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Cheryl
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Re: Do You Believe in the Statement Once a Cheater...Always a Cheater?
Posted by preshy7
yes for people who are married
i know people that cheated on bf/gf when they were younger....got married and are completely faithful
and i know others who cheat married and keep cheating
it all depends
My thoughts exactly.
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BabyAvocado
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Re: Do You Believe in the Statement Once a Cheater...Always a Cheater?
No, not necessarily.
However I do believe that more often than not the old adage does apply.
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| Posted 4/6/06 1:37 PM |
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nrthshgrl
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Re: Do You Believe in the Statement Once a Cheater...Always a Cheater?
I believe there are 2 types of cheaters - serial cheaters and situational cheaters.
Serial cheaters - yes once a cheater, always a cheater. For example a close friend of mine who cheated on every girlfriend and will probably cheat on his wife because he doesn't have it in him to be a monogamous guy (I know, I know..why get married in the first place..)
Situational cheaters - I think there are people that cheat for a reason, lack of love & attention from spouse, mid-life crisis, depression, etc. I have a relative that was in a marriage for years, begging her husband to talk to her, etc. Her husband was completely emotionally detached for years. Eventually, she befriended a guy (no coincidence on this one) and began an affair. Now that her marriage is over, I can tell you that this once faithful girl with a 15+ year marriage behind her, wouldn't consider cheating on her boyfriend.
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| Posted 4/6/06 1:46 PM |
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octoberbride
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Re: Do You Believe in the Statement Once a Cheater...Always a Cheater?
For the most part, yes - I think so.
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| Posted 4/6/06 1:48 PM |
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dm24angel
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Re: Do You Believe in the Statement Once a Cheater...Always a Cheater?
No I dont believe that.
I believe everyone can change. Just depends on how much energy they put into it.
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| Posted 4/6/06 1:50 PM |
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twobabies
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Re: Do You Believe in the Statement Once a Cheater...Always a Cheater?
Posted by nrthshgrl
I believe there are 2 types of cheaters - serial cheaters and situational cheaters.
Serial cheaters - yes once a cheater, always a cheater. For example a close friend of mine who cheated on every girlfriend and will probably cheat on his wife because he doesn't have it in him to be a monogamous guy (I know, I know..why get married in the first place..)
Situational cheaters - I think there are people that cheat for a reason, lack of love & attention from spouse, mid-life crisis, depression, etc. I have a relative that was in a marriage for years, begging her husband to talk to her, etc. Her husband was completely emotionally detached for years. Eventually, she befriended a guy (no coincidence on this one) and began an affair. Now that her marriage is over, I can tell you that this once faithful girl with a 15+ year marriage behind her, wouldn't consider cheating on her boyfriend.
i couldnt have said it better, myself. completely agree.
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| Posted 4/6/06 1:51 PM |
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lucyloo
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Re: Do You Believe in the Statement Once a Cheater...Always a Cheater?
I think so. I don't know from experience because I've never cheated on anyone.
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| Posted 4/6/06 2:03 PM |
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itsbabytime
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Re: Do You Believe in the Statement Once a Cheater...Always a Cheater?
Sometimes. But, I can say from my own personal experience it is not true for me. I've cheated before in serious long term relationships  But I have not and would not ever cheat or consider cheating in any way shape or form since I have been married or going forward. I take marriage vows very seriously, to me, a BF is not the same as a DH as awful as that is 
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| Posted 4/6/06 5:47 PM |
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Redhead
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Re: Do You Believe in the Statement Once a Cheater...Always a Cheater?
It depends on when the cheating was done
If you "cheated" as an immature kid ....
well i do believe you can learn from experience
As a DH or DW....yes i believe once a cheater, always a cheater
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| Posted 4/6/06 5:49 PM |
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Janice
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Re: Do You Believe in the Statement Once a Cheater...Always a Cheater?
no, I don't believe that to always be true.
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| Posted 4/6/06 5:57 PM |
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Karen
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Re: Do You Believe in the Statement Once a Cheater...Always a Cheater?
yes, I believe that to be true!!!
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| Posted 4/6/06 6:03 PM |
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lvdolphins
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Re: Do You Believe in the Statement Once a Cheater...Always a Cheater?
Yes
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| Posted 4/6/06 6:13 PM |
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traceyd
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Re: Do You Believe in the Statement Once a Cheater...Always a Cheater?
Definately!
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| Posted 4/6/06 7:48 PM |
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05mommy09
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Re: Do You Believe in the Statement Once a Cheater...Always a Cheater?
Yes-
However I dont necessarily mean the person will continue doing the actually cheating,(although- it many cases that is what happens) .. I know I could never forget... so in my heart, I would always feel that SO was a cheater...
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| Posted 4/6/06 8:03 PM |
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MrsRbk
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Re: Do You Believe in the Statement Once a Cheater...Always a Cheater?
Yes, I believe it!
My ex (was with him for 8 years) cheated and cheated when we were together (I know, I'm an idiot for staying as long as I did) A year after breaking up he wanted to reconcile, he changed..yada, yada yada... I later find out the whole time he was trying to get back with me HE WAS ENGAGED!!!! After he got married, and I mean RIGHT after, he was trying to get me into bed, I also know he was meeting up with women he met on the internet and having sex with them.
I've heard he is still married.... bless his poor wife!
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| Posted 4/6/06 8:30 PM |
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Elizabeth
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Re: Do You Believe in the Statement Once a Cheater...Always a Cheater?
I totally believe it.
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| Posted 4/6/06 8:52 PM |
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KPtoys
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Re: Do You Believe in the Statement Once a Cheater...Always a Cheater?
I don't believe it.
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| Posted 4/6/06 8:57 PM |
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Porrruss
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Re: Do You Believe in the Statement Once a Cheater...Always a Cheater?
Almost 20 years ago (and after 20 years of marriage)my father cheated on my mother. He almost lost everything- and did everything in his power to make it up to my mom. As much as it broke my mother's heart, she knew she loved him, forgave him, and took him back.
My father and I had "a talk" right before my wedding about that time (I was about 13 then). He cried when he told me how sorry he was for that lapse in judgement. That he would spend the rest of his life feeling regret, and is still thanking God that she forgave him, because she is everything to him.
Once a cheater, ALWAYS a cheater? - Absolutely not!
Amy
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Salason
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Re: Do You Believe in the Statement Once a Cheater...Always a Cheater?
Posted by nrthshgrl
I believe there are 2 types of cheaters - serial cheaters and situational cheaters.
Serial cheaters - yes once a cheater, always a cheater. For example a close friend of mine who cheated on every girlfriend and will probably cheat on his wife because he doesn't have it in him to be a monogamous guy (I know, I know..why get married in the first place..)
Situational cheaters - I think there are people that cheat for a reason, lack of love & attention from spouse, mid-life crisis, depression, etc. I have a relative that was in a marriage for years, begging her husband to talk to her, etc. Her husband was completely emotionally detached for years. Eventually, she befriended a guy (no coincidence on this one) and began an affair. Now that her marriage is over, I can tell you that this once faithful girl with a 15+ year marriage behind her, wouldn't consider cheating on her boyfriend.
very well put!
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| Posted 4/6/06 9:34 PM |
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patchyfogg
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Re: Do You Believe in the Statement Once a Cheater...Always a Cheater?
You forgot the once a cheater, always a cheater corollary:
If you're married to a serial cheater, just attribute it to a vast right wing conspiracy.
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| Posted 4/7/06 3:24 PM |
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LAMGAJ28
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Re: Do You Believe in the Statement Once a Cheater...Always a Cheater?
Absolutely !!!
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| Posted 4/7/06 5:03 PM |
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Diane
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Re: Do You Believe in the Statement Once a Cheater...Always a Cheater?
yep
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| Posted 4/7/06 5:06 PM |
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Baboots
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Re: Do You Believe in the Statement Once a Cheater...Always a Cheater?
Posted by preshy7
yes for people who are married
i know people that cheated on bf/gf when they were younger....got married and are completely faithful
and i know others who cheat married and keep cheating
it all depends
True. I agree.
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| Posted 4/7/06 5:08 PM |
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Mommyof2
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Re: Do You Believe in the Statement Once a Cheater...Always a Cheater?
I don't believe it. I think sometimes people can make really bad judgement calls. My Fh cheated on me once a few years ago. He was in college and ran into an old friend from high school. He started talking to her about me and our son and how things just weren't going so well between us. They ignited that old friendship and eventually slept together. Afterwards, he ended things with her and confessed completely to me. We fought like crazy about it and I mean neighbors nearly calling the cops crazy. So we took a long break from each other and over time we started to be civil to each other again and started talking again. We got back together after a while, making this the third time. Third times the charm!
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| Posted 4/7/06 6:19 PM |
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SweetestOfPeas
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Re: Do You Believe in the Statement Once a Cheater...Always a Cheater?
definitely! and even if a man reforms himself, the trust is lost, IMO.
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| Posted 4/7/06 6:28 PM |
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