back with godmother poll...my sisters

So I have 4 great sisters. They are all unmarried, no kids, and younger then me. I am tempted to pick a name out of a hat. I wish I had 4 kids so that each one of them will get a godchild, but we are only having 2. All have been confirmed, some frequent church more then others, but we all have the same beliefs.

Who would you pick? (I live in NC, so none of them will be local)

Karen(age 26) the spiritual choice. Karen lives in Philly, in a convent. Yes she is a nun in training...so that should be my first pick right? The only thing is her time off is very limited.

Tammy(age 23) Loving life one.
Tammy graduated from Boston Univ. with poli sci degree, then decided to become a forrest ranger. She lives with her boyfriend currently in a rain forrest in Washington State. She spends her Christmas in Hawaii each year(3 weeks camping on some beach). She is coming to Charlotte in Dec. to see if the Appalacian's interest them, they want to be close to the baby. Her church time is limited.

Coleen(age 19) sister most like me.
She lives in Staten Island, goes to Hunter. Wants to spend summers and winter breaks with us. very much into the baby and me being pregnant. All around good girl. she will be 20 in dec, waiting till she's married, never drank..goes to church on Sundays. She currently has a godchild(my little cousin)

Irene(age 18) going to UNC Asheville.
Irene is the youngest. We will probably see the most of her. She is going to live 2 hours away from us when she is in school. She goes to church, not every week though.

TIA! sorry so long, and boring...
just want a view as to who you would pick.

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i would go with the oldest, just b/c she is the oldest. its senority rules here. and she seems the most stable. good luck

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really the oldest? even with her limited time off and vow of poverty? I know she will be a good penpal to the baby.

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i'm so smart

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yep, the oldest.

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I voted for your oldest sister, only because a godparent is a spiritual guider.. You gave life to your child, a godparent gives spiritual guidance. Just something to think about.

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Just hypothetically... if you didn't have 4 sisters, who would you pick.

I'm sorry if I'm making this harder for you, I'm just wondering.

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Posted by Janice

really the oldest? even with her limited time off and vow of poverty? I know she will be a good penpal to the baby.

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Its tough, and I agree to a point about going with your oldest sister (who obviously will spiritually guide your child well due to her own lifestyle )

But the one that stood out to me is Colleen, because you said she is'closest' to you (or most like you). And seems very into you being pregnant. It also seems like she will have the most involvement with your child overall... I think that is just as important part of being a godparent, being INVOLED and seeing the child, even moreso than spiritually guiding them (which you and Leo can do yourselvs really on a day to day basis)

JMO

Message edited 7/27/2006 1:10:06 PM.

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Karen was my MOH. Coleen was shocked by this. Coleen was only 15 at the time. Coleen was my shadow my entire life. We are the most alike. Our values and way of thinking are very similiar. We look a lot like each other too. She thought she should have been MOH.

I think I am most distant to Karen, the oldest. Only because we hung out with different groups in HS. She left for college years ago, and never returned home. Since I lived at home the past 4 years, I lived with Coleen and Irene.

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Posted by FeliciaDP

Its tough, and I agree to a point about going with your oldest sister (who obviously will spiritually guide your child well due to her own lifestyle )

But the one that stood out to me is Colleen, because you said she is'closest' to you and is very into you being pregnant, and it seems like she will have the most involvement with your child overall... I think that is just as important part of being a godparent, being INVOLED and seeing the child, even moreso than spiritually guiding them (which you and Leo can do yourselvs really on a day to day basis)

JMO

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no votes for Tammy Leo doesn't see her as godmother material either.

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Yeah, Col seems like she is moving up. I wanted to type it out, so I can really see what I am saying. I just wish Col and Irene weren't best friends.

Irene is great, loves kids, and is so happy UNC gave her a scholarship so that she will be close to the baby. That was a big deciding factor in her going to UNC.

Leo loves Col and Irene. He thinks col is a mini me and Irene is just great person who feeds the homeless and started a coat drive in school. Col is nice, but she isn't all about saving the world like Irene is.

oh man, does anyone have a hat???

also with the nun...she obviously will not have kids of her own, that is why I kind of feel like she will want a special bond with mine.

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I also come from a background where your maid of honor and best man are godparents to your first child. They must be baptised christian or my church will not allow it.

Anyway, I picked Karen based on that and the fact that, as I understand it, the role of a godparent is to make sure that your child has spiritual guidance in the event that something happens to you and your DH.

This doesn't mean they automatically get custody but, they would be responsible for making sure that your child is brought up with church. This also doesn't mean that this will prevent your child's favorite aunt from being Colleen. (which I think is probable!!)

This is definitely a tough decision, and I thought having 2 sisters was difficult.
HTH

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Honestly...I would chose my sister who is going to maybe be a nun (since not all finish training)..my reason is that she will most likely never have her own children and this would probably mean the most to her with her religious beliefs.

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I think definitely Coleen. You're closest to her. The reasons you have for the oldest one seem valid, but not as meaningful. I would then have the one in college close by for the next baby. I would think Coleen would be very hurt if you had the youngest. You have more and better reasons for picking Coleen.

Good luck!

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I think I would go with Coleen, she is most like you and it seems you and her are very close.

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thanks guys! so coleen vs. Karen. much more narrowed down.

None of them will give me a problem to my face. Irene really wants it, but she thinks Karen would be good.

Karen thinks Tammy would be good.

They are jealous of coleen since she has one already.

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Let me just take a stab at your ethnicity here....Irish

I would say Tammy or Irene. Karen's time is too limited and Colleen already has a Godchild...so let's give the other girls a chance.

Either way, they will all be aunts to your baby and will all love and cherish him/her. You really can't go wrong with no matter what you choose.

ETS: wow, now that I just read everyone elses's post, looks like I played devil's advocate without even realizing it

Message edited 7/27/2006 1:43:33 PM.

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