Did you cry tears of sadness after learning the sex?

I know some people will think I am awful, but I live my life honestly and will say that I fear this time around I may tear a bit if the sex is not what I am predicting.

..that being said, have you ever cried a little (either externally or internally) after learning the sex of any of your babies?

....and please don't think I'm awful.

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Um no.

I will say that I was hoping for a boy with DD and when I found out she was a girl I was a little like, "oh, really..." and then an hour later I was so excited and picking out clothes online.

To cry tears of sadness over it.....def not.

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I don't think you are awful. You are entitled to feel how you feel...

I don't intend to "start" anything by saying what I'm about to... but for me, going through the hell we went through to get and STAY pregnant, I was just happy to BE pregnant and didn't care one way or another if the gender was boy or girl.

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I don't think you are awful. I did. I personally had significant amounts of fighting with DH over the name for a boy. While I didn't really care one way or the other what it was, we had decided on a girls name and were happy with it. When I found out it was a boy, I knew I was up against lots of fighting. Eventually it all worked out and I love my son to death!

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I really wanted a girl and had a daughter so now I didnt. But, I do not think you are awful at all.

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Not one bit, i could care less as long as my babies were healthy thats all that mattered. I have a nephew with down syndrome and all my sister in law wanted was a girl, not only did she get a boy but he had downs so after that I really appreciated my healthy babies.

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We didn't find out what we are having and I really wanted a girl, and I got one!!! I was so excited and amazed I got what I wanted ...That being said I am not sure if I would have cried if I found out I was having a boy...but I might have been disappointed....

Please don't feel bad, when you see your baby you will love him/her no matter the sex

(P.S. I don't think you are awful one bit for crying, we are human and NOT perfect, so please don't let anyone make you feel like $hit)

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I didn't cry but I really wanted to have a girl and was disappointed to find out I was having a boy. I thought for sure it would be a girl and was planning to buy so many cute little pink girly things.

I didn't know how much I would fall in love with DS. Now I'm having another son and I am happy with it.

I do remember posting that I was disappointed to find out it was a boy on the pregnancy board and it had turned out to be one of those long drama posts.

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First of all, you are not in any way awful if you are disappointed.
I really was hoping that Chase was a girl at first because I have a sister and she is my best friend and I wanted the same thing for Ava, but honestly, now that I have a boy, I could never imagine having another girl! I wasn't upset that he was a boy, but definitely a little disappointed. But now, no way, I am so happy to have him Plus, I believe that everything happens for a reason and if I have a boy and a girl, that's because that's the way it was meant to be for me

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Posted by BaroqueMama

First of all, you are not in any way awful if you are disappointed.
I really was hoping that Chase was a girl at first because I have a sister and she is my best friend and I wanted the same thing for Ava, but honestly, now that I have a boy, I could never imagine having another girl! I wasn't upset that he was a boy, but definitely a little disappointed. But now, no way, I am so happy to have him Plus, I believe that everything happens for a reason and if I have a boy and a girl, that's because that's the way it was meant to be for me

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I did! For like a week! Idc who judges me for it!

I thought I read my body so well - I was 110% positive it was a girl - and to find out it was a boy - I was devastated! Not because I didn't want a son - but because I just had my heart set on a girl. Needless to say, I love my son more than anything - and when I have a second child, I won't be sad if I have another boy! It honestly seems silly to me now that I think back on it. But we're all entitled to our emotions. It doesn't mean we don't love the child any less

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I didn't cry cry but I shed some tears.

I had two boys already and really wanted some pink.

I then realized the pros, and now i'm so happy because they are all so close in age. If he was a girl i'd feel like she would have been left out a lot,

We want two more so maybe one will be a girl, but if not I am just happy and blessed to have healthy beautiful babies

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I never cried or was disappointed each time I found out it was a girl. I'd be just as happy with 4 boys. I'm someone who loves same gender siblings b/c I had an older brother and never bonded with him. I feel like I was jipped. So b/c of my experience, I feel like a girl needs a sister and a boy needs a brother. that's just me though.

My bff has 6 boys. Yes 6. she cried from the 4th boy on. does she love her boys? Yes, with all her heart and soul but she was still disappointed at 20 weeks when she found out.

eta: it is not uncommon to be disappointed and you are not awful!

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We did not find out the sex with our 1st until she was born. I quietly hoped for a boy because I was VERY afraid of having a girl. I was always such a tomboy and I was afraid that I would "ruin" a girl. Once she was here though, all my fears disappeared.
HOWEVER, with #2 I wanted another girl in the worst way. I wanted DD#1 to have a sister because I never did. As an adult, I HATE that I have no sisters .
After my amnio with #2, they called with the results and I bawled my eyes out when she said it was a girl. I could not believe that ontop of being lucky enough to have another baby after 7 years, DD#1 was getting a sister. I felt like I won the lottery.

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I wanted a girl desperately and didn't find out but was convinced all along that she was a girl. I was right but if I had been wrong, I know I would have been wondering if I would ever have a girl.

I think for me I knew if I had a girl first, then I would feel comfortable having a boy. But I think I feared never having a girl and not having the kind of relationship I have with my mom.

Now for a future child I would love to see how the other half lives

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I was shocked and nervous when I found out I was having a boy. I just didnt know what boys did, or played with, or how they dressed. I thought a girl would be easier and more fun for me. I was worried while I was pregnant, but not sad it was a boy. I swore I was having a girl and thought my mommy instincts already were gone lol.

I DID cry over his name, I needed him to be named after my grandfather which didnt happen, but I would have cried with a girl name too. I agreed to let DH name the first baby even though I wasnt happy about it.

Now all that being said, I'm very nervous if I ever have a girl now I love having a boy!

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I didn't, but I was sad/disappointed.

The only reason I say that is because I took the Intelligender test (stupid, stupid waste of money!) and it said girl. So I psyched myself up thinking it was a girl for 8-10 weeks, picking out the bedding set, looking at baby girl clothes, choosing a name, etc. When we did the sono and she told us "BOY" I about fell off of the table! I was disappointed for about a day, but I didn't shed any tears. My gut instinct when I first got PG said boy, and I was surprised by the Intelligender results. I guess the only reason I was disappointed was because I had all these plans for a baby I wasn't actually having

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I didn't. I knew from the moment I POAS that I was having another boy. Just felt it in my gut.

I have seen too many sick babies, and heard too many horror stories of babies dying before birth that I am just thrilled to have a healthy child.

I do not think you are a bad person for feeling this way at all. I think when people envision their lives a certain way, and it doesn't turn out like that, it's only normal to mourn that a little bit!

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I was just the slightest bit disappointed when we found out that dc #2 was a boy. But that's just because my kids are 18 months apart and I thought it would be so awesome for us to have two little girls to be best friends>

Now that DS is here, i can't imagine it any other way! We love him to pieces, and our DD absolutely adores him

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yes for months ( to the point of irrational!!), but now I LOVE my DS to pieces. I knew the second I POAS I was having a boy but still hoped for a girl

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Nothing awlful about that at all. With me, I didn't actually cry tears of saddness...I wasn't upset the slightest....so I clicked other...and this is why. When I just found out I was pregent, I thought I was having a boy...but then once I popped EVERYONE was saying I was having a girl. Even DH swore we were gonna have a girl. So when they said boy, my first reaction was shock, since I was sooo used to hearing girl. We had to go back out in the waiting room for a few mins to wait for the actual appt., and Dh and I were talking... about playing ball when he got older, and how I'm destined to always be the only girl in the house, just simple things like that, and then boom, it hit me. I started to cry a bit, not for the sex that I was carrying, but the fact that now I no longer had to think of my belly as "it" but as HIM...and that hit me like a brick wall of happiness. Brought tears to my eyes sitting in that waiting room.

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oh God yes LOL
i did when i found out baby #2 was a boy! i cried b/c i wanted another girl-a sister for my DD! i got over it fast and then once he was born that was the true end of it! i can't imagine not having a boy now! i am totally in love with him!

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I thought I was having a girl all along and was hoping for a girl. My DH acted like he didn't care either way. When we found we were having a DS I was shocked!!!! Then I looked over at my DH and I have NEVER seen him so elated, he was practically floating on air. He couldn't stop smiling for weeks. Just for that alone I was happy to be having a boy. It took me a bit to adjust to it since I really thought I was having a girl. For the first week I was just kind of reprogramming my brain to all boy stuff. I was definitely a bit sad. But I always envisioned a boy first and then a girl so I don't know what my problem is . I think I just wanted a girl to "secure" me having a daughter.

My Son is amazing and the joy he brings to us is priceless. I have never loved anyone with this level of intensity. Seeing the bond my DH has with him melts my heart. So now I feel like you get what you are meant to have. I really do, and whatever my next baby is will be what we need for our family.

Don't feel bad about anything, you are allowed to feel any way you want. Your baby will be amazing no matter what!

p.s. sorry for the super cheese response.

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Awww...don't feel bad...

I didn't care what I was having after having a m/c. All DH & I wanted was to have a healthy baby. I was so scared and just pray that we were going to have a healthy baby after the M/C that I have. When we found out that we were having DD, we were so excited since our daughter was the first in my family and first granddaughter in DH's side.