Concert Etiquette

I am really curious on people's opinions this. So within the last couple of months I have been to several concerts. At every single one, either myself or someone I was with was asked to sit down when we got up to dance to a song. Just to clarify these were upbeat concerts, not like Barbara Streisand lol.

Here are a few example:

We were at Jones Beach a couple weeks ago for Train/OAR. My brother drove two hours in traffic to meet us there. By the time he arrived he was just so happy to be with friends/family, enjoying the great weather and music. Favorite song comes on and he is standing up enjoying the song, singing and dancing. Women behind him kept telling him to sit down. I felt so bad. It basically put him back in a bad mood. At same concert, our friends were a few aisles over and texting us saying people behind them kept telling them the sit down.

Last night my son's girlfriend was at Jones beach for Dierks Bentley with her parents and little sisters. U cant imagine what happened. The two sisters stood up when their favorite song came on and the women behind them basically yelled at them to sit down. My sons girlfriend told her sisters not to sit that is is crazy to be asked that. One of the women proceeded to put her hand on the youngest one and said can u please sit! My sons girlfriend said can u please not touch my sister? Than the woman calls her an Assh*ole! Her mom than realizes whats going on and lets say it didnt go so well.

Basically what Im asking is...wtf? lol. As far as im concerned, its a concert! Not a Broadway show. Is there some unspoken rule that Im not aware of here ? If u dont want anyone standing up in front of u AT ALL at a fun concert than maybe get seats higher up where most people sit? I could really use some opinions because at this point we are just perplexed lol. Thx!

Message edited 6/24/2017 1:43:05 PM.

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Concerts are made for dancing and enjoying yourself. Part of a good concert to me is watching the other people have a good time as well. People are such stick in the muds lately and just need to chill out. Everyone complains about EVERYTHING now. Let people have their fun, life will be more enjoyable or the complainers can just stay in their house and watch a taped concert from the comforts of home.

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Who sits at a concert?

Especially the two you mentioned.


Maybe on a slower, not so well known song...maybe.

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I've been to more than a thousand concerts in my life (so far lol)

I stand most of the time. I sway, I dance, I have a good time. I've yet to be asked to sit by anyone behind me - I wouldn't though, if they asked me to. Tough shit! That's the chance you take when you go to a show. Most people stand especially when you're in the lower part of a venue.

I've been to shows where I have been sitting and the people in front of me stand. I just stand up. Big whoop!

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If its a rocking concert no one should be telling anyone to sit. That really makes me so angry!!!

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I'm not a concert fan but every concert I've been to I've definitely stood at least part of the time and so did the people around me. This is both in stadium seating and in the VIP area at Jones Beach. I think it's nuts to ask someone to sit down.

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The only time I could see it being ok is if someone tall were right in front of a little kid or someone else that couldn't physically get up and not even for the whole time

Otherwise, everyone goes to shows to enjoy themselves and the music. If you want to sit, and expect everyone else around you to sit, stay home and play it in your living room.

It would be nice if everyone were considerate of the people around them, but it probably would never play out that way

Message edited 6/24/2017 2:50:10 PM.

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Jones beach sucks as a venue. I find it's an older crowd and lame people. No thanks.

Any concert worth going to involves standing.

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OMG thank u for these responses..so im not crazy lol!

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People dance at concerts. We were at Jones Beach and a couple complained to the usher that people were dancing. He didnt do anything about it. They were so mad.

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It depends on where I am. I saw the Decemberists at Radio City and I was annoyed when the people in front of me were standing. But at Jones Beach I assume people will be standing.

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So glad you posted this..I have the country mega ticket and have been to three concerts in the last three weeks at the beach. My seats are in the upper new part but the first row and me and my husband have debates every night because our section seems to want to sit and if we stand then we are starting that everyone has to stand. We have stood a little but it's such an awkward situation. I have no idea when sitting got so popular at concerts it sucks

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Message edited 6/24/2017 11:22:02 PM.

Concert Etiquette

I was physically pushed on my shoulders at a BB King/U2 concert--in freaking IRELAND no less--about 20 years ago by a guy to sit down. I turned around and pushed him back and said, "Don't ever f*** touch me again."

I would NEVER tell someone at a concert to sit down. They paid for their ticket as much as I did. Music is for dancing, swaying, singing at the top of your voice. I like when everyone at a concert lets their freak flag fly. I have, however, told people--jokingly, not really--to put away their cellphones and be in the moment, only if their friends are bugging them, too.

And, yes, Jones Beach is lame, because of the people.

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Depends where I am sitting at jones beach. The lower, the more people standing/dancing, the higher, more sitting. I personally dgaf and stand where ever I am, but I can see people getting pissed about it. I hate being high up at jones beach Bc of it.

I've seen hundreds of concerts and I've maybe sat for a handful of them, and usually Bc it's a jazz concert in a sitdown venue.

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Depends on the concert.
I can't stand for too long, so I expect not to be able too see a whole lot unless I do stand.

I do have issue with the freaking little ****** sitting behind me who kept letting out ear piercing shrieks during Friday night''s Dierks Bentley concert at Jones Beach. Not being able to see is one thing - not being able to hear is another. Everyone in our row was so annoyed. I asked her to stop shrieking and she would not.
I came thisclose to punching her in her throat. Instead I wished her a popped vocal chord.

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I always end up standing/dancing etc when at a concert. I have had people behind me to sit down and I usually ignore them.
You are at a concert!!! I padi just as much money as you for my seat and if I decide to stand and dance then so be it.

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The only thing I have to contribute to this thread is I have no idea who Dierks Bentley is. And the name came up several times on this thread. I have never in my life heard of him before this thread.
So I googled him.
And I still have no idea who he is.

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Posted by NervousNell

The only thing I have to contribute to this thread is I have no idea who Dierks Bentley is. And the name came up several times on this thread. I have never in my life heard of him before this thread.
So I googled him.
And I still have no idea who he is.

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Posted by LiveForMoments

Posted by NervousNell

The only thing I have to contribute to this thread is I have no idea who Dierks Bentley is. And the name came up several times on this thread. I have never in my life heard of him before this thread.
So I googled him.
And I still have no idea who he is.

He's a country singer.

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I was at the Dierks Concert too Friday and we did not sit down once. We were up from Jon Pardi, Cole Swindell and all through Dierks. Luckily so was everybody else by me. YOu don't go to concerts to sit down. That is my biggest pet peeve. You don't want to get up and sing and dance then sit in your own damn house and listen to a CD!!!