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sourpatchkids
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Birthdays in School
Are you allowed to go into your DC's class to celebrate his/her birthday? My DD's teacher does not want birthday treats sent in due to allergies. I totally get it and am sympathetic to that. But when I asked if I could just come in and maybe read a book at the end of the day on her bday, she said parents are not allowed in on birthdays because of "demands of the curriculum". It's first grade!! I'm just sad because my time as a SAHM is coming to an end, and this will most likely be the last year I'd be able to visit her in her classroom on her bday. Am I being too sensitive/crazy?
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Posted 9/10/17 9:47 AM  |
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KarenK122
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It's up to the teacher. We had one teacher when DD was in 1st that did NOTHING for anything. Did not participate in any holiday celebrations or birthday parties. She had a host of excuses, allergies, curriculum, parents divorces (why she would participate in mother's day tea), etc., but it basically was all because she didn't want to be bothered doing anything outside the norm. There is really nothing you can do about it.
I am all for supporting no snacks for bdays if there are allergy kids in the room but a craft or book reading should be allowed. Do one day a month for all birthdays and invite the parent in then - less intrusive. As DD is older now (5th Grade) they are allowed to bring in certain food items from an approved list for bdays and they eat it during snack time. No parents after 3rd Grade in our schools.
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| Posted 9/10/17 10:02 AM |
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MrsT809
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Dd is in kindergarten and I believe parents can come in for a quick book or activity, same as last year in prek. They do no food for any celebrations.
Honestly, even if we couldn't I don't think it would bother me. As long as they acknowledge the kid's birthday somehow (a birthday crown and singing for example) I think that's plenty.
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| Posted 9/10/17 10:19 AM |
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muffaboo
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Re: Birthdays in School
In my school, parents are not allowed to send in any food (as part of the District's Wellness Policy). However, parents are invited in to do a craft with the kids and/or read a book. Some parents even bring in goodie bags with non-food items.
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| Posted 9/10/17 11:03 AM |
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itsagoodlife
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It is not up to the teacher normally. It is an administrative decision in my experience. I am a teacher to and we are not permitted to have parents in the classroom during the school day for any reason. The demands of the curriculum ARE intense and leave little "wiggle" room. Times have changed drastically. When one of my students has a birthday, they get to wear a birthday crown… That's about it. Unfortunately it's not my decision. I'm at the mercy of my principal and New York State.
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| Posted 9/10/17 3:27 PM |
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It would never even cross my mind to go into my child's first grade classroom for her birthday. We celebrate at home.
I would hope most teachers would not allow this, as most parents would not be able to take a day off of work to come in (myself included). I would hate for my child to feel slighted when it's not necessary. I feel bad enough missing so many things.
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| Posted 9/10/17 3:45 PM |
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BargainMama
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We were allowed in up until 4th grade.
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| Posted 9/10/17 5:41 PM |
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pnbplus1
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It would never even cross my mind to go into my child's first grade classroom for her birthday. We celebrate at home.
I would hope most teachers would not allow this, as most parents would not be able to take a day off of work to come in (myself included). I would hate for my child to feel slighted when it's not necessary. I feel bad enough missing so many things.
This is really relative to where you live. Where I live, the great majority of households have at least one SAH parent, either mom or dad, so participating in the classroom is something that parents here expect.
We are allowed to visit our children during their lunch period, grades K-8. Last year when my son was in 1st, I brought in a treat for his class, store bought and that no one was allergic to, and joined him and his class for their snack time. They had 10 minutes for snack. I went, they had their treat, we sang HBday, and it was done. I do think though that diff teachers had different policies. For 2nd I can send in a treat but don't plan on visiting classroom. We do however have several opportunities during the year to be in the classroom.
ETA: I love being able to go into the classroom and have come to expect it. My son is still young and given that I send him somewhere away from me 6.5 hours a day, I want to see where he is and what it's like. I want to see how the teacher handles the kids, her teaching style, how she manages her classroom ,etc.
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| Posted 9/10/17 6:21 PM |
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ali120206
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Our district doesn't allow parents to come in on birthdays either. And no Birthday treats. The principal calls them to the office to get a pencil and the teachers do special things in the classroom for them.
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| Posted 9/11/17 6:21 AM |
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EricaAlt
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For DS's birthday since kindergarten I have been allowed to come into school and read a book to the class. I also have given out small treats for the kids. No food, but pencils are good, stickers, etc.
DS's birthday is around Memorial Day weekend so I usually find a fun summer book or a family vacation book to read to the class and give something out that has to do with the book. Last year in 2nd grade I read a book about a family going on a beach vacation and gave away little beach balls to the kids.
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| Posted 9/11/17 7:37 AM |
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Sash
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In both school my son attended, they have a strict policy of no adults or parents in the building during school hours. So I've never celebrated with him, I couldn't now because i work full time.
Never phased me, since we celebrate at home. I am allowed to bring in cupcakes and juices for the kids to celebrate with him.
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| Posted 9/11/17 8:26 AM |
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NervousNell
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We can send in treats. I have sent in cupcakes from Stop and Shop (the ones that are from a nut free plant) and munchkins.
I always email the teacher first to see if it's ok and if there are any allerigies in the class
I am not sure what their policy is on having the parent come in to read or do a craft instead.
They do have surprise reader days that you can sign up for on open school night but those are set days, not birthdays.
I never asked because I work full time, so I just send in the treat. DD's birthday is usually the last day or the last week of school, so i am sure it's hectic there anyway
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| Posted 9/11/17 11:19 AM |
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Dolphinsbaby
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My twins are now in 1st grade. Last year both teachers (different classrooms) combined the classrooms and we had a party at the end of the day for both.
I planned on taking off for their birthday this year and having a little class party. I will be so bummed if the teachers don't allow it.
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| Posted 9/11/17 11:27 AM |
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pumpkinmom
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We can send in a special snack, but parents aren't allowed in.
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| Posted 9/11/17 1:39 PM |
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JandJ1224
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In our school parents don't go in for birthdays. No food is allowed either. They are allowed non food goody bags, which I usually don't bother with. This year for my 4th grader we bought squishes and she handed them out. She said the kids loved them.
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| Posted 9/11/17 1:56 PM |
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lululu
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I prefer it when parents are not allowed in. Even in a community where there are a lot of stay at home parents there are always going to be some dual working parents and those kids are left out.
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MissJones
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In my school, parents go in only for kindergarten. We actually requested no parents in first grade because a simple 15 minute party would go on for almost an hour when the parents came and we just don't have that kind of time. For my son's school, I just sent in prepackaged snacks and gave the teacher a book instead of goody bags. Easy peasy.
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| Posted 9/12/17 5:46 AM |
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M514
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I think it depends on the teacher in my school, but I'm fine with just sending in a special snack. I don't really see the need to go in.
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| Posted 9/12/17 7:45 AM |
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b2b777
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I actually prefer that the parents arent allowed in, not just bc some kids will feel left out, but also because i dont know all of these parents and dont love the idea of my child being in the room with god knows who at any given time. This is why I chose not to put my child into a cooperative nursery school. I think having the same teacher each and every day, and not a revolving door of adults in and out of the room is safer.
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NervousNell
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I thought of this thread last night at meet the teacher night.
DD's teacher brought up birthdays and said we are free to send in a treat and if we want to come in to deliver the treat or read a book or something for about 15 -20 minutes we can, just let her know ahead of time
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| Posted 9/13/17 10:03 AM |
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Dolphinsbaby
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Re: Birthdays in School
Posted by NervousNell
I thought of this thread last night at meet the teacher night.
DD's teacher brought up birthdays and said we are free to send in a treat and if we want to come in to deliver the treat or read a book or something for about 15 -20 minutes we can, just let her know ahead of time
Haha. same. Yes, their teachers said I could come if I wanted. They said if not, totally ok (lots of parents can't come) and they would have a small party for 15-20 min. sing happy birthday and I could bring a nut free treat for the class if I wanted. I already took the day off work!
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| Posted 9/13/17 11:27 AM |
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BargainMama
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Re: Birthdays in School
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I actually prefer that the parents arent allowed in, not just bc some kids will feel left out, but also because i dont know all of these parents and dont love the idea of my child being in the room with god knows who at any given time. This is why I chose not to put my child into a cooperative nursery school. I think having the same teacher each and every day, and not a revolving door of adults in and out of the room is safer.
This is silly. The children aren't alone with the parent in the room. Class moms go into the classroom with the students, same difference.
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| Posted 9/13/17 11:54 AM |
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b2b777
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Re: Birthdays in School
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Posted by b2b777
I actually prefer that the parents arent allowed in, not just bc some kids will feel left out, but also because i dont know all of these parents and dont love the idea of my child being in the room with god knows who at any given time. This is why I chose not to put my child into a cooperative nursery school. I think having the same teacher each and every day, and not a revolving door of adults in and out of the room is safer.
This is silly. The children aren't alone with the parent in the room. Class moms go into the classroom with the students, same difference.
To each their own. A class mom is one thing but 25 different parents on any given day teaching my kid doesnt work for me.
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| Posted 9/13/17 8:02 PM |
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BargainMama
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Re: Birthdays in School
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Posted by b2b777
I actually prefer that the parents arent allowed in, not just bc some kids will feel left out, but also because i dont know all of these parents and dont love the idea of my child being in the room with god knows who at any given time. This is why I chose not to put my child into a cooperative nursery school. I think having the same teacher each and every day, and not a revolving door of adults in and out of the room is safer.
This is silly. The children aren't alone with the parent in the room. Class moms go into the classroom with the students, same difference.
To each their own. A class mom is one thing but 25 different parents on any given day teaching my kid doesnt work for me.
No different. The class parents aren't finger printed and background checked. And they aren't teaching your kid. They are reading a book or passing out goody bags  and just to be clear, I'm talking about birthday parties in the classroom, not the cooperative preschool...no clue about those!
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Adri
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When I went to celebrate DS's birthdays it was for about 15 minutes, but only passing cupcakes and singing happy birthday. In PreK and K we got to go to read a book and do and activity, but that was different from their birthdays, it was more like a "student of the week" thing.
When DS got to 3rd grade, his teacher requested no birthdays celebration because of a tight schedule and we respected that. We got to do it again in 4th grade and by 5th DS didn't want us there anymore
We just go with the flow and whatever the teachers feel is more convenient for the dynamic of their class. At the end, we get to celebrate DS at home whichever way he wants.
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