Re: DH involvement with kids

How old DH and DW are
DH - 34, DW - 36
Are both parents FTWP or is one parent a SAH parent.
Both work full time.
How involved fathers are with completing the following tasks independently.
Creating meals - never - 0%
Dressing - very occasionally at bedtime (less than 1%)
Bathing - very occasionally (less than 1%)
Taking them out for activities (both spontaneous or planned) - very occasionally (maybe 5%)
Picking up after them - very occasionally (maybe 5%) - my son is very good about cleaning up after himself though so this isn’t really an issue
planning play dates - literally never

Re: DH involvement with kids

How old DH and DW are - DH is 39, Im 34
Are both parents FTWP or is one parent a SAH parent - both work FT
How involved fathers are with completing the following tasks independently.
Creating meals - depends on who is home.
Dressing - 50/50
Bathing - 50/50
Taking them out for activities (both spontaneous or planned) - both
Picking up after them - both
planning play dates - me

Re: DH involvement with kids

I’ve been both a FTWM and SAHM
I’m now almost 40. DH 43.
DH cooks if he’s home in time for dinner (50/50)
Everything else I do (both while working and being at home).

The reality is most of the time, I feel like the mom is the “emergency responder”. I took off work when we needed someone to. I made sure we could relieve grandma or the babysitter. Hubby took a promotion that requires more hours. That’s where the split comes.

Re: DH involvement with kids

How old DH and DW are
Dh is 34, DW is 36
Are both parents FTWP or is one parent a SAH parent.
Dh works full time, DW is SAHM
How involved fathers are with completing the following tasks independently.
Creating meals - I mostly create our meals, but in the past year or so dh has taken interest in cooking when he can. Maybe once a month or so on a day off from work if we don't have to go anywhere else that day.
Dressing - I mostly dress the kids, but dh does when I occasionally ask him to if I'm in the middle of doing something else or in the rare cases that he's home alone with the kids.
Bathing - again, this mostly falls on me, but mostly because dh doesn't get home from work until the kids bed time, so I need to have them bathed before he gets home. But before his hours changed at work, he used to help our 1st child in the shower while I gave our baby a bath.
Taking them out for activities (both spontaneous or planned) - dh likes to take our older child (age 5) to activities (both spontaneous and planned) and does so often, probably about once a week at least.
Picking up after them - we both pick up after them daily, it's a never ending task, lol. I would say I do it more often since I'm home more, but dh does a good amount too.
planning play dates - I plan all playdates and extracurricular activities (dd is involved in several)

Message edited 5/22/2018 3:02:40 AM.

DH involvement with kids

How old DH and DW are
- 34 and 30 - We are getting divorced though
Are both parents FTWP or is one parent a SAH parent.
- Both FTWP
How involved fathers are with completing the following tasks independently.
Creating meals 10%
Dressing 10%
Bathing 10%
Taking them out for activities (both spontaneous or planned) 20%
Picking up after them 10%
planning play dates 2%

Basically barely any. I work from home, he works late and the childcare almost all fell on me.

DH involvement with kids

I am 31 and DH is 32

DH is a FTWP and I am a PTWP

My DH does none of tasks mentioned, doesnt do laundry, cooking, dishes, prepping lunches/daycare bags, making the bed, diaper changes, none of it. All me!

Re: DH involvement with kids

How old DH and DW are - dh 44 dw 42
Are both parents FTWP or is one parent a SAH parent. - both ftwp
How involved fathers are with completing the following tasks independently.
Creating meals - he usually cooks after I have prepared it
Dressing - during the week he is gone before they get up so its all me - on weekends he dresses the little ones ( I pick outfit if a special event is happening) big kids dress themselves
Bathing - he usually gives baths to younger 2 and I supervise showers of older ones
Taking them out for activities (both spontaneous or planned) - no spontaneous activities - he will take them on planned activities but I plan all the activities
Picking up after them - he helps clean up
planning play dates. - he does not plan any play dates

Re: DH involvement with kids

I’m 35 and Dh is 36
Dh works full time and I am a stay at home mom
I do all the grocery shopping and the cooking.
My girls dress themselves now but I help them pick out their clothes.
Bathing it’s almost always me.
Activities I do most of the weekly activities because Dh is at work but he will take them to stuff on the weekends.
Dh does pick up after then when he is home.
Play dates that is 100% me. I don’t think Dh would even know how to do that.

DH involvement with kids

How old DH and DW are: DH is 42 and DW is 39
Are both parents FTWP or is one parent a SAH parent: FTWP
How involved fathers are with completing the following tasks independently.
Creating meals: DH does this 10%, me the rest
Dressing: DH does this 25%, me the rest
Bathing: About 40% DH -- i do the baby 100%, he helps with older child sometimes.
Taking them out for activities (both spontaneous or planned): DH takes older child out a lot because I'm home with baby more often...so, DH 70%
Picking up after them: DH 30%, me 70%
planning play dates: me 100%

DH involvement with kids

How old DH and DW are -- Both 29 soon to be 30
Are both parents FTWP or is one parent a SAH parent. - DH works full time, I work 2 days a week.
How involved fathers are with completing the following tasks independently.
Creating meals- If for some reason I'm not around he will figure something out but very rarely
Dressing- I lay the clothes out or else my DH can't find anything
Bathing- He always bathes my 2.5 year old, I give my infant most of his baths
Taking them out for activities (both spontaneous or planned)- not really
Picking up after them- he's pretty good about cleaning up the living room but if they make a mess of the kitchen not really
planning play dates- never

Re: DH involvement with kids

How old DH and DW
I'm 44, he's 42
Kids are 7.5 and almost 2.

Are both parents FTWP or is one parent a SAH parent.
He is FTWP, I'm a SAHM who does freelance work on the side.

How involved fathers are with completing the following tasks independently.

Creating meals - 50/50. We discuss what we want to have for dinner for the week.

Dressing - mostly me bc I'm a SAHM so I'm getting DS ready for school. On weekends though, he picks out clothes for both kids & dresses the baby. Depends on who has more time depending on what the plans are for the day.

Bathing - he'll give the baby a bath if I ask him to, but he always supervises the older one's shower at night.

Taking them out for activities (both spontaneous or planned) - yep!

Picking up after them - Yep!

planning play dates. - 50/50 on this. We have a core group that we hang out with so we both suggest dates to play.

Re: DH involvement with kids

How old DH and DW are
DH is 41. I’m almost 39.

Are both parents FTWP or is one parent a SAH parent.
We both work FT.

How involved fathers are with completing the following tasks independently.
Creating meals
DH does all of the meal planning, food shopping and cooking.

Dressing
My boys dress themselves although I usually pick out their clothes. DH dresses DD if we’re running late, but I usually dress her.

Bathing
DH bathed the boys most of the time when they were younger. My oldest showers by himself and DS2 usually bathes by himself. He hasn’t ever bathed DD, but I’ve always done the baths when the kids were infants. DD tends to get baths when DH is out with one of the boys at an activity.

Taking them out for activities (both spontaneous or planned)
My boys are involved in a lot of activities. We split up a lot on the weekends as there tends to be conflicts. During the week, he takes them to at least 50-75% of the activities.

Picking up after them
We tend to split this pretty evenly.

planning play dates.
We don’t do a lot of planned play dates, but I usually plan them or the kids plan them themselves. Sometimes DH will talk to other dads of DS1’s teammates and they plan a GTG. This year, some of the boys in the neighborhood in 5th and 6th grade (my boys are in 4th and K) come by unannounced on the weekend to see if the boys are available to play. My boys have started to go to their houses to do the same.

Re: DH involvement with kids

How old DH:38 and DW: 39
Are both parents FTWP or is one parent a SAH parent: We Both WFT
How involved fathers are with completing the following tasks independently.

Creating meals: 100% responsible, I do 0% of the food shopping or cooking

Dressing: 40/60 (40% DH, 60% me)

Bathing: when they took baths: 50/50

Taking them out for activities (both spontaneous or planned): 50/50

Picking up after them: 10%/90% (10% DH and 90% me)

planning play dates. 0%/100% (0% DH and 100% me)

Re: DH involvement with kids

How old DH and DW are - 38/34
Are both parents FTWP or is one parent a SAH parent.- both parents work
How involved fathers are with completing the following tasks independently.
Creating meals - most nights yes- usually it is something easy/quick to make
Dressing- dresses the kids when i am not there
Bathing- bathes them each night
Taking them out for activities (both spontaneous or planned)- will take them to the park on days he has off
Picking up after them- not so good here- i come home from work and am usually pissed off at the mess LOL
planning play dates. - no play dates so can't comment here

Message edited 6/1/2018 9:27:51 AM.