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Faithx2
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Re: do screaming kids bother you?
I feel the same as you. It used to cringe before I had kids now I can totally sympathize with the mom 
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Re: do screaming kids bother you?
Used to bother me, but, not anymore since DS has become pretty good at the screaming thing.
I totally understand what those parents were going through in the past.
DH and I do the "You take him out, I'll pack up" thing.
I get very embarrassed. I feel like EVERYONE is looking.
I have had other people say to me "Don't worry about, we've been there"...Ex. waiting to check out at the grocery store and DS is yelling cuz the cart stopped..
I do appreciate people that say that. The ones that roll their eyes, oh well, maybe one day they'll see.
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| Posted 4/6/09 9:34 AM |
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CunningOne
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Re: do screaming kids bother you?
Nah, doesn't bother me, only because I know I have been in the situation where my kids are crying.
I do believe their is a time and place for everything though, so if the child's crying is disruptive to something, they should be removed from the situation, if possible.
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| Posted 4/6/09 9:44 AM |
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Lillykat
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Re: do screaming kids bother you?
I think it depends but my gripe is basically w/ the parents in restaurants...I have a high spirited child so I usually sympathize b/c DD can get restless or cranky but it does bother me when there is a screaming child whose parents are totally ignoring them. Children scream, they cry... that is just a fact of life - but how it is dealt with is the issue. Kids can be cranky or tired etc, but what bothers me is when a child is crying or screaming and the parents just sit there and totally ignore them as if the problem will just go away - rather than trying to talk to them, feed them, give them a distraction, book, toy etc or take them for a walk.
But when I see a child in a store or other place and they are just crying in general or screaming no that doesn't bother me b.c it is a part of life.
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| Posted 4/6/09 9:48 AM |
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MrsBumbleb
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Re: do screaming kids bother you?
just mine!
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| Posted 4/6/09 9:52 AM |
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PatsBrat
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Re: do screaming kids bother you?
Posted by MrsBumbleb
just mine!
Totally agree! Anyone else's kids can scream blue bloody murder and I am not the least bit bothered. My 2 can drive me to the brink of sanity!
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| Posted 4/6/09 9:55 AM |
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Marybeth222
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Re: do screaming kids bother you?
Posted by Bxgell2
No.
I have a "spirited" little preschooler who is fond of screaming and crying, so I have heartfelt sympathy for other parents with children of a simlar disposition, and rather than just assume the parents aren't doing a good job, I give the benefit of the doubt that much of it may have to do with the child's temperment.
I have to admit, however, I am a little shocked lately at some of the posts I've been reading about how bothered people are by other people's children, particularly when they cry or misbehave, which will happen even with the best children sometimes. It makes me realize that I'm probably unliked and judged on a constant basis by strangers who observe my little Alex in her finest moments, which makes me sad considering I do make every attempt to discipline and be a good parent.
I can't even tell you how many times I get looks from people like my children are horrible. In particular, every time I bring the girls to church I feel like people are annoyed that we are at the 5:00 mass and not the children's mass. I actually saw a woman and her husband roll their eyes when we came in and sat behind them. Now, granted, my children are not angels, however, they are also VERY well behaved in church. I get so upset over it because I feel like people's tolerance of children is nil. I am all over my daughters, especially with manners and making sure they are well behaved. It just seems like older people (especially) except them to sit there and not say a word..
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| Posted 4/6/09 9:55 AM |
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MarisaK
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Re: do screaming kids bother you?
The KIDS....never - Kids are kids, that is what they do ..........The PARENTS, yes, if you not at least attempting to calm your kid down -
And it depends on the situation .......AM I on the train at 7 PM after working a 12 hour day while 39 weeks PG with Mommy and Daddy who took their kids to see Elmo or the Circus of whatever ......and are completely ignoring (or worse, find it amusing) the fact that they're kiddies are jumping and screaming like sugared up loons ??? - I'm ready to make those kids orphans !!
If I'm stuck on the train at 6AM with the poor Mom who has to take her kid into work with her b/c the Daycare is closed and the kid is just cranky and crying and no matter what she does the kid just won't stop .......Do I want to shoot myself? Sure .........but THAT mother gets all of my sympathy !!
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| Posted 4/6/09 9:56 AM |
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dpli
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Re: do screaming kids bother you?
Posted by rojerono
For me - I'll admit that I do get a little annoyed if there is a screaming baby in a place where babies probably shouldn't be - like the midnight showing of Star Wars... but my annoyance is more aimed at the parents who in cases like that seem to have put their own needs above their kids. Yes - mommies need movies too... but I don't think dragging a little one to a potentially frightening movie at midnight is anyone's idea of great thinking.
ITA. It's situational for me, kids crying can not bother me at all, or it can ruin a good time, depending on the when and where.
I don't mind hearing children crying in a diner or a family friendly restaurant (to a point, if they won't stop at all, I do think they should be taken out). But, if I am spending a lot of money for dinner in a very nice restaurant for an anniversary or something like that, I do get really annoyed if there are screaming kids there.
With shopping, I think there is a difference between ignoring a tantrum to get some shopping done quickly or just letting the child scream because you are in the checkout line, and being pretty much oblivious to the child and not paying attention to the fact that they are pulling things off the shelves or putting themselves in dangerous situations. Some of the screaming is tolerable, other times it isn't, IMO.
It's funny, because depending on the situation, since I have had a child, sometimes I am more tolerant of the screaming, and sometimes I am less tolerant of it. 
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| Posted 4/6/09 10:06 AM |
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LightUpOurLife
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Re: do screaming kids bother you?
Posted by mikeswife06
It's the parents' reactions though that are more bothersome though than the child.
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| Posted 4/6/09 10:42 AM |
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steph7308
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Re: do screaming kids bother you?
not so much other kids, but when my own DD is screaming (like she is right now as we speak) it drives me crazy!
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| Posted 4/6/09 10:48 AM |
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Re: do screaming kids bother you?
As long as my kids aren't screaming and crying I'm fine. I'll sympathize with the parents but it doesn't bother me.
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| Posted 4/6/09 11:12 AM |
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MelToddJulia
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Re: do screaming kids bother you?
Posted by jes81276
doesn't usually bother me...
Same here, all kids scream!
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| Posted 4/6/09 11:13 AM |
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Re: do screaming kids bother you?
it bothers the hell out of me, especially if it's my own ...
but i do know kids are kids and can't help it sometimes. it all depends how the adult in charge is handling the situation, that is what is most important in my eyes...
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| Posted 4/6/09 11:21 AM |
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pinkandblue
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Re: do screaming kids bother you?
and I just wanted to mention that YES, sometimes I ignore my dd's tantrums, MOST of the time
So if you see me ignoring her while she is screaming, please know that this is intention and the best way for me to deal with her mood swings
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| Posted 4/6/09 11:23 AM |
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ddunne2
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Re: do screaming kids bother you?
Posted by Bxgell2
No.
I have a "spirited" little preschooler who is fond of screaming and crying, so I have heartfelt sympathy for other parents with children of a simlar disposition, and rather than just assume the parents aren't doing a good job, I give the benefit of the doubt that much of it may have to do with the child's temperment.
I have to admit, however, I am a little shocked lately at some of the posts I've been reading about how bothered people are by other people's children, particularly when they cry or misbehave, which will happen even with the best children sometimes. It makes me realize that I'm probably unliked and judged on a constant basis by strangers who observe my little Alex in her finest moments, which makes me sad considering I do make every attempt to discipline and be a good parent.
Same here! When I am out in public, and one of them has a tantrum, I discipline as best I can and really don't care who is looking at me or shaking their head or whatever. I'm not a mom that cares what people think. BUT I do immediately leave the store or wherever we are so it doesn't become an annoyance to others. I've left the grocery store with a cart full of groceries right in the middle of the store. And yesterday I nearly ran over a sales clerk on my way out of Kohls with a screaming 2 year old! 
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| Posted 4/6/09 11:24 AM |
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Sassyz75
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Re: do screaming kids bother you?
it depends.
if it is a newborn? no- because that's the way newborns communicate...
If it's a toddler? Depending upon the situation, yes.. it does sort of bother me a little...
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headoverheels
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Re: do screaming kids bother you?
Posted by Mikismom
and I just wanted to mention that YES, sometimes I ignore my dd's tantrums, MOST of the time
So if you see me ignoring her while she is screaming, please know that this is intention and the best way for me to deal with her mood swings
you bad mommy you 
okay i will admit that as a mom of a 7-month-old it didn't occur to me that tantrums might be a good reason to ignore a screaming child. so thanks for opening my eyes a little more. 
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| Posted 4/6/09 11:34 AM |
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nrvbrd
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Re: do screaming kids bother you?
Now that I have a baby and understand that you cannot control it, I am more understanding.
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| Posted 4/6/09 11:36 AM |
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Smileyd17
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Re: do screaming kids bother you?
Posted by JennZ
Honestly, YES. It still makes me crazy. I thought once I had a child it would not be as bad, as I can understand sometime they just scream. BUT It still send chills up my spine, even when DS screams (which is rare) It makes me nuts.
This is me, sorry.
I also dont let my child do that in a public place and if she does get loud and out of control, she is removed from there, taken outside and calmed down.
Just part of what I do, for me as well as others.
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| Posted 4/6/09 11:39 AM |
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Tine73
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Re: do screaming kids bother you?
Posted by 04bride
It depends. I agree sometimes you cant stop them but I hate when parents dont remove them if its an inddoor place like a restauraunt or something.
I agree.
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| Posted 4/6/09 11:40 AM |
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Sweets13
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Re: do screaming kids bother you?
Posted by Smileyd17
Posted by JennZ
Honestly, YES. It still makes me crazy. I thought once I had a child it would not be as bad, as I can understand sometime they just scream. BUT It still send chills up my spine, even when DS screams (which is rare) It makes me nuts.
This is me, sorry.
I also dont let my child do that in a public place and if she does get loud and out of control, she is removed from there, taken outside and calmed down.
Just part of what I do, for me as well as others.
Me too...I understand it's out of our control when they yell or scream, but with my family, DH and I control how to handle the situation, which is by removing them and calming them down. If they don't calm down, I don't think twice about leaving (which only happened one time).
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wannabemom
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Re: do screaming kids bother you?
nope, I still get peeved... 2 mo ago I went to target and there was a kid shreaking for 40 min
I totally get that kids behavior is often out of a parent's control... but why then linger in the store for an additional 40 f-in minutes... can't you buy clohting another time??! I totally would be at the registers within 5 min of the start of such a scene... it reaches a point eventually where it's incosiderate to put the other customers through that noise.... KWIM?
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Bxgell2
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Re: do screaming kids bother you?
I wanted to add - yes, it annoys me if we are in a place where good behavior is expected, and children are rowdy, wild, screaming, etc, and the parents aren't doing anything, like a nice restaurant, or a movie theater. But to expect quiet, gracious children in places like Target, Friendly's or your local diner - I just think it is unrealistic and unduly critical and I have to be honest that some of the posts insinuating such, or just generally stating that children are unliked no matter what the situation, are disturbing to me.
Fact is, they may be children, but they are also people who will become functioning adults, and we were ALL children once, who lost our temper from time to time, no matter how well we were raised. Everyone deserves a little respect and understanding, no matter what age.
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| Posted 4/6/09 11:59 AM |
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pinkandblue
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Re: do screaming kids bother you?
Posted by headoverheels
Posted by Mikismom
and I just wanted to mention that YES, sometimes I ignore my dd's tantrums, MOST of the time
So if you see me ignoring her while she is screaming, please know that this is intention and the best way for me to deal with her mood swings
you bad mommy you
okay i will admit that as a mom of a 7-month-old it didn't occur to me that tantrums might be a good reason to ignore a screaming child. so thanks for opening my eyes a little more.
obviously if we were at a restaurant I would remove her from the situation but for example, last night we were food shopping and she was eating a few pretzels, I wanted her to not spoil her dinner so I gave her a few and closed the bag up...she was screaming and I ignored her as that is what works best for her and her tantrums, no attention is the best attention when she is having a meltdown
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