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DebG
Pick a cause & stand up for it
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The cure IS worse!
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Cheating...would you leave?
If you found out your dh or so cheated would you leave?
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Posted 5/27/05 8:57 PM  |
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suvenR
designer mutt
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Re: Cheating...would you leave?
yes, without a doubt
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| Posted 5/27/05 8:59 PM |
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dm24angel
Happiness
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Donna
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Re: Cheating...would you leave?
I can honestly say I dont know. I think it would depend on the situation and how long we had been together, if we had kids etc.
If it were say tommorow, then YES.
15 years from now, I dont know.
I would always say yes I would go to these questions, till I saw some many people stay and thought about why, and then I realized I would have to say I have never been in that position so I just dont know.
also by cheating, I mean sex.
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| Posted 5/27/05 8:59 PM |
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Moehick
Ready for the sun!
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Re: Cheating...would you leave?
So this is where you ran off to
I would have to say I would probably leave him...it would be very difficult and I can't say 100% what I would do in the situation but I am pretty hot tempered and would never be able to forget!
Hope it never happens!
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| Posted 5/27/05 9:02 PM |
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sunny
Life is good!
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Stephanie
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Re: Cheating...would you leave?
I have always said that I would leave, because even if I tried to stay and forgive I just don't think I could and it would kill us in the long run anyway.
That being said, I agree with dm24angel.
It depends on so many factors, and I think you just can't know until you are in that position.
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| Posted 5/27/05 9:03 PM |
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Spot012905
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jennifer
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Re: Cheating...would you leave?
yes i would leave. I would not even wait to think about this.
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| Posted 5/27/05 9:09 PM |
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Diane
Hope is Contagious....catch it
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Re: Cheating...would you leave?
I would leave
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| Posted 5/27/05 9:14 PM |
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annieg
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Re: Cheating...would you leave?
Yes I would leave - no matter what. And, I consider "cheating" to be less than sex. If my DH was "intimate" with another woman in ANY way - it would be over for us and he is well aware of this! I just couldn't ever trust him again. And, I would no longer feel like he was the "one" for me.
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| Posted 5/27/05 9:27 PM |
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lvdolphins
My Loves!
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Re: Cheating...would you leave?
Yes, I would leave.
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| Posted 5/27/05 9:30 PM |
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luvsbob4603
To a healthy 2013
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To a brand new year to a healthier me
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Re: Cheating...would you leave?
Yes I would leave because the trust would be gone too and i could not look at him the same.
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| Posted 5/27/05 9:31 PM |
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june262004
But I love the Snow!
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Re: Cheating...would you leave?
I can't say yes because Sh!t happens. Thank god this never happened!
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| Posted 5/27/05 9:40 PM |
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Tany
Becoming a different woman
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Tania
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Re: Cheating...would you leave?
I say I would but I have a daughter so I would have to think twice about it.
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| Posted 5/27/05 9:43 PM |
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janet
WITH LOVE MY ANGEL MISS YOU!!!
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Re: Cheating...would you leave?
i would have to leave with out a second thought! but if i did not have my daughter i don't know then, it would take along time and one of us would have to move out for a while and try to start over i guess
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| Posted 5/27/05 9:45 PM |
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june262004
But I love the Snow!
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Re: Cheating...would you leave?
Posted by Aliasmom
I say I would but I have a daughter so I would have to think twice about it.
But I don't think people should stay together for kids. JMHO I don't have kids so maybe I should keep my mouth shut 
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| Posted 5/27/05 9:46 PM |
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KPsquared
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Re: Cheating...would you leave?
His clothes and crap would be at the curb so fast! I don't know how women stay with men that have cheated on them.
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| Posted 5/27/05 9:50 PM |
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dm24angel
Happiness
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Re: Cheating...would you leave?
Posted by KimPetro
His clothes and crap would be at the curb so fast! I don't know how women stay with men that have cheated on them.
I think some people see things differently. NOT ME..but Some people think that their SO is their soul mate so cheating is the end of that. Others see marriage as union but that people make mistakes and can honestly truly be sorry for them. I do think those situations are rare though and thats why I say I just dont know what I would do.
Their are tons of examples of couples who one or the other had an affair and they stay together and work it out.
ALSO..why does it have to be the MAN cheating on the women? I actually know TWO women who have cheated on their husbands! And their husbands dont know, probably never will.
PEople perceptions of what a "Relationship or Marriage " is is different thats why some people stay , Thats what I think anyway.
I dont know how I personally would justify it...BUt lets say we were married 15 yrs, had 3 kids, a house etc, and DH was drunk and it "happened"..Would I at least HEAR him out and think about NOT leaving...YES. But I may leave none the less.
I just dont think unless you've been there you can know.
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| Posted 5/27/05 10:01 PM |
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june262004
But I love the Snow!
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Re: Cheating...would you leave?
Posted by dm24angel
I just dont think unless you've been there you can know.
EXACTLY!
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| Posted 5/27/05 10:14 PM |
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SoinLove
Making big changes
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Kristin
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Re: Cheating...would you leave?
I'm honestly not sure. It depends on the extent of the cheating, I suppose. A kiss? Forgiveable, but it would be tough. Sex? It would take a LOT for me to stay with him. I think that I would try to make things work, but if the cheating continued, that would be the end for us.
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| Posted 5/27/05 11:06 PM |
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Tany
Becoming a different woman
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Re: Cheating...would you leave?
Posted by june262004
Posted by Aliasmom
I say I would but I have a daughter so I would have to think twice about it.
But I don't think people should stay together for kids. JMHO I don't have kids so maybe I should keep my mouth shut
Oh no, I agree with you but I would think about it more.
I always tell him, he would never see us again.
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| Posted 5/27/05 11:16 PM |
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neenie
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Re: Cheating...would you leave?
Posted by dm24angel
I just dont think unless you've been there you can know.
i can understand this, b/c i feel this way about MOST things, and i can see it applying to other people, but for Me, nope, i dont need to experience it to know if i would walk away or not.
and its not b/c of the usual reasons- the trust is gone; he broke a promise; i could never look at him the same way again; etc...- but More importantly, b/c i would be selling myself short, and i owe myself more than that. I would be more let down with Myself for settling, and THAT.. i would not be able to get past. People are human, and inevitably, they fock up, but if you settle for less than you deserve, then you'll wind up with even less than you settled for. IMO
there are ALOT of things that i can forgive and let go of- but this is something that i could not forgive MYSELF (most importantly) for accepting, and if the situation were reverse, i would expect the same of DH.
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Re: Cheating...would you leave?
I would, and I have. Scotty was just a newborn, and as much as I wanted to be able to have his father around for him, I just would never have been able to trust him again. I know myself, and I know that any time he'd be 5 minutes late, I'd think he were doing something. Honestly, as tough as it was, I never questioned that I made the right decision.
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| Posted 5/28/05 6:18 AM |
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Redhead
You Live, You Learn
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Re: Cheating...would you leave?
I WOULD LEAVE AND NEVER LOOK BACK!
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| Posted 5/28/05 7:16 AM |
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mrjune262004
LIF Adolescent
Member since 5/05 512 total posts
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Michael or if mom Micheal
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Re: Cheating...would you leave?
For everyone that said they would definitely leave, I just have one question. Does it make a difference to you if they came out right away and told you, the first time it happened and you could tell they were truly sorry?
Someone posted about how they know wife's that have cheated and the husband never found out. I think if you truly love someone and they are honest about what happened when it happens and don't try to hide it for a week,month or years. I think this makes a big difference as well as to whether or not the person could be trust. Sh!t happens if your upfront about you mistake I would be a lot more forgiving then if I found out later or by someone else
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| Posted 5/28/05 7:25 AM |
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Redhead
You Live, You Learn
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Jennifer
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Re: Cheating...would you leave?
Posted by mrjune262004
For everyone that said they would definitely leave, I just have one question. Does it make a difference to you if they came out right away and told you, the first time it happened and you could tell they were truly sorry?
Someone posted about how they know wife's that have cheated and the husband never found out. I think if you truly love someone and they are honest about what happened when it happens and don't try to hide it for a week,month or years. I think this makes a big difference as well as to whether or not the person could be trust. Sh!t happens if your upfront about you mistake I would be a lot more forgiving then if I found out later or by someone else
Nope...no difference imo. I would be appreciative that he did tell me...and would say thanks but NO THANKS...as i walked out the door!
and i DO NOT have to be in this situation to know how i would react....
People DO NOT have to be in every situation out there to know how they would react in it...SOME things you know about yourself
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| Posted 5/28/05 7:34 AM |
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mrjune262004
LIF Adolescent
Member since 5/05 512 total posts
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Michael or if mom Micheal
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Re: Cheating...would you leave?
For everyone one that said they would definatly leave, what if you were the one that cheated?? Would you expect forgiveness or would you just leave even though you still love your so?
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