Daycare - Potty Training

Thomas just turned two. He moved up to the Toddler Room at daycare at 18 months in October. He has been going pee pee and poopie on the potty since 16 months, but not consistently. Sometimes he'll tell us, but most of the time he doesn't. But if you ask him and put him on the potty, he most of the time goes. When he moved to Toddler Room, I explained this to the head teacher and told her I'd like her to work with him. She did, and he was consistently going on the potty at least once a day at daycare, sometimes more. Then, around, February, they just stopped asking him. His daily sheet just listed diaper changes and didn't show he was using the potty. I let it go for two whole months which I totally regret now... I spoke up a few weeks ago and the head teacher told me, well, we put him on when he's dry. They only change his diaper approximately every three hours and I don't feel that is often enough to ever give him the chance to "be dry". I didn't say this, but she quickly said she'd work with him more if I wanted and I said yes. Since then, she has half-heartedly worked with him - putting him on often some days and some days not at all. Since they had stopped asking him, I feel he regressed at daycare and now sometimes refuses and tells them no. He has consistently gone at home and is starting to tell us more and more. I know they are probably talking about me behind my back saying that he isn't ready and I'm crazy for pushing this. They gave him a potty chart on the door to get a sticker every time he goes and even though he's gone three times since I spoke up, he only has one sticker. I just don't understand this... He would respond so well to sticker rewards... I wrote a very nice letter asking them to change his diaper one additional time in the late afternoon after when he gets changed after his nap and before he gets picked up to give him an additional opportunity to go on the potty before his diaper in addition not going home in a soaked diaper (I didn't list this reason). Thge day I wrote the letter, he tried on the potty after every diaper change and went pee pee in the late afternoon when I asked them to change and ask him. He did not get a sticker however it was noted on his daily sheet. Today, he tried twice but was not changed and asked again in the afternoon and came home soaked as usual. ONE DAY! My wishes were followed ONE DAY!!

I know they think that he is on the young side and since he doesn't tell them, he's not ready, but he tells us at home a lot and I don't want him to regress at daycare.

I know this is long and I'm rambling, but can I please have some insight? Am I overreacting?

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You are not overreacting. You are his mother and know him best. I don't send my daughter to daycare, but you can bet your bippy that I'd have wanted them potty training her along with me at home at the age of 2. My daughter was fully trained by 26 months, so I do NOT think your son is too young. As long as he can communicate that he needs the potty, there's no reason in the world to not train him if he's ready.

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I completely agree with you. They absolutely should be asking him and it's not for them to determine if he's ready or not, it's up to you, as his mother, to determine that and they should respect your wishes.

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Thank you again, Rachel!



Does anyone else have experience with potty training and how daycare handles it?

Thanks!