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nrthshgrl
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Re: Do you know anyone with questionable parenting skills?
Posted by kaklesmay
YES. a family member.
They left their 1 yr old in the car over night in the winter because they got wasted and "forgot" to bring her inside when they got home.
Shes lucky to be alive. And this isnt the first incident nor the last.
  
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Diva
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Re: Do you know anyone with questionable parenting skills?
I know way too many people like this.
A distant cousin who keeps having children even when she shouldnt. She loves them as newborns, but once they hit 3, she wants nothing to do with them. Her elderly mother ends up taking care of them. It doesnt help that she has 3 baby daddys, none of them involved in thier childrens' lives.
An ex-friend who is so obssessed with her child's father, that she cant go one day without him. She lives in a well to do neighborhood, so her child goes to that school district. But because she has to be with the boyfriend all the time, she and the baby stay with him and she drives the child to and from everyday. As messed up as this situation is, it doesnt help that they all sleep on the same air matress and that she wakes her daughter up at 6am in the morning to drive her to the schoolbus stop.
I used to be close to this one girl, but we barely talk anymore. Anyway, she's got the perfect kids. I adore them and wish they were my own. But because she's either in a drug or s*x phase, she always has different men running in and out of her place, and her children have found compromising pictures of her on their home pc. At 8 and 10 years old, these kids are self sufficient. They wake themselves up, cook and clean, and get to school all by themselves. It really is a shame.
Another ex-friend who raised a son on his own for 4 years. He was doing well until he met "the love of his life". They got married and she decided she didnt like his son. So he sent his son to his mother to take care of. Meanwhile, she has two daughters from a previous relationship, and together they raise the girls. It sad that his son wasn't good enough, and sadder that the son knows it.
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| Posted 1/25/07 12:39 PM |
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CathyB
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Re: Do you know anyone with questionable parenting skills?
Posted by Ambersmom
There's days when I question if I'm a good parent. The occassional curseword flies and I get the parrot reaction from the backseat I try not to laugh though when I hear my words repeated in a tiny voice "Learn how to f'ing drive buddy!". 
I'm sure there's plenty of other things that I could be judged on by others. Like that I co-sleep with her, I let her stay up later than she should, etc.
Sharon, you're a great mom! We all feel this way sometimes. 
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happydays
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Re: Do you know anyone with questionable parenting skills?
Unfortunately, yes. Several, in fact. And it is difficult to say nothing, because according to them I do not know what I am talking about.
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Goldi0218
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Re: Do you know anyone with questionable parenting skills?
Posted by melijane
Posted by cpanyc
Yes. DH and I just use them as a learning tool of what we DON'T want to do when we become parents.
Agreed. I don't judge others but i just take note of the behavior and decide it is not the way I would want to be. On another note i don't feel cursing makes you a questionable parent. I don't really think cursing is that bad in the proper situations! I think we coddle children too much
No, No. I do agree with you. It doesn't make you a bad parent. Cursing in and of itself has its place. It isnt always pleasant to hear, but it happens and we are human. Sometimes parents "slip" in front of their children - we all make mistakes.
However, I am referring to a constant pattern of language where every other word is an expletive. Kids repeat. Not all kids are capable of understanding that cursing in certain situations (i.e. school, towards elders etc.) isn't appropriate or could feasibly have negative consequences. And yes, sometimes kids DO need to experience those consequences. It helps them grow and learn.
Personally, I don't like the sounds of curse words out of the mouths of children. I guess, IMO, that it takes a little bit of their innocence away. I was seriously disciplined when and if I ever cursed in my house - though not physically. That was the only time my father ever raised his voice to me. Times have changed.
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DRMom
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Re: Do you know anyone with questionable parenting skills?
Posted by Goldi0218
Posted by melijane
Posted by cpanyc
Yes. DH and I just use them as a learning tool of what we DON'T want to do when we become parents.
Agreed. I don't judge others but i just take note of the behavior and decide it is not the way I would want to be. On another note i don't feel cursing makes you a questionable parent. I don't really think cursing is that bad in the proper situations! I think we coddle children too much
No, No. I do agree with you. It doesn't make you a bad parent. Cursing in and of itself has its place. It isnt always pleasant to hear, but it happens and we are human. Sometimes parents "slip" in front of their children - we all make mistakes.
However, I am referring to a constant pattern of language where every other word is an expletive. Kids repeat. Not all kids are capable of understanding that cursing in certain situations (i.e. school, towards elders etc.) isn't appropriate or could feasibly have negative consequences. And yes, sometimes kids DO need to experience those consequences. It helps them grow and learn.
Personally, I don't like the sounds of curse words out of the mouths of children. I guess, IMO, that it takes a little bit of their innocence away. I was seriously disciplined when and if I ever cursed in my house - though not physically. That was the only time my father ever raised his voice to me. Times have changed.
Thats definitely tru. Kids shouldn't curse. And when they're 2 or 3 it is a given that they are like little parrots that repeat you as part of language development. IMO you should be able to teach your children as they get older there are things adults say that are not appropriate for children to say. I happen to know someone who curses a LOT in front of her kids and they never do. they are great kids and we have others in the same age range who are not so great. I have seen some other kids I knwo have some issues because their Mom gets very frustrated with them.
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Tany
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Re: Do you know anyone with questionable parenting skills?
Posted by Ambersmom
There's days when I question if I'm a good parent. The occassional curseword flies and I get the parrot reaction from the backseat I try not to laugh though when I hear my words repeated in a tiny voice "Learn how to f'ing drive buddy!".
I'm sure there's plenty of other things that I could be judged on by others. Like that I co-sleep with her, I let her stay up later than she should, etc.
I agree with Sharon.
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yankinmanc
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Re: Do you know anyone with questionable parenting skills?
Yeah me! I take crap care of my kid!!! But like the song from Titanic, he seems to go on!!!
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Lanabean
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Re: Do you know anyone with questionable parenting skills?
Posted by racheeeee
Yeah me! I take crap care of my kid!!! But like the song from Titanic, he seems to go on!!!
OMG! ha ha ha!!!
that's hysterical!
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Tany
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Re: Do you know anyone with questionable parenting skills?
Posted by Diva
I know way too many people like this.
A distant cousin who keeps having children even when she shouldnt. She loves them as newborns, but once they hit 3, she wants nothing to do with them. Her elderly mother ends up taking care of them. It doesnt help that she has 3 baby daddys, none of them involved in thier childrens' lives.
An ex-friend who is so obssessed with her child's father, that she cant go one day without him. She lives in a well to do neighborhood, so her child goes to that school district. But because she has to be with the boyfriend all the time, she and the baby stay with him and she drives the child to and from everyday. As messed up as this situation is, it doesnt help that they all sleep on the same air matress and that she wakes her daughter up at 6am in the morning to drive her to the schoolbus stop.
I used to be close to this one girl, but we barely talk anymore. Anyway, she's got the perfect kids. I adore them and wish they were my own. But because she's either in a drug or s*x phase, she always has different men running in and out of her place, and her children have found compromising pictures of her on their home pc. At 8 and 10 years old, these kids are self sufficient. They wake themselves up, cook and clean, and get to school all by themselves. It really is a shame.
Another ex-friend who raised a son on his own for 4 years. He was doing well until he met "the love of his life". They got married and she decided she didnt like his son. So he sent his son to his mother to take care of. Meanwhile, she has two daughters from a previous relationship, and together they raise the girls. It sad that his son wasn't good enough, and sadder that the son knows it.
omg Jenn, I'm crying reading this.
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CaseyGirl
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Re: Do you know anyone with questionable parenting skills?
Yes and her initials are B.S.
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