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MrsA1012
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Re: CIO- i posted several times sorry
Posted by JWG421
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So last night was horrible again
4 straight hours and on and off crying and complaining
We are heading home tonight after 4 nights of no progress
I am going to try again tonight- we live in an tapt so we should all hope we don't get kicked out! 3 hours of screaming on a work night is not nice
I know I will get flamed for this but letting a small a baby cry for four hours sounds like an awful idea. That's the poor kids only way of communicating. He just wants his mom. If the baby cries for a few minute and the settles down that is one thing. This sounds really extreme. Op I know you are frustrated,but there are gentle methods you can use to help your baby to sleep better. You don't have to let your child scream for hours. Please do research on the harms of extinction style CIO.
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Re: CIO- i posted several times sorry
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Posted by JWG421
Update
So last night was horrible again
4 straight hours and on and off crying and complaining
We are heading home tonight after 4 nights of no progress
I am going to try again tonight- we live in an apt so we should all hope we don't get kicked out! 3 hours of screaming on a work night is not nice
I do believe CIO works, but 4 hours is a long time and it's only getting worse. I would finish out the week in his own crib, and if it's not better I might hold off for another week or two, maybe more. If he's possibly teething or getting sick this is the wrong time to do CIO. It could do more harm than good.
Oh and if you happen to be friendly with your neighbors I would give them a heads up about what you are doing.
I agree. Also may be confusing to him since you were at your parents and now back home. I also believe it works too. But 4 hours is long. Maybe try again when he's 8mos?
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JWG421
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Re: CIO- i posted several times sorry
I plan on trying it home tonight and see how it goes
My husband is home for the next few nights as well
Wish me luck
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BriBri2u
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Re: CIO- i posted several times sorry
Posted by MrsA1012
Posted by JWG421
Update
So last night was horrible again
4 straight hours and on and off crying and complaining
We are heading home tonight after 4 nights of no progress
I am going to try again tonight- we live in an tapt so we should all hope we don't get kicked out! 3 hours of screaming on a work night is not nice
I know I will get flamed for this but letting a small a baby cry for four hours sounds like an awful idea. That's the poor kids only way of communicating. He just wants his mom. If the baby cries for a few minute and the settles down that is one thing. This sounds really extreme. Op I know you are frustrated,but there are gentle methods you can use to help your baby to sleep better. You don't have to let your child scream for hours. Please do research on the harms of extinction style CIO.
I was going to hold off posting but I'm glad someone else wrote what I was thinking.
4 hours is WAY too long to let a 7 month olf cry. Sorry, I think you need to find a less extreme way of getting him to sleep.
My DD is 10 months old and she still wakes up through the night. I just pick her up, hold her and figure out whats the best way to get her back to sleep. This won't last forever, they will eventually STTN. Please don't let your baby cry for hours...its too much.
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Mama2S2013
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Posted by BriBri2u
Posted by MrsA1012
Posted by JWG421
Update
So last night was horrible again
4 straight hours and on and off crying and complaining
We are heading home tonight after 4 nights of no progress
I am going to try again tonight- we live in an tapt so we should all hope we don't get kicked out! 3 hours of screaming on a work night is not nice
I know I will get flamed for this but letting a small a baby cry for four hours sounds like an awful idea. That's the poor kids only way of communicating. He just wants his mom. If the baby cries for a few minute and the settles down that is one thing. This sounds really extreme. Op I know you are frustrated,but there are gentle methods you can use to help your baby to sleep better. You don't have to let your child scream for hours. Please do research on the harms of extinction style CIO.
I was going to hold off posting but I'm glad someone else wrote what I was thinking.
4 hours is WAY too long to let a 7 month olf cry. Sorry, I think you need to find a less extreme way of getting him to sleep.
My DD is 10 months old and she still wakes up through the night. I just pick her up, hold her and figure out whats the best way to get her back to sleep. This won't last forever, they will eventually STTN. Please don't let your baby cry for hours...its too much.
Agree. I was trying to say the same thing gentler so I don't get flamed...but letting him cry for that long is really extreme. He's just a baby and wants his mom. He's too young to understand you're in the next room, he thinks no one is every coming back to him. CIO isn't working for him, maybe try a gentler method or wait a little longer.
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Maybe-Baybe
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I didn't see the original post, but from what I gather it seems like you are in the same situation I was with my DD at that time. I live in an apartment too, so I know that adds some stress to the situation.
Have you tried putting LO to bed on their tummy? I know that's a no-no, but it worked for my DD. Also, a white noise machine helps a lot for us too. Good luck 
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I just wanted to send hugs...and maybe recommend the sleep sense system. FM me if you need!
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I don't know exactly what the original post said but do you have a bed time routine? even at that age, they can know what to expect next. we also have a white noise machine, and used the ferber method. let her cry for 5min, went in laid her down rubbed her belly and said shh and only stayed in there for max 2 min. next time let her cry for 8 min, same thing…..
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Teachergal
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Posted by MrsA1012
Posted by JWG421
Update
So last night was horrible again
4 straight hours and on and off crying and complaining
We are heading home tonight after 4 nights of no progress
I am going to try again tonight- we live in an tapt so we should all hope we don't get kicked out! 3 hours of screaming on a work night is not nice
I know I will get flamed for this but letting a small a baby cry for four hours sounds like an awful idea. That's the poor kids only way of communicating. He just wants his mom. If the baby cries for a few minute and the settles down that is one thing. This sounds really extreme. Op I know you are frustrated,but there are gentle methods you can use to help your baby to sleep better. You don't have to let your child scream for hours. Please do research on the harms of extinction style CIO.
There are much nicer ways of saying what you said. See Mama2S2013's response above. You clearly do not like CIO as evidenced by your many posts on the subject, so I always take what you say with a grain of salt.
OP, please know that there are many people who have done CIO and it has worked. It may just not work for you right now. I agree with going back to your apartment and maybe trying again in a couple of weeks. This won't last forever. You can do it!
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Helping a baby learn how to sleep is such a hard thing  I did CIO & it worked great but he needed to be a little older, like 11-12 months in his case for him to really get it & at that point it only took a few nights, with him crying for a while only on the first night or two. Before that I'd try it & it just didn't really work yet, he couldn't calm himself down yet & I felt bad if he'd cry for too long. It's a hard thing, Good luck. He will get better with time.
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