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kahlua716
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Re: do you ever feel like a registry is ballsy?
Posted by MST9106
Posted by carolinep24
doesn;t bother me... it gives the gift giver more to choose from.
what bugs me is people registering for an ENGAGEMENT party..
OR a House-Warming party
There was a thread about this on LIW the other day. The bride didn't register for her Engagement and told her family and friends to spread the word that they only want Cash gifts. She was getting pisssed because she heard a few people bought her actual gifts (like a picture frame or something).
I think asking for cash specifically is more ballsy than a registry
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Re: do you ever feel like a registry is ballsy?
If you have guests who would purchase a $1300 vase, then why not? They should have a variety of price ranges though for us poorer folk though. 
I know someone who registered for DVDs, video games and bags of dog food.  That's ballsy. The whole registry looked like they were registering for Christmas and for their groceries!
I put some furniture and decor pieces on our C&B registry that were around $300-400 each. I know I have family members who were probably complaining about how ballsy that was, since they were out of the $30-100 range that people normally give. But I did it for the discount afterward.
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yankinmanc
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Re: do you ever feel like a registry is ballsy?
Yes, I do. My husbands cousin registered for one of these for her wedding... How rediculous is that???
I only registered at Fortunoff when I got married for kitchenware...but I don't buy off of registries for people, so if you invite me to your wedding, expect something that I actually thought about!!!
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Shelly
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Re: do you ever feel like a registry is ballsy?
Posted by carolinep24
what bugs me is people registering for an ENGAGEMENT party
That's funny. In my family and our circle of friends, everyone registers for an engagement party. Usually people don't bring presents to a wedding (its mostly cash or check).
But we also don't have baby showers. Only bris' and namings.
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MST9106
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Re: do you ever feel like a registry is ballsy?
Posted by racheeeee
Yes, I do. My husbands cousin registered for one of these for her wedding...IMAGE How rediculous is that???
I only registered at Fortunoff when I got married for kitchenware...but I don't buy off of registries for people, so if you invite me to your wedding, expect something that I actually thought about!!!
Well...to be honest...it looks like it could serve a good purpose in marriage...especially when things go a little "stale"...
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PreshusSmurf
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Re: do you ever feel like a registry is ballsy?
Personally I don't think a registry is ballsy at all. I think it makes it more convenient for guests to be able to purchase something in their price range that they know the couple will love! (I actually hate going to engagement parties where the couple didn't register!! )
Some big ticket items that people put on their registry could be considered ballsy, but like others said very often the couple doesn't expect anyone to buy those things for them .... they just put the items on so they could get a discount later. And very often a group (bridesmaids, aunts, etc.) end up chipping in together to buy one of those items.
DH & I already live together and have a lot of small appliances, every day dishes, etc. We live in a small apartment.
I guess we're like that couple some of you were at, because we registered for things for our *future house* ... which we don't have yet.
I don't understand why it would be taboo for us to put new kitchen gadgets on our registry, even though we haven't been able to afford a house yet?!!?!?
Our wedding gifts are piled into a closet, so that we'll have new things for our new house (when we buy one!).
And I may get flamed for this ... but in my opinion, its BALLSY when a couple takes the time to register for gifts, and people go out and buy them some OTHER RANDOM gift. I don't think I'll ever understand why people do that?!?!
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Laura1976
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Re: do you ever feel like a registry is ballsy?
i knew someone who registered for all sorts of clinique products for her wedding registry!
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HeathKernandez
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Re: do you ever feel like a registry is ballsy?
Posted by kahlua716
Posted by MST9106
Posted by carolinep24
doesn;t bother me... it gives the gift giver more to choose from.
what bugs me is people registering for an ENGAGEMENT party..
OR a House-Warming party
There was a thread about this on LIW the other day. The bride didn't register for her Engagement and told her family and friends to spread the word that they only want Cash gifts. She was getting pisssed because she heard a few people bought her actual gifts (like a picture frame or something).
omg I saw that trainwreck.
and then KING MELISSA came in on her throne and ate a subway sandwich
I think asking for cash specifically is more ballsy than a registry
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HeathKernandez
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Re: do you ever feel like a registry is ballsy?
Posted by Shelly
Posted by carolinep24
what bugs me is people registering for an ENGAGEMENT party
That's funny. In my family and our circle of friends, everyone registers for an engagement party. Usually people don't bring presents to a wedding (its mostly cash or check).
But we also don't have baby showers. Only bris' and namings.
do you have bridal showers? b/c why register for an engagement party if you're also going to have a bridal shower... that's how I see it...
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Shelly
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Re: do you ever feel like a registry is ballsy?
Posted by carolinep24
do you have bridal showers? b/c why register for an engagement party if you're also going to have a bridal shower... that's how I see it...
I see your point, but people buy things from the registry for the engagement party, which can be a year or so before the bridal shower. The bridal shower is usually whats left or lingerie. I never thought it was odd.
So if people don't register for the engagement party, what do you bring for gifts? Is the resgistry solely for the bridal shower?
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Re: do you ever feel like a registry is ballsy?
Posted by nferrandi
They live in a one bedroom apartment and wouldn't even have the room for this stuff if they tried.
That's when I thought when my friends registerd for a wine refridgerator. And they aren't even big wine drinkers!
They also registerd at Michael C. Fina . and that was all  ! I was taken aback at first, but there was more normal stuff on their Fortunoff registry. I bought them a waffle iron.
The groom later mentioned that the fancy stuff was for her family & her parents friends to buy , b/c if they didn't register for it they 'd buy that kind of stuff anyway.
Sometimes people just get carried away though & figure "hey, let's register for it, if someone buys it--cool, but if not, whatever."
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kahlua716
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Re: do you ever feel like a registry is ballsy?
Posted by PreshusSmurf
DH & I already live together and have a lot of small appliances, every day dishes, etc. We live in a small apartment.
I guess we're like that couple some of you were at, because we registered for things for our *future house* ... which we don't have yet.
We did this too 
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HeathKernandez
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Re: do you ever feel like a registry is ballsy?
Posted by Shelly
Posted by carolinep24
do you have bridal showers? b/c why register for an engagement party if you're also going to have a bridal shower... that's how I see it...
I see your point, but people buy things from the registry for the engagement party, which can be a year or so before the bridal shower. The bridal shower is usually whats left or lingerie. I never thought it was odd.
So if people don't register for the engagement party, what do you bring for gifts? Is the resgistry solely for the bridal shower?
we don't have engagement parties in my family... Yes. In my experience, someone registers for their shower. I have seen people register for an engagement party and THEN for a shower (but this is going back a long time ago)
When I DO go to a friends, Of course I'll buy off their registry or give them $. In all honesty only 2 people I knew had them. ANd they were more than 7 years ago. I guess they're more common now.
a Bridal shower is a big enough deal, I dont see needing a year to clean up your registry is necessary. So you will buy something off the registry and then buy something ELSE for the shower?
When you have a big family, it's too much --IMO of course.
If we threw engagement parties into the mix I would have an event to go to almost EVERY month. *I* think they're frivilous.. Unless it was something casual.
but I don't judge people FOR having one. To each his own.
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DaniJude
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Re: do you ever feel like a registry is ballsy?
yeah i've seen some ballsy registries too...
i don't quite understand the "it gives you more to choose from" b/c one ballsy registry in particular that comes to mind (it was about two years ago) had nothing BUT $400+ items on it - so, in reality, there was LESS to choose from b/c how am i going to buy a $400 item for someone's bridal shower? i mean, it was a distant relative of DH - my price point for her was about $50-$60 tops.
she didn't have one single item under $280 on her registry - the average was around $375-$400. everything was very high-end crystal and her registry was at bloomingdales and saks fifth avenue.
i ended up having to go in on a gift with a small army of other relatives just to be able to afford something... i ended up, to be able to chip in, spending a little more than what i wanted to (about $80 total). the girl who was being showered then came to my shower about a year later: showed up late, didn't say hello or congrats to me, left early and gave nothing only to have my MIL call her and say something about it lol i guess you can say my MIL is pretty ballsy herself!  so she sent a $25 gift two weeks later.
you really can't make this stuff up
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Shelly
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Re: do you ever feel like a registry is ballsy?
Posted by carolinep24
we don't have engagement parties in my family... Yes. In my experience, someone registers for their shower. I have seen people register for an engagement party and THEN for a shower (but this is going back a long time ago)
When I DO go to a friends, Of course I'll buy off their registry or give them $. In all honesty only 2 people I knew had them. ANd they were more than 7 years ago. I guess they're more common now.
a Bridal shower is a big enough deal, I dont see needing a year to clean up your registry is necessary. So you will buy something off the registry and then buy something ELSE for the shower?
When you have a big family, it's too much --IMO of course.
If we threw engagement parties into the mix I would have an event to go to almost EVERY month. *I* think they're frivilous.. Unless it was something casual.
but I don't judge people FOR having one. To each his own.
Its so funny how different families are. We have a small family, but even amongst my friends bridal showers are not a big deal. Its really just close friends and family in someone's home with home cooked food or bagels and spreads. I was at 1 bridal shower that was at a restaurant.
Engagement parties are much bigger with the whole extended family and are often catered or held outside the home.
ETA: I am not laughing at you. I'm laughing at how different our families' traditions are.
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PreshusSmurf
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Re: do you ever feel like a registry is ballsy?
Posted by kahlua716
Posted by PreshusSmurf
DH & I already live together and have a lot of small appliances, every day dishes, etc. We live in a small apartment.
I guess we're like that couple some of you were at, because we registered for things for our *future house* ... which we don't have yet.
We did this too
Glad to see I'm not the only one ....
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Jax430
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Re: do you ever feel like a registry is ballsy?
Posted by Shelly
Posted by carolinep24
what bugs me is people registering for an ENGAGEMENT party
That's funny. In my family and our circle of friends, everyone registers for an engagement party. Usually people don't bring presents to a wedding (its mostly cash or check).
But we also don't have baby showers. Only bris' and namings.
See, in my experience, people just register after they get engaged, and people buy them gifts for it for their engagement (whether or not there's a party), shower, and even wedding if they want.
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Re: do you ever feel like a registry is ballsy?
I guess I don't really care nor do I judge what people put on their registries. If I cannot afford items from the registry then I will purchase something else not from the registry.
I understand people wanting/needing an array of price ranges (I certainly had all price points on mine) however, I also refuse to register for stuff that I do not want just so that it will be affordable to people.
Everyone has different standards of living and expectations and it is unfair to judge someone based on our own standards. Someone of wealthier means may turn up their nose at a registry with many items under $150...
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bluegreen08
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Re: do you ever feel like a registry is ballsy?
I can see why the idea of a registry in general would be "ballsy" in the buy-me-this! sense, but I understand too that it can also be convenient for guests.
However, I wouldn't have a problem with the original registry at all. If you are going to register, register for what you really want because this might be your one chance to get it. Just because someone lives in a 1br apt now doesn't mean they wont have a house later. We live in a pretty spacious 2br apt while I'm finishing up law school, and we plan to stay here one more year until I graduate. Does that mean I shouldn't be allowed to register for the same things as the next bride?
I also have no problem with the GPS system. I have one, and love it. If the couple would rather have that than a KitchenAid mixer who am I to judge?
My only problem with registries is if you only have very expensive items. We put everything from $1.99 stemless wine glasses to a Dyson vaccuum on ours, with plenty of things in the $19.99 to $60 range. We don't expect people to buy us anything in particular, but I'd hate to be judged by my friends and family for what we do register for. 
BTW: we registered for all kinds of kitchen appliances! (and by appliances I mean toaster oven, mini deep fryer, cuisinart griddler, blender, etc... not dishwasher, fridge, microwave etc)
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Re: do you ever feel like a registry is ballsy?
I think it's ment to make people laugh....
IMHO I don't understand it either and I find it rude.
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Re: do you ever feel like a registry is ballsy?
I've done some  when I've seen people's registries. but honestly, who am I to judge?
just b/c they live in a 1 bedroom apt, doesn't mean they will forever. DH and I registered for a lot of stuff that is sitting in my parents basement, sadly. when we finally do buy a house, it will all be used.
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Re: do you ever feel like a registry is ballsy?
To me it's a wish list. We had some pretty expensive things on there but if we didn't get it it was no big deal. Some places will give you a good discount on things that were not bought off the registry
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Re: do you ever feel like a registry is ballsy?
Posted by MST9106
Posted by carolinep24
doesn;t bother me... it gives the gift giver more to choose from.
what bugs me is people registering for an ENGAGEMENT party..
OR a House-Warming party
registering for a houewarming party is pretty ballsy IMO.
i son't like ti when i look at a bridal registrey and some of the gifts are extrememly expensive. i was looking at a registry for someones shower and they had a cake topper for $700  that's insane. i just purchase what i can afford
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Re: do you ever feel like a registry is ballsy?
Posted by PreshusSmurf
And I may get flamed for this ... but in my opinion, its BALLSY when a couple takes the time to register for gifts, and people go out and buy them some OTHER RANDOM gift. I don't think I'll ever understand why people do that?!?!
Not flaming, but I disagree completely. It's a gift, and the recipient should be grateful they were on the receiving end of someone's generosity. Getting annoyed because it wasn't the exact gift they picked out for themselves is a little much.
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PreshusSmurf
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Re: do you ever feel like a registry is ballsy?
Posted by JessInCA
Posted by PreshusSmurf
And I may get flamed for this ... but in my opinion, its BALLSY when a couple takes the time to register for gifts, and people go out and buy them some OTHER RANDOM gift. I don't think I'll ever understand why people do that?!?!
Not flaming, but I disagree completely. It's a gift, and the recipient should be grateful they were on the receiving end of someone's generosity. Getting annoyed because it wasn't the exact gift they picked out for themselves is a little much.
To each their own, we are all entitled to our opinions ...
And you are correct, we should all be grateful to receive any gift at all .... no one ever has to buy us anything! I didn't mean to seem a ungrateful ...
But I just have to  and when I received a gift of a crystal bowl that was the same price point from the same store where I registered for a bowl that was of my taste.
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