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Can I crash to ask you guys a serious and potentially morbid question
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dpli
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Re: Can I crash to ask you guys a serious and potentially morbid question
Posted by CkGm
I would never pick a guardian who was terrible to me.
ITA.
We have chosen my sister (but have yet to actually ask her  ) There are other choices for us that might be more financially stable, but what it boiled down to for me was that she parents most like the way I think I will (she has two great kids of her own) and more importantly to me, I really believe that she will treat DS as her own if something happens to us, not as the nephew whose parents died. Luckily, DH agrees.
One of the things I know my sister does with her children is tell them stories about their grandparents (my parents) who are no longer living. I know she would tell DS about us and try to give him wonderful memories of us.
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Re: Can I crash to ask you guys a serious and potentially morbid question
I wouldn't do it if I were in the same situation...
Your child is your legacy... I want someone who will raise our child like we would have, and teach/remind them what their parents were like and speak of us often.
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rojerono
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Re: Can I crash to ask you guys a serious and potentially morbid question
Rob and I had a similar issue.
If something were to happen to us, our sons will be under the legal guardianship of my best friend and her husband. All family will have liberal visitation and I trust her enough that she will make certain that those boys get a little bit of everyone.
Both families are aware of this decision and I am certain some people are pizzed - but for us the choice was extremely important and carefully deliberated.
The decision was based on who will be able to financially and emotionally shoulder the burden of 2 children. And of those capable - who truly respects and loves both Rob AND myself enough to give our children the limitless supply of love and honor necessary to raise good men. Only 2 couples completely fit the bill. Neither happen to have any blood in common.
If your SIL doesn't like you - I would be afraid that it would show in the way she remembered you to your children. Although she might treat your child well - disdaining the memory of a child's mother is harmful to that child. I remember my godmother saying something very mildly negative about my mother when I was little. She said that my mother (who was a platinum blonde) looked 'almost freakish' because she was so pale and light when she was young. I was DEVASTATED. She didn't even mean it as an insult - but it hurt me desperately.
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