would actually sleep with guys for money COULD BE!
i know strippers got no problem with them its a job!
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| Posted 8/11/05 5:35 PM |
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MrsERod
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Re: Bachelor Partys
Posted by kdelace
When I first started bartending, I bartended a bachelor party. There was a stripper and although most of the guys watched her little "show" with the groom to be, most of them just stood by the bar and hung out. Now if I was the groom to be's wife, I wouldnt have been so happy with what he participated in but the guys there really could care less about her. Its all for show.. He11 I even watched!! :)
Things DO get out of hand at bachelor parties though but its usually the axxhole loser guys that are the ones participating in the "games" that are out of control...
sooo true...i've heard some reaaaallly wicked stories!!
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Moehick
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Re: Bachelor Partys
Well sleeping with them for $$ would be hookers which I think no one agrees with.....lets stick to the stripper thing
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| Posted 8/11/05 5:36 PM |
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ggt08
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Re: Bachelor Partys
Posted by MrsERod
Posted by kdelace
When I first started bartending, I bartended a bachelor party. There was a stripper and although most of the guys watched her little "show" with the groom to be, most of them just stood by the bar and hung out. Now if I was the groom to be's wife, I wouldnt have been so happy with what he participated in but the guys there really could care less about her. Its all for show.. He11 I even watched!! :)
Things DO get out of hand at bachelor parties though but its usually the axxhole loser guys that are the ones participating in the "games" that are out of control...
sooo true...i've heard some reaaaallly wicked stories!!
I know.. I am not going to go THERE though... some of you might change your mind about letting your DH go!! (just kidding!)
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| Posted 8/11/05 5:37 PM |
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MrsERod
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Re: Bachelor Partys
kristi!!
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