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Dispute between DH and I. Anyone care to put their $.02 in?

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Tracy705
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Dispute between DH and I. Anyone care to put their $.02 in?

If a SIL never attends a family function, do you eventually stop sending them an invite? I say you always do because it the right thing. Thanks!

Message edited 3/31/2015 7:33:53 PM.

Posted 3/31/15 7:33 PM
 
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afternoondelight828
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Re: Dispute between DH and I. Anyone care to put their $.02 in?

It depends on the situation on why she is not attending. I usually give people a few chances and family more.
If she has no intention of ever showing up, then no, no more invites.

Posted 3/31/15 7:37 PM
 

hmm
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Dispute between DH and I. Anyone care to put their $.02 in?

I can understand not wanting to invite, but if you invite then you know you asked and she can still say no or just not come. I think I would always invite

Posted 3/31/15 7:38 PM
 

LInMI
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Dispute between DH and I. Anyone care to put their $.02 in?

I agree with you. I would continue to send the invite.

Posted 3/31/15 7:38 PM
 

newbie00
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Re: Dispute between DH and I. Anyone care to put their $.02 in?

Unless you had a falling out and stop speaking all together, then no I would continue to send an invite even if she never shows. She is family.

Posted 3/31/15 7:38 PM
 

mnmsoinlove
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Re: Dispute between DH and I. Anyone care to put their $.02 in?

Posted by LInMI

I agree with you. I would continue to send the invite.



ITA

Posted 3/31/15 7:46 PM
 

Lara&Aidansmommy
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Re: Dispute between DH and I. Anyone care to put their $.02 in?

Posted by mnmsoinlove

Posted by LInMI

I agree with you. I would continue to send the invite.



ITA



Same

Posted 3/31/15 7:48 PM
 

Goobster
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Re: Dispute between DH and I. Anyone care to put their $.02 in?

People like that always turn it around the one time you don't send it. So always send.

Posted 3/31/15 7:50 PM
 

LSP2005
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Re: Dispute between DH and I. Anyone care to put their $.02 in?

Posted by Goobster

People like that always turn it around the one time you don't send it. So always send.

this.

Posted 3/31/15 7:52 PM
 

ANewDayHasCome
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Dispute between DH and I. Anyone care to put their $.02 in?

Well we are estranged from dhs sister. She has made it very clear she wants nothing to do with her family, Including her niece that she met once for 2 minutes in the hospital when she was born (and is now 21 months). Didn't come to her baby naming, 1st birthday. So no, no more invites.

Posted 3/31/15 7:54 PM
 

ANewDayHasCome
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Re: Dispute between DH and I. Anyone care to put their $.02 in?

Posted by Goobster

People like that always turn it around the one time you don't send it. So always send.



And yes, this is very true also Chat Icon

Posted 3/31/15 7:54 PM
 

JDubs
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Re: Dispute between DH and I. Anyone care to put their $.02 in?

I guess it depends on if I see them at all from time to time. If yes then I send an invite even though I know they won't come (I have a few cousins in my family that do this but I see them at holidays etc so I still send) if I don't ever see them then I would prob stop sending invites. I have one cousin that I never see and we never invite him to anything because he doesn't even respond when you send an invite. We did invite him to our wedding and knew he wouldn't come, just out of respect for my aunt. But everything else we don't invite him to.

Posted 3/31/15 8:02 PM
 

Mom0710
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Re: Dispute between DH and I. Anyone care to put their $.02 in?

It's a tough call. Yes you should because it is the right thing, but I understand not wanting to.

Posted 3/31/15 8:10 PM
 

LuckyStar
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Dispute between DH and I. Anyone care to put their $.02 in?

Uh oh, are you my SIL?! I avoid DH's family functions as much as possible.

I think it depends.....is this your husband's sister? If so and your DH, MIL/FIL don't care I say stop. If it's your brother's wife you might have a tougher time because I assume you want your brother at family functions.

Message edited 3/31/2015 8:11:49 PM.

Posted 3/31/15 8:11 PM
 

StaceyWill
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Re: Dispute between DH and I. Anyone care to put their $.02 in?

Posted by hmm

I can understand not wanting to invite, but if you invite then you know you asked and she can still say no or just not come. I think I would always invite



ITA

Posted 3/31/15 8:11 PM
 

LastLightGlow
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Re: Dispute between DH and I. Anyone care to put their $.02 in?

I would just send. It's easy enough to waste a stamp to avoid it being turned back at you why she's not there.

Posted 3/31/15 8:27 PM
 

MyBabyG
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Dispute between DH and I. Anyone care to put their $.02 in?

As much as it would irk me, I would still send it. I wouldn't want the aggravation of it coming back to me on how so-and-so never got an invite.

Posted 3/31/15 8:34 PM
 

alli3131
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Dispute between DH and I. Anyone care to put their $.02 in?

Always send.

Posted 3/31/15 8:37 PM
 

ANR1211
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Dispute between DH and I. Anyone care to put their $.02 in?

I just recently did not invite a cousin to a party- it caused some drama. If SIL RSVPs no constantly, then I'd continue sending the invite. If she doesn't RSVP and doesn't show, I'd stop sending (this was why I didn't invite cousin- she NEVER RSVPs and then never shows and I was sick of it!).

Posted 3/31/15 8:50 PM
 

pumpkinmom
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Dispute between DH and I. Anyone care to put their $.02 in?

I would still invite if I were inviting others from DH's family.

Posted 3/31/15 9:01 PM
 

Jenn79
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Re: Dispute between DH and I. Anyone care to put their $.02 in?

Just had this convo! Since it's family they still get an invite.

Posted 3/31/15 9:07 PM
 

MichLiz213
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Dispute between DH and I. Anyone care to put their $.02 in?

I agree with you.

Posted 3/31/15 9:26 PM
 

sunnyflies
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Dispute between DH and I. Anyone care to put their $.02 in?

If she's anything like mine, I'd send her invitations to major family events like weddings or christenings, but nothing more. I would not expect her to attend or to respond.

Some people are impossible to understand. I bent over backwards to be nice to and include my SIL, especially as I promised my MIL I would before she died, but the SIL has caused us a great deal of trouble and heart ache in return. Nasty letters to my DH, unpleasant phone calls to me, lots of calls that hang up when I answer.

She also did not bother to show up to our DD's baptism, even though we had asked her to be the child's Godmother and she had accepted and promised to be there. We stood at the church with the rest of our family and guests for the longest time waiting for her to come, but she was a no show. It was embarrassing to say the least (what does one tell the priest?), and hurt us a lot on what should have been a joyful day. Thank goodness my kind cousin-in-law agreed to take her place or our daughter would not have been baptized that day.

Posted 3/31/15 11:27 PM
 

Xelindrya
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Dispute between DH and I. Anyone care to put their $.02 in?

if SIL is on HIS side, its his choice.. if the SIL is on my side its my choice.

If he wants me to keep sending it to his sister, sure.. whatever, no real sweat off my nose. Send it and move on.
If he wants me to keep sending it to my sister, I'd have her call him and say "err no" LOL

Posted 4/1/15 9:11 AM
 

blu6385

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Re: Dispute between DH and I. Anyone care to put their $.02 in?

if there is no falling out and you guys still talk I would still send invites out. I send invites out to my friends (meaning my DD god mother) and family who never attend anything.

however when DH wasn't talking to his mom and I don't talk to her cause I cant stand her I stopped sending invites, xmas card announcements etc. cause to me I wanted nothing to do with her DH wasn't talking to her there was no point of me sending anything out. I told DH I will no longer be sending them out he can continue doing it if he wanted them sent to her.

Posted 4/1/15 9:46 AM
 
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