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babyfaith
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Children at Baby Shower
I found out from my mom that a friend who RSVP'd to my baby shower asked to bring her baby. We are having the shower at a restaurant and do no want children. Please tell me I am not crazy for wanting an adult only shower.
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Posted 1/28/09 9:11 PM  |
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brownie
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Re: Children at Baby Shower
Did you say adults only in the invite?
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| Posted 1/28/09 9:16 PM |
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nferrandi
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Re: Children at Baby Shower
You're not wrong for wanting it to be adult only, but is it possible she has no other alternative?
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| Posted 1/28/09 9:17 PM |
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babyfaith
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Re: Children at Baby Shower
Posted by brownie
Did you say adults only in the invite?
I didn't think this was necessary. I assumed that people would not want to bring their children to a baby shower. It's not like a birthday party or Christening.
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| Posted 1/28/09 9:19 PM |
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Candice
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Re: Children at Baby Shower
I totally understand 100 %! Even though the shower is called a baby shower , I think the only baby there should be the one in your belly! Wheres ur shower? Mines coming up march 15! I really dont want small children at my party because it changes the whole dinamics of the party!! The moms cant relax and have fun and enjoy u and give u attention because of some rug rat running wild! Right??? hahaha
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| Posted 1/28/09 9:21 PM |
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nferrandi
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Re: Children at Baby Shower
I have been to both baby and bridal showers with kids in attendance.
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| Posted 1/28/09 9:22 PM |
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Candice
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Re: Children at Baby Shower
Yes so have I, and the women have MORE FUn without the kiddies! I think u should let the girls have a lovely afternoon! Hey theres always daddy or grandma! It also depends on the children and their behavior!
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| Posted 1/28/09 9:26 PM |
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nferrandi
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Re: Children at Baby Shower
Posted by Candice
Yes so have I, and the women have MORE FUn without the kiddies! I think u should let the girls have a lovely afternoon! Hey theres always daddy or grandma! It also depends on the children and their behavior!
I completely agree. I always leave DS when I attend parties. I look forward to that time with my friends. That being said, not everyone has their family close by.
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| Posted 1/28/09 9:30 PM |
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brownie
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Re: Children at Baby Shower
I agree, its fun w/out kids there, but I've been to showers with and without kids....like the sister of the mom-to-be has her daughters there and they helped pick out the gifts to open and cleaned up wrapping paper, etc....it wasn't a big deal
I was just saying maybe she couldn't find someone and still wants to attend, and she called and asked because the invite didn't mention adults only
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| Posted 1/28/09 9:32 PM |
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sweetie101
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Re: Children at Baby Shower
i just went to my sister in laws and children came.well she as a child of her own and it was at a close friend house
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| Posted 1/28/09 9:54 PM |
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BnBdreamin
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Re: Children at Baby Shower
For me it would depend. Sure, I'd prefer no kids but there could be some acceptable reasons... how old is the child, is she BFing, the childs behavior history, the friends bringing baby to party history...
A family friend did BF and occasionally if there was a party early on before the baby was supplemented by DH, she brought it but was never a distraction and I'd rather her there than not. If it's a toddler running around ripping bows off presents and sticking a finger in the cake, that would be a no no. If it's someone who always brings kids to an assumed adult only occassion, I'd be sure to write adults only on their invite 
Make the best of it and enjoy your friend's company.
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| Posted 1/28/09 11:33 PM |
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Teachergal
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Re: Children at Baby Shower
I guess it would depend on the age of the child. I went to one baby shower where someone brought a baby and everyone there paid attention to the baby, oohing and aahing over the mom and the baby. I think it really hurt my friend's feelings who was actually having the baby shower! But if the kids are a little older and their behavior is ok, that would be ok I think.
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| Posted 1/29/09 7:01 AM |
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Diana712
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Re: Children at Baby Shower
Posted by babyfaith
I found out from my mom that a friend who RSVP'd to my baby shower asked to bring her baby. We are having the shower at a restaurant and do no want children. Please tell me I am not crazy for wanting an adult only shower.
I agree no kids they want to play and run and its not fair to the kid or the Mommy to be..
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| Posted 1/29/09 7:21 AM |
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05mommy09
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Re: Children at Baby Shower
I dont know...children at a baby shower never bothered me....
There were a handful of kids at my shower...honestly I didnt even realize they were there....
My son went to 2 showers with me; my SIL's and a close friends... the only person it was a hassle for was me, but I had no other alternative...
THERE IS NOT ALWAYS DAD AND GRANDMA, as someone previously stated...
I think the only time this would bug me, if it was a child old enough to eat and I would have to pay for the extra plate...
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| Posted 1/29/09 7:29 AM |
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ARIELSMOM
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Re: Children at Baby Shower
i think it depends on the people and the location. If its adults only, then thats what it is.
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| Posted 1/29/09 7:54 AM |
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Smalls72
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Re: Children at Baby Shower
Your not crazy at all. I had an adult only baby shower also. They were to many kids to say yes to one and no to everyone else.
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| Posted 1/29/09 8:01 AM |
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Lillykat
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Re: Children at Baby Shower
I completely understand why you wouldn't want children there. Honestly if the invite was addressed to Mrs. X not Mrs X and Miss Y or The X family than she should understand that her child is NOT invited. I think it is kind of rude to just assume that your child is invited - and you should NOT have to put adults only on an invitation for people to know this - it is just general rule.
I think the host should just explain that it is a restaurant and that there will not be any children there. I know it is uncomfortable for the host to be put in that position but if you don't want children then that is what you will probably have to do
Etd to add though that I don't think it is an issue of whether it is a pain to have kids at a shower or not - it is really the personal choice of the host and guest of honor as to whether they want the children or not.
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| Posted 1/29/09 8:07 AM |
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MarisaK
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Re: Children at Baby Shower
IMO there is a difference between a BABY that's going to be held and passed around and oohed and aahed over, and a 3 year old who's going have to be entertained ........
i wouldn't mind the baby, but please leave the crawling, walking, running kids @ home !! -
it's not a kid's birthday party, it's not a BBQ, it's a Baby Shower -
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| Posted 1/29/09 9:19 AM |
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CrankyPants
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Re: Children at Baby Shower
In are family, it would be no biggie for kids to come to a shower, especially a baby shower since we are celebrating kids I would expect the parent of the child to know if their kid would behave, etc.
However, it's also okay for you to want adults only.
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| Posted 1/29/09 9:33 AM |
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NoahsArkTummy
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Re: Children at Baby Shower
Not at all!....Your entitled to your opinion..it's your shower! For me I had a few kids I wanted there....no one too young...but a few girls who I knew would really be excited to "be a big girl".......maybe she cannot find anyone to watch her kids?
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| Posted 1/29/09 9:34 AM |
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starryeyes
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Re: Children at Baby Shower
i totally understand where you are coming from.
I am having children at my shower and its only because i live out of state and would love to see all of my cousins when i am home.
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| Posted 1/29/09 10:36 AM |
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Bridex100
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Re: Children at Baby Shower
It's your shower. You are totally entitled to whatever you want.
Personally I wouldn't mind if a friend brought a baby to my shower but none of my friends have babies so it is a moot point.
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| Posted 1/29/09 10:53 AM |
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Posted by 05mommy09
I dont know...children at a baby shower never bothered me....
There were a handful of kids at my shower...honestly I didnt even realize they were there....
My son went to 2 showers with me; my SIL's and a close friends... the only person it was a hassle for was me, but I had no other alternative...
THERE IS NOT ALWAYS DAD AND GRANDMA, as someone previously stated...
I think the only time this would bug me, if it was a child old enough to eat and I would have to pay for the extra plate...
I agree..I have taken and left my kids. I made sure it was ok to bring my kids to my friends and she was so glad that I did. Their was another little girl their my son's age (at the time he just turned 2) and nobody seemed bothered by them.
I am actually surprised to see how many people wouldn't want kids their.
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| Posted 1/29/09 11:02 AM |
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dooodles
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Re: Children at Baby Shower
Posted by 05mommy09
I dont know...children at a baby shower never bothered me....
There were a handful of kids at my shower...honestly I didnt even realize they were there....
My son went to 2 showers with me; my SIL's and a close friends... the only person it was a hassle for was me, but I had no other alternative...
THERE IS NOT ALWAYS DAD AND GRANDMA, as someone previously stated...
I think the only time this would bug me, if it was a child old enough to eat and I would have to pay for the extra plate...
Same here, I love having kids at showers. I've always felt a baby shower is fine, that is what having a baby is all about - having family around and I welcome having them around.
But this is YOUR shower, if you want adult only - make that known
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| Posted 1/29/09 11:10 AM |
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Kelly9904
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Re: Children at Baby Shower
Posted by dooodles
Posted by 05mommy09
I dont know...children at a baby shower never bothered me....
There were a handful of kids at my shower...honestly I didnt even realize they were there....
My son went to 2 showers with me; my SIL's and a close friends... the only person it was a hassle for was me, but I had no other alternative...
THERE IS NOT ALWAYS DAD AND GRANDMA, as someone previously stated...
I think the only time this would bug me, if it was a child old enough to eat and I would have to pay for the extra plate...
Same here, I love having kids at showers. I've always felt a baby shower is fine, that is what having a baby is all about - having family around and I welcome having them around.
But this is YOUR shower, if you want adult only - make that known
I agree, although I have never taken DS with me to one...there were a bunch at my shower and it didnt bother me at all.
In fact I always felt that kids at a baby shower were fine - as long as its okayed with the party thrower in advance.
ETA: But you are not crazy, its your shower after all it should be how you want it. But will you be upset if this person doenst come because they have no other child care options?
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