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headoverheels
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Re: Children at Baby Shower
please. MY baby will never be sticky fingered OR crusty. he is perfect 
to answer the OP, i personally like babies and children at baby showers, i would rather have them there then sullen teenagers who don't really want to be there 
BUT it is YOUR shower and you have the right to ask that there be no children there  i don't see anything wrong with wanting the only baby there to be the one in your belly!!
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Re: Children at Baby Shower
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Babies are adorable its the sticky fingered crusty lolipop face toddlers who if are not watched can get out of control!! also I blame the mothers who dont watch their children!
um, you DO realize that babies grow up right?
this was the most ridiculous comment I have heard in a while 
Ummmmm, Yes I am aware of that and it was a umm joke hahah get it ! I guess not, sorry
really, really bad joke.
I have a feeling it was not meant to be a joke. Back peddle much?
Were not on the same page and obviously you and I dont have the same sense of humor! so nevermind that and have a lovely evening, theres no need to be rude!
you're kidding right?
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| Posted 1/29/09 8:15 PM |
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Candice
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Re: Children at Baby Shower
Posted by headoverheels
please. MY baby will never be sticky fingered OR crusty. he is perfect
to answer the OP, i personally like babies and children at baby showers, i would rather have them there then sullen teenagers who don't really want to be there
BUT it is YOUR shower and you have the right to ask that there be no children there i don't see anything wrong with wanting the only baby there to be the one in your belly!!
If thats ur baby in the pic u are right he is perfect and sooo cute! God Bless Him! aaaw
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| Posted 1/29/09 8:16 PM |
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Re: Children at Baby Shower
Posted by Candice
Posted by headoverheels
please. MY baby will never be sticky fingered OR crusty. he is perfect
to answer the OP, i personally like babies and children at baby showers, i would rather have them there then sullen teenagers who don't really want to be there
BUT it is YOUR shower and you have the right to ask that there be no children there i don't see anything wrong with wanting the only baby there to be the one in your belly!!
If thats ur baby in the pic u are right he is perfect and sooo cute! God Bless Him! aaaw
Nahh, that's not her kid, her kid really IS sticky fingered AND crusty
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| Posted 1/29/09 8:22 PM |
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headoverheels
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Re: Children at Baby Shower
Posted by KateDevine
Posted by Candice
Posted by headoverheels
please. MY baby will never be sticky fingered OR crusty. he is perfect
to answer the OP, i personally like babies and children at baby showers, i would rather have them there then sullen teenagers who don't really want to be there
BUT it is YOUR shower and you have the right to ask that there be no children there i don't see anything wrong with wanting the only baby there to be the one in your belly!!
If thats ur baby in the pic u are right he is perfect and sooo cute! God Bless Him! aaaw
Nahh, that's not her kid, her kid really IS sticky fingered AND crusty
busted 
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| Posted 1/29/09 8:23 PM |
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ckone
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Re: Children at Baby Shower
Posted by nferrandi
I have been to both baby and bridal showers with kids in attendance.
So have I. Unfortunately I was in a wedding party and even had to bring my newborn because I was a nursing mother. I had no other alternative.
I think that it was appropriate that she asked first. But, if you don't want kids then just tell her that.
At my baby shower there were kids and babies and it didn't bother me.
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HeathKernandez
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Re: Children at Baby Shower
Posted by Candice
Posted by Mikismom
Posted by Candice
Babies are adorable its the sticky fingered crusty lolipop face toddlers who if are not watched can get out of control!! also I blame the mothers who dont watch their children!
um, you DO realize that babies grow up right?
this was the most ridiculous comment I have heard in a while
Ummmmm, Yes I am aware of that and it was a umm joke hahah get it ! I guess not, sorry
as a sticky fingered, crusty person I take offense to your sense of humor...
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| Posted 1/29/09 8:33 PM |
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HeathKernandez
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Re: Children at Baby Shower
you're not crazy at all... I'm sure plenty of women don't want kids at their shower. Personally, I don't see the big deal b/c the day is centered AROUND babies, but it's YOUR day.
I think it was admirable that she at least ASKED, and didn't just show up with the baby. It's very common for people to bring babies to baby showers, so at least she didn't just assume.
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| Posted 1/29/09 8:36 PM |
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kimmie
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Re: Children at Baby Shower
I wanted my niece to be at my shower, she was adorable helping me open the gifts etc, I wouldnt have had it any other way.
Maybe this person didnt have a choice bring the baby or she couldnt come.
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| Posted 1/29/09 8:44 PM |
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Diana712
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Re: Children at Baby Shower
Wait you for got snot nose, stinky diaper, cry baby!!! Are they still welcome!!!!
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| Posted 1/29/09 9:23 PM |
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Dragonfly75
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Re: Children at Baby Shower
I don't think it's a big deal to have a baby at a shower. The mother may not have a choice or she may not feel comfortable being away from her baby for a long period of time.
Believe me, once your baby is here you'll realize it's not as easy as it used to be to go places and do things, especially if you don't have relatives nearby to help out. I wouldn't worry about it.
Cut a mother some slack, you'll be glad one day when someone does the same for you! 
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I do not think it's a big deal either. There was a baby at my shower. No one said anything at all, and he didn't make a peep.
My son is going to be a few months old at my SIL's shower and I don't think he would NOT be invited.
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MarisaK
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Re: Children at Baby Shower
How strange .......
My Mom got a call last night from an Aunt asking if her 3 year old Granddaughter was invited ......... (her DIL is invited) ....Um, no.
If the 3 year old was invited, her name would have been on the invitation.
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| Posted 1/30/09 9:58 AM |
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Diana712
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Re: Children at Baby Shower
Posted by MarisaK
How strange .......
My Mom got a call last night from an Aunt asking if her 3 year old Granddaughter was invited ......... (her DIL is invited) ....Um, no.
If the 3 year old was invited, her name would have been on the invitation.
I have a feeling this is going to happen to many of us.. I T A! No way.. I have been to too many parties/showers that were disrupted by children.. And to me it was annoying.. Sorry.. Not this time.. 
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stickydust
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Re: Children at Baby Shower
Posted by Candice
I TOtally agree with uu! You and i are on the same page! Babies are adorable its the sticky fingered crusty lolipop face toddlers who if are not watched can get out of control!! also I blame the mothers who dont watch their children!
Well your soon-to-be "adorable baby" will in the blink of an eye be a sticky fingered toddler who will be equally adorable if not more so. I agree that children do not belong everywhere but I would be a little annoyed if someone told me babies are welcome but nor toddlers. Toddlers are not society's pariahs.
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Lillykat
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Re: Children at Baby Shower
Posted by stickydust
Posted by Candice
I TOtally agree with uu! You and i are on the same page! Babies are adorable its the sticky fingered crusty lolipop face toddlers who if are not watched can get out of control!! also I blame the mothers who dont watch their children!
Well your soon-to-be "adorable baby" will in the blink of an eye be a sticky fingered toddler who will be equally adorable if not more so. I agree that children do not belong everywhere but I would be a little annoyed if someone told me babies are welcome but nor toddlers. Toddlers are not society's pariahs.
I could be wrong but it sounds like it isn't the sticky fingered toddlers aren't the problem but the lack of parental supervision that was the issue. While I'm sure the parents on here are vigilant that their kids don't run wild - I'm sure we can all say that we have been to a party that has had one wild toddler that the parents were busy partying and not watching leaving the guests to "watch" the child.
Coming from someone with a toddler - I can say I would love to bring DD to a party but I would never be insulted or upset if the host/guest of honor doesn't want children at the party, nor would I ever ask if I could bring a non invited child. If it is a family party I would assume the host/guest of honor would understand that if my family is at the party that I might have to decline if I couldn't get a babysitter. I guess I just never understood why some parents get bent out of shape when their children aren't invited somewhere.
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stickydust
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Re: Children at Baby Shower
Posted by Lillykat
Posted by stickydust
Posted by Candice
I TOtally agree with uu! You and i are on the same page! Babies are adorable its the sticky fingered crusty lolipop face toddlers who if are not watched can get out of control!! also I blame the mothers who dont watch their children!
Well your soon-to-be "adorable baby" will in the blink of an eye be a sticky fingered toddler who will be equally adorable if not more so. I agree that children do not belong everywhere but I would be a little annoyed if someone told me babies are welcome but nor toddlers. Toddlers are not society's pariahs.
I could be wrong but it sounds like it isn't the sticky fingered toddlers aren't the problem but the lack of parental supervision that was the issue. While I'm sure the parents on here are vigilant that their kids don't run wild - I'm sure we can all say that we have been to a party that has had one wild toddler that the parents were busy partying and not watching leaving the guests to "watch" the child.
Coming from someone with a toddler - I can say I would love to bring DD to a party but I would never be insulted or upset if the host/guest of honor doesn't want children at the party, nor would I ever ask if I could bring a non invited child. If it is a family party I would assume the host/guest of honor would understand that if my family is at the party that I might have to decline if I couldn't get a babysitter. I guess I just never understood why some parents get bent out of shape when their children aren't invited somewhere.
I agree with what you wrote wholeheartedly and personally have never brought my DD to a party where she was not invited but my issue is with the phrasing of what was written. I felt it was an offensive way to refer to toddlers and believe me when I tell you I am not easily offended. She could have gotten her point across just as well if not more effectively without the descriptive language. Being sticky from lollipops has absolutely nothing to do with lack of parental supervision.
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Lillykat
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Re: Children at Baby Shower
Posted by stickydust
Posted by Lillykat
Posted by stickydust
Posted by Candice
I TOtally agree with uu! You and i are on the same page! Babies are adorable its the sticky fingered crusty lolipop face toddlers who if are not watched can get out of control!! also I blame the mothers who dont watch their children!
Well your soon-to-be "adorable baby" will in the blink of an eye be a sticky fingered toddler who will be equally adorable if not more so. I agree that children do not belong everywhere but I would be a little annoyed if someone told me babies are welcome but nor toddlers. Toddlers are not society's pariahs.
I could be wrong but it sounds like it isn't the sticky fingered toddlers aren't the problem but the lack of parental supervision that was the issue. While I'm sure the parents on here are vigilant that their kids don't run wild - I'm sure we can all say that we have been to a party that has had one wild toddler that the parents were busy partying and not watching leaving the guests to "watch" the child.
Coming from someone with a toddler - I can say I would love to bring DD to a party but I would never be insulted or upset if the host/guest of honor doesn't want children at the party, nor would I ever ask if I could bring a non invited child. If it is a family party I would assume the host/guest of honor would understand that if my family is at the party that I might have to decline if I couldn't get a babysitter. I guess I just never understood why some parents get bent out of shape when their children aren't invited somewhere.
I agree with what you wrote wholeheartedly and personally have never brought my DD to a party where she was not invited but my issue is with the phrasing of what was written. I felt it was an offensive way to refer to toddlers and believe me when I tell you I am not easily offended. She could have gotten her point across just as well if not more effectively without the descriptive language. Being sticky from lollipops has absolutely nothing to do with lack of parental supervision.
LOL true.. but many of them are sticky fingered - but TOTALLY cute even my DD! I may have read it differently - but I think the emphasis was on the who are not watched and get out of control - like sticking their hands in the cake then touching everything around b.c no one is watching them. I think the other comment was meant in a lighthearted fashion -but I could be totally wrong - so she should explain but that was my take on the comment.
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MarisaK
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Re: Children at Baby Shower
Posted by stickydust
Well your soon-to-be "adorable baby" will in the blink of an eye be a sticky fingered toddler who will be equally adorable if not more so. I agree that children do not belong everywhere but I would be a little annoyed if someone told me babies are welcome but nor toddlers. Toddlers are not society's pariahs.
I could be wrong but it sounds like it isn't the sticky fingered toddlers aren't the problem but the lack of parental supervision that was the issue. While I'm sure the parents on here are vigilant that their kids don't run wild - I'm sure we can all say that we have been to a party that has had one wild toddler that the parents were busy partying and not watching leaving the guests to "watch" the child.
Coming from someone with a toddler - I can say I would love to bring DD to a party but I would never be insulted or upset if the host/guest of honor doesn't want children at the party, nor would I ever ask if I could bring a non invited child. If it is a family party I would assume the host/guest of honor would understand that if my family is at the party that I might have to decline if I couldn't get a babysitter. I guess I just never understood why some parents get bent out of shape when their children aren't invited somewhere.
I agree with what you wrote wholeheartedly and personally have never brought my DD to a party where she was not invited but my issue is with the phrasing of what was written. I felt it was an offensive way to refer to toddlers and believe me when I tell you I am not easily offended. She could have gotten her point across just as well if not more effectively without the descriptive language. Being sticky from lollipops has absolutely nothing to do with lack of parental supervision.
I am sure the poster was joking in her description of toddlers - I don't think there's any need for people to be offended. - Can anyone deny that it's much more difficult to entertain and keep a 3 year old calm and clean and quiet in comparison to a 4 month old ?
And I'm sorry - but there is a VERY big difference between caring for a small baby, and caring for a toddler at a party -
With a baby, they're in your arms, they're in someone else's arms, they're in the stroller - whatever. -
With a toddler, they're into everythng b/c that is what NORMAL kids do - A toddler is not going to sit still for a 4 hour party and they should not be expected to either - They're going to want to run around and play and explore everything and it's a totally and completely different dynamic - No one is saying a toddler is a pariah, but again, a toddler can't be EXPECTED to NOT cause a commotion in a confined, boring, adult filled restaraunt for 4 hours .........let's be honest !! - And I wouldn't think it was fair to expect the child to "behave" for 4 hours, OR the parent to "make their child behave" for that time either .....that's asking for WAY too much of a kid AND a mother !!
I don't think anyone would be aggravated or annoyed or  at a toddler behaving that way at a child's party or an outside BBQ or whatever - it's expected. Kids are NORMAL kids -
But I can understand NOT wanting that kind of craziness at a Baby Shower -
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Bridex100
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Re: Children at Baby Shower
I don't think anyone would be aggravated or annoyed or at a toddler behaving that way at a child's party or an outside BBQ or whatever - it's expected. Kids are NORMAL kids -
But I can understand NOT wanting that kind of craziness at a Baby Shower -
I absolutely positively agree. Toddlers often run wild and can be VERY disruptive.
Everyone is understanding when the event has children invited. I know there have been many places where I really thought that certain kids were little monsters. Sometimes I wonder how their parents can let the child behave so poorly. I would like to hope my future child is better behaved but if he wasn't, I definitely wouldn't take him to adult only functions, especially if I knew the host wished for me not to bring my child.
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Re: Children at Baby Shower
Posted by Lillykat
I guess I just never understood why some parents get bent out of shape when their children aren't invited somewhere.
that does not bother me, what DOES bother me is some "newbie" insinutaing that toddler moms just allow their children to run amuck
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Lillykat
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Re: Children at Baby Shower
Posted by Mikismom
Posted by Lillykat
I guess I just never understood why some parents get bent out of shape when their children aren't invited somewhere.
that does not bother me, what DOES bother me is some "newbie" insinutaing that toddler moms just allow their children to run amuck
Unfortunately I think a few bad egg moms out there give the rest of us a bad name. I think most moms are good about watching their children- but I have been to several parties where there is always one select one who is so busy with the adults her child might as well have set the place on fire for all she would have noticed...and then she still probably wouldn't have cared.
Usually I let the newbie comments blow in the wind
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Re: Children at Baby Shower
Wow, this thread has gotten interesting. Thanks for all of your input ladies. I thought you all might like to know that I found the baby shower invitation from the friend who asked to bring her baby to my shower and it said "Adults Only Please". DH and I got a good laugh last night.
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Diana712
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Re: Children at Baby Shower
Posted by Mikismom
Posted by Lillykat
I guess I just never understood why some parents get bent out of shape when their children aren't invited somewhere.
that does not bother me, what DOES bother me is some "newbie" insinutaing that toddler moms just allow their children to run amuck
Why would you take that so personal?? To me she was giving her honest opinion and using humor.. What does being a "newbie" have to do with anything.. You were a newbie once too.. everyones OPINION is welcome here whether you have 1 post or 10,000. It was her opinion..
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Candice
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Re: Children at Baby Shower
Posted by Mikismom
Posted by Lillykat
I guess I just never understood why some parents get bent out of shape when their children aren't invited somewhere.
that does not bother me, what DOES bother me is some "newbie" insinutaing that toddler moms just allow their children to run amuck
You must have been one of those bullies in highschool ... Always picking on new girl! Thats not nice ! I never said ALL Toddler moms, My opinion comes from experience, two of parties were disrupted! ... xoxo The Newbie
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