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Posted by Xelindrya

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I wouldn't say anything, I am sure she knows since she mentioned "legal issues".

I am putting myself in her shoes and if a co-worker admitted to googling my fiancés name I would be a little disturbed.

Seriously!
To be honest I think its incredibly rude and presumptuous of you to go google his name.

I dated a guy in NY who couldn't leave the state (felony) People make mistakes, pay their dues. Not ever criminal is forever damned. The whole point of justice is rehabilitation and learning to be a productive part of society. To make amends and do right.

Not sure what this guy was arrested for but to be honest I think its horrible that you assumed to go 'find out'. What difference does it make to you? You say she isn't a close friend. Just a coworker. What makes you feel so entitled? Its not like she's worried, she's happy. And obviously she knows "legal issues" why did you have to pry?

Ugh. Sorry that just rubs me the wrong way.

I sincerely hope you keep it to yourself and forget about it.

I would do the SAME thing and google him. He could be a child molestor or a rapist and if he is marrying MY friend, I'm sure there would be a lot of encounters with him. If he had a criminal record as such, I would want to know so I could keep my distance.

Posted 2/21/11 10:07 AM

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Re: Delicate situation

Posted by MrsPJB2007

MYOB -- do not say anything and don't let her know you know...it's not your place to talk to her about any of this at all.

Not only that, but she may end up feeling very betrayed if she finds out you went and looked up the information. You may just be work friends, but you still have to work with her every day and that can make for a very uncomfortable work place. In all likelihood, she knows anyway and chose not to tell you the details.

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Posted by BargainMama

I would do the SAME thing and google him. He could be a child molestor or a rapist and if he is marrying MY friend, I'm sure there would be a lot of encounters with him. If he had a criminal record as such, I would want to know so I could keep my distance.

Do you google all your coworkers? Do you find out what their husbands do? She says she's not close with this lady. She's just a coworker.

I get it if it were my best friend, my sister, a relative or someone I am close to. I can tell you now that I won't be letting my coworkers babysit AJ anyway.

Just seems rude to me JMHO. She asked and I am giving MY opinion it was rude and as I said i hope she keeps it to herself.

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Posted by Xelindrya

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I would do the SAME thing and google him. He could be a child molestor or a rapist and if he is marrying MY friend, I'm sure there would be a lot of encounters with him. If he had a criminal record as such, I would want to know so I could keep my distance.

Do you google all your coworkers? Do you find out what their husbands do? She says she's not close with this lady. She's just a coworker.

I get it if it were my best friend, my sister, a relative or someone I am close to. I can tell you now that I won't be letting my coworkers babysit AJ anyway.

Just seems rude to me JMHO. She asked and I am giving MY opinion it was rude and as I said i hope she keeps it to herself.

I think it would be strange to alert someone she's not close with, but I don't fault her at all for googling someone after she mentioned legal issues.

If someone mentioned their fiancé couldn't come to this state because of legal issues, I'd google out of curiosity. I think it's strange she said legal issues. I would say tying up loose ends.

Posted 2/21/11 10:28 AM

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