Breast feeding baby #3

Hi..I had my baby sat feb 11...baby boy....my 3rd c section..what a scary nightmare..it was scheduled but oh my god for some reason I just was beyond terrified ..I freaked out bad real bad with this one ..I was carrying on like a lunatic ..lol..now I can laugh at myself..but on sat I was not laughing....the recovery is pretty bad..oh well ..anyway..please make me not feel bad about not nursing I just can't I did in the hospital...I did at home a little that is only because my mother was here entertaining my 4 year old and 16 month old..but I really don't think I will be able to nurse..once my mother goes home..please tell me it's not the end of the world if I not nurse"thanks

Re: Breast feeding baby #3

Congratulations!!!!!!

Don't worry about not bf. Your baby will do just fine on formula. Don't let anyone let you feel different. You do what is best for you and your family and not what others say.

Re: Breast feeding baby #3

Congratulations, first of all. And as far as BFing you do what you need to. I have 3 as well and will tell you I felt like it was nearly impossible to BF #3 with the middle guy around. It practically broke me but now he's 7 mos old and we're still EBF and it's totally fine so i think if you want to do it you'll make it work just hang in there. Kids are adaptable. But if you want to give up don't beat yourself up about it. Whatever you gave him is better than nothing. And plenty of children thrive on formula

It is tough taking care of 3 PERIOD. The BFing may be doing you in but it may also just be that taking care of 3 is completely and utterly overwhelming. Especially in the beginning so be kind to yourself. Just get through the day and little by little it will get easier. No one can imagine how tough it is unless they too have 3 or more.

Best of luck and lean on people or LIF when you need to

My cousin was really funny about the whole BFing #3 thing b/c I was where you are and I asked her how did you do it. She said look I figured BFing was the only real attn #3 got from me that was undivided. Had I not done it then DC #3 would've just been like an accessory I carried around from place to place for DC #1 and 2 ( in the carrier). Like a handbag. I laughed so hard at the truth in that that I stuck with it, lol.

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Congrats! After I had ds 2- c section also, I pumped until he was 10 days old then stopped. I didn't want to take away ANY time or energy from my older Son, and my new baby. Getting rest, recovering, and getting the 2 siblings to bond is way more important those first few days, weeks, and months. Good luck to you! I never regretted NOT pumping for ds 2. I totally regret pumping for DS1 as spent a lot of time and energy, and see no benefit at all.

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I agree with the above poster. I really didn't pump much at all with DC #3 b/c there is no time. I pumped alot with DC #1 b/c I could. It was just not realistic with 3 but the BFing did end up working so we EBF for now anyway

Re: Breast feeding baby #3

Congratulations!!!

Hang in there. You have to make the decision you feel best benefits you and your family as a whole.

I never thought I'd be able to EBF twins while taking care of my 3 year old DS but we are 10 months in and I'm grateful I stuck with it.

The cost of formula alone scared me into sticking with BFing.

Certainly was no easy task in the beginning and I had originally set my short term goal for 3 months. It came and went and here we are at 10 months.

Don't feel guilty regardless of your decision as long as you are happy and your DC are happy!!

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I did not BF DS #1 and I was determined to do it for DS #2. They were 18 months apart so I remember days where DS #1 would literally be climbing to the top of the kitchen table while I was trying to pump or nurse DS #2.



Anyway, I set short term goals for myself and told myself that it did NOT have to be all or nothing... meaning I supplemented here and there with formula from the beginning. eta: I ended up making it a YEAR, which totally shocked me!

Maybe try supplementing to give yourself a break?

I will say that I see NO medical difference as far as the amount they get sick, # ear infections, etc. between the BF child and the FF one.

Happy Mom = Happy Family

Message edited 2/15/2012 7:20:40 PM.

Re: Breast feeding baby #3

I nursed DD#1 for 21 months, so I felt an incredible amount of pressure to do the same for DD#2. It was so hard when i first came home bc DD#1 was so jealous and it broke my heart to take that time away from her, especially bc we were inseparable before I had DD#2. Every day I say I am not dong this for a long time, but here we are at almost 5 months and still going strong! I have hit nothing but obstacles, and so many people telling me to stop, but I am keeping it up as best as I can. DD#1 has adjusted to it, and yeah, sometimes it can be a little tedious and time consuming, but it is worth it, IMO. Do what is best for you and your family, but it is totally possible to BF when you have older DC'S.