Re: Do you share the same parenting style with your Mommy friends?

Posted by MrsBumbleb

I guess I meant really personality of mom more, think Kate Gosslein scolding her husband in public for every little thing a kid is going to do or the mommy who talks to her 5 yr old like they're 25 explaining every little detail about a situation in depth, or the mom who is scolding their child in the middle of a b-day party because all of her friends wanted to eat a potato chip before the pizza so she did too. Yes, this was my experience all in the span of about 2.5 hours with 3 different moms.

Re: Do you share the same parenting style with your Mommy friends?

I don't think I share a parenting style with anyone!
I am in a class ALL BY MYSELF!

Re: Do you share the same parenting style with your Mommy friends?

I think its a mix. My girlfriends and I have little tolerance for bratty kids and we do our best to keep our kids in check and make sure they're polite and well behaved.

We all did CIO, the kids always sleep in their bedrooms, bedtime routines, etc. Of course special occasions and things are different. We're all pretty laid back but have rules and the kids have to follow them.

However, my best friend and I are COMPLETELY different. But she will complain how her kids don't sleep and her 5 year old is still in her bed. She wont' put her foot down about it and she's always exhausted. How she is handling the situation is much different how I would. She'd never do it my way

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nope

Honestly the three of us moms with young kids at work are utterly different as you can be. But its neat cause we all get something out of eachother.

One actually has 3 teens so she's the true BTDT. The other has 4 kids (3 teens one 5yr old). I'm the lone ranger with a solo.

One has issues with way over protective, helicopter mom type thing going. But a lot of what she says does make sense in a way. The other is super duper lay back, let the kids be kids and those kids are very respectful, mature and independent, which is impressive to me. Then there's me. A mix of a lot of stuff.

They both made fun of me (To the point where I was thinking it was noy funny anymore and told one to basically STFU) about the Rear Facing car seat. Only a few months after I turned her around the story re-broke and she came over to apologize.


I think different parenting styles are good to hear. "Healthy" if you will.. haha. Afterall, that's why I like this site so much. No one way fits all and generally the mob mentality is relatively low.

Message edited 6/13/2011 10:09:20 AM.

Re: Do you share the same parenting style with your Mommy friends?

Yes and no. I think that some of our "core beliefs" on child rearing are pretty similar but I think that our actual parenting styles differ to some degree.

As an example, I tend to be more routine with my DD, she knows what to expect in her day, she has the same nap time and bedtime every day, and I strongly believe that having rituals and routines with your kids really help to keep them on track and honestly, function better throughout the day. I am NOT rigid by any means but I think everyone, adults and kids, do better when they have routines. KWIM? Some of my friends don't really have the routines and rituals that I have with me DD.

Even though we don't do everything the same way it doesn't really cause any stress or issues amongst us as friends. Everyone has their own way of doing things. I might not always agree necessarily with how my friends handle things with their children but I do respect their role as a parent and I would never question them or make an issue of it. To each his own. I respect the fact that we all have a different way with our kids.

Re: Do you share the same parenting style with your Mommy friends?

nope. and it doesn't bother me all that much.

I don't expect them to be like me either, so it works.

Re: Do you share the same parenting style with your Mommy friends?

Posted by headoverheels

Posted by MrsBumbleb

I guess I meant really personality of mom more, think Kate Gosslein scolding her husband in public for every little thing a kid is going to do or the mommy who talks to her 5 yr old like they're 25 explaining every little detail about a situation in depth, or the mom who is scolding their child in the middle of a b-day party because all of her friends wanted to eat a potato chip before the pizza so she did too. Yes, this was my experience all in the span of about 2.5 hours with 3 different moms.

Why the eye roll? I sincerely don't get that. You might not agree with it, but it doesn't make it wrong. There are some great, great mommies on here who parent the way you are describing and I would hate for them to feel that you were rolling your eyes at them

Re: Do you share the same parenting style with your Mommy friends?

Posted by Ophelia

Posted by headoverheels

Posted by MrsBumbleb

I guess I meant really personality of mom more, think Kate Gosslein scolding her husband in public for every little thing a kid is going to do or the mommy who talks to her 5 yr old like they're 25 explaining every little detail about a situation in depth, or the mom who is scolding their child in the middle of a b-day party because all of her friends wanted to eat a potato chip before the pizza so she did too. Yes, this was my experience all in the span of about 2.5 hours with 3 different moms.

Why the eye roll? I sincerely don't get that. You might not agree with it, but it doesn't make it wrong. There are some great, great mommies on here who parent the way you are describing and I would hate for them to feel that you were rolling your eyes at them

that's ME and I don't care.



btw, almost everyone I know thinks I am insane. I will not let luce CIO alone (though I did let him cry with me for 10 mins last night since I am trying to wean him) I am STILL weaning of BF, he sleeps with us, we take he to restaurants, and we explain his world to him, in words that WE us...so I am worse, I talk to him like a 36-year-old



anyone wanna hang?

Message edited 6/13/2011 10:44:44 AM.

Re: Do you share the same parenting style with your Mommy friends?

Posted by Ophelia

anyone wanna hang?

Re: Do you share the same parenting style with your Mommy friends?

I only have one close friend with a DD, and she is kind of a new mom too - I think we are learning together and I get great advice from her. I am sure there are things we will disagree on but I trust her opinion. I know she is just as psychotic as I am about safety and health - and to me, that is all that matters. The other stuff like discipline or play styles, don't really matter in the end! (to me, anyway lol)


I dont feel embarrassed to tell her the "bad" stuff I do like rock DD to sleep and I feel comfortable telling her if I think she should know about something!

Re: Do you share the same parenting style with your Mommy friends?

Posted by Tilde

I only have one close friend with a DD, and she is kind of a new mom too - I think we are learning together and I get great advice from her. I am sure there are things we will disagree on but I trust her opinion. I know she is just as psychotic as I am about safety and health - and to me, that is all that matters. The other stuff like discipline or play styles, don't really matter in the end! (to me, anyway lol)


I dont feel embarrassed to tell her the "bad" stuff I do like rock DD to sleep and I feel comfortable telling her if I think she should know about something!

Re: Do you share the same parenting style with your Mommy friends?

Posted by JennZ

No. I run a tight ship, and have little time or patience for BS. Im not the get on their level and talk mom. That didnt fly in our house growing up. It doesnt fly in mine now. I expect certain things and dont budge on it to much. We have rules, and they need to be followed. i believe in a smack in the asss, if you are being a brat. Im not the friend mom. Im the bad cop.

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No. I am old school and people don't like it. TFB. I make choices for my kids that many people think they should make for themselves. I'm sorry but kids don't rule my roost. When they pay rent, they get a say. And if they tantrum...so be it.

Message edited 6/13/2011 1:30:53 PM.

Re: Do you share the same parenting style with your Mommy friends?

Posted by NervousNell

I don't think I share a parenting style with anyone!
I am in a class ALL BY MYSELF!

Re: Do you share the same parenting style with your Mommy friends?

I think, at the end of the day, we are all unique in one way another. Of course we can all put ourselves into certain "categories"to which we may think apply to us whether it be "old school" "crunchy granola" etc......


For me,I think it might be easier to "gel" with a mom whose parenting style is similar to mine but it doesn't mean I wouldn't befriend someone who is different.

At the end of the day, I want to have a friend who I can laugh and relax with and who can respect me for my different style. Most of all, I would want her to be a good mom. The same goes for LIF. There are some women on here that may parent differently whom I happen to adore. We may not agree all the time, but they will always be quick with a hug or words of encouragement. Who knows? We may actually learn a thing or two from each other in the process.

Re: Do you share the same parenting style with your Mommy friends?

Posted by 2PreciousBlessings

Posted by JennZ

No. I run a tight ship, and have little time or patience for BS. Im not the get on their level and talk mom. That didnt fly in our house growing up. It doesnt fly in mine now. I expect certain things and dont budge on it to much. We have rules, and they need to be followed. i believe in a smack in the asss, if you are being a brat. Im not the friend mom. Im the bad cop.

You and I both!!! This is how DH and I were raised and we will raise our kids the same.

Re: Do you share the same parenting style with your Mommy friends?

Posted by headoverheels

Posted by Ophelia

anyone wanna hang?

As long as you don't when I do CIO in the car with Izzie

Re: Do you share the same parenting style with your Mommy friends?

Posted by Janice

Posted by 2PreciousBlessings

Posted by JennZ

No. I run a tight ship, and have little time or patience for BS. Im not the get on their level and talk mom. That didnt fly in our house growing up. It doesnt fly in mine now. I expect certain things and dont budge on it to much. We have rules, and they need to be followed. i believe in a smack in the asss, if you are being a brat. Im not the friend mom. Im the bad cop.

You and I both!!! This is how DH and I were raised and we will raise our kids the same.

I am told all the time that I am way too hard on my kids. Then 2 seconds later they tell me that the kids are so well behaved.

ahhh, yeah??? they know i mean business.

Message edited 6/13/2011 2:33:07 PM.

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Re: Do you share the same parenting style with your Mommy friends?

I think many of us are similar in style.

None of us believe in hitting our children because we've lost control of the situation and most of us split parenting responsibilities with our spouses versus being expected to "do our womanly duties."

We differ in a few did CIO and few did not, a few snipped the sons while some were adamant it not happen. Maybe a third had baptisms/christenings while the rest did not.

So far all the kids in our group and very well behaved both at home and in public so we must be doing something right.

Re: Do you share the same parenting style with your Mommy friends?

For the most part. I think your parenting style kind of goes with your overall personality so it's kind of hard to be friends with people whose personality you clash with.

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