Can we talk about old friends who FB friend you and the reason you are no longer friends is due to a fight?

Why do these people friend you?
Someone that I haven't spoken to in 15 years sent me a message and friended me. There was no apology from our fight or mention of it. She was curious about my life. Would you accept the invite? Honestly, it was 15 years ago and I can't hold grudges for that long but I don't care to be friend again.

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I'm on the other end. I was being a bigger person and hoping that things had changed in the decade that I hadn't talked to him. I was friendly, and he was the same miserable b@stard he was 10 years ago.

We are two people of a much larger group of old friends so I thought it would be best to play nice. He didn't agree. At least I can say I tried.

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15 yrs ago would make me a child...so I would probably, honestly forget why we lost touch.

I have a bad memory...if it wasn't some huge blow out the friend may be foggy and chalk it up to growing up, apart whatever..

If it was a serious fight, perhaps it is just an olive branch, you can accept or decline.

I have a "friend" from HS who I stopped talking to, did terrible things to me and my friends (seemed terrible at that time...looking back she was a gossip and a little bit of a tramp ) she requested and I accepted....I had no ill will towards her after 10 yrs KWIM?

There are a cple people I might at though..it depends...

Re: Can we talk about old friends who FB friend you and the reason you are no longer friends is due to a fight?

It's so long ago that it probably wouldnt mean much to me anymore (although I guess it depends on what they did). I only have one person that I would decline because of a falling out several years ago.

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So much depends on the person and the reason for the fight. I was really happy to find out from FB that someone I had an argument with when I was 16 holds no grudge and has actually thought of me in a good way over the years. I realized that the only reason I held any sort of grudge was because I didn't want to feel hurt if the person was still mad at me. That type of situation is where FB can do a world of good!

On the other hand, there is someone I had an argument with when we were both already adults. I doubt that person really even holds a grudge but I know that they would still behave in the same way that caused the argument so they are blocked.

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This happened to a very close college friend. We are now FB friends - we have both grown up, and are in different places in our lives. The fight was juvenile college stuff. We are now in our late 30's. We get along nicely again....

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For me, I think it would depend on the person.

If I thought they genuinely wanted to reconnect and share stories we missed about each others lives in the past 15 years, then yes I would go ahead and 'friend' the person.

However.... if I thought they just wanted to 'reconnect' because they were nosey and were just curious about me, then no I would not

Re: Can we talk about old friends who FB friend you and the reason you are no longer friends is due to a fight?

My best friend from high school was sleeping with my boyfriend when we were freshmen in college. Shes my FB friend now, and I don't care anymore because hes a total loser and shes GROSS!