Bedroom question with second child...

Ok, we have a three bedroom colonial and two of the bedrooms are enormous and one bedroom is teeny. Ava currently resides in the teeny room because the big room is a guest room as of right now. We've asked her if she would like to move to the big room if she ever has a brother or sister and she absolutely does not want to change rooms. I feel a little weird about giving that huge room to the new baby, though. I really think she would love the huge room for her toys and what not. we don't know what to do. Switch her anyway, or give the baby the big room

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If she likes her room and doesn't want to switch I would keep her in there and give the baby the bigger room.

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Id switch it soon way before the baby comes so she doesnt feel any resentment towards the new baby. She may not like it at first but she will love it after awhile.

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I'd give her a few more months and ask again - but if you're giving her the choice, I guess you have to let her decide, KWIM? Hopefully she'll realize she's insane and takes the bigger room

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What about sharing the big room and making the small room a play room? Or if there is enough room in the small room, having them share that room and have the big room as a play room?

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If she really likes her room, I would keep her there for now. We have a 3 bedroom house and what we are doing is keeping DS in his (smaller) room, we are moving to the guest room and the baby will have the biggest room which will double as a guest room (we are going to leave the queen bed set up with night stand, etc) Then eventually they may share that room down the road, but I wasn't looking to make too many changes to DSs room situation at the same time

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I would put her toys in the bigger room and get her used to playing in that room. Then throw her the idea of just adding her furniture to the room and have her help redecorate it. She might go for it!!

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we had the same dilemma in my house. My DD really wanted to keep her room so my DS has the bigger room.

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My oldest dc still has the smallest room in the house at 5 yrs old. If it makes her happy, let her keep it.

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why dont you try seeing if she wants to help "decorate"her room and pick out colors and bedding.. maybe that will make her feel like it is a wonderful thing to be in her new room that she picked out

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DS is staying in the small room and DD will be getting the big room. i wrestled back and forth with the decision but decided not to change his whole life by moving his room. it's nice you can actually ask your daughter what she wants--i have to guess since DS is only 16 months

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you may want to the bigger room for a nursery since there will be more happening in there besides just sleeping, kwim? Then there'd be room for you for feedings, changings, etc. but then again maybe she'll come to her senses and want the big room b4 you get too far along We didn't actually give Ellie a choice, just made our big guest room the big girl room.

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I think the bigger room will work better for her - and will make her feel more special when the baby comes out - I would present it as something really special for a big girl and tell her that she can pick the colors for the walls and a new bedspread or something like that - we built it up for WEEKS with Alex so she was super excited to decorate her new room

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Personally, I would not rock the boat. They could always switch later, and at some point they will both have alot of toys anyway. I would opt to keep her happy.

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I'm leaning towards just leaving her in her room because she does so poorly with change. I think moving her to a new room would be really upsetting for her. But on the other hand, she really could use the extra room. I mean, I can still put some of her toys in the nursery, there's no saying I can't. Also, i don't think a glider would fit in the smaller room, so again, I think I'm leaning towards leaving her where she is.