Do you think this is bad/creating bad habits?

DS is home with DH all day long and DH works nights. Since they VERY rarely leave the house, Chris does not see the need to dress Christopher. He wears the PJs that I put him in.

Do you think that it is confusing to toddler to get dresses at night and wear the same clothes all day long or is it just my hypersensitivity on overload?

(Obviously I know it won't HURT him and DH would change him if he got dirty)

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There are days when we don't go out - and I keep Jack in his pjs till bathtime. We pretty much go out everyday though so it really is rare.

DH doesn't take him out at all during the day? Doesn't he go nutty in the house with a toddler? If we don't go out during the day - we are def. ending in a battle - one that I probably won't win!

I don't think he's having the kind of impact where Christopher will end up playing Xbox in his pjs when he's in his 30's - but I do think changing him out of his pjs wouldn't be such a bad thing either!

ETA: Does he give a reason why he doesn't change him?

Message edited 9/23/2008 7:29:40 PM.

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If I stay in my PJ's until lunchtime I start to get uncomfortable and want fresh clothes. I assume Dd would too.

Most days even if we aren't going out we both get dressed before breakfast. Once in a while we have PJ Day but that usually only applies to the morning.

As long as he's comfortable I don't think it's a bad habit being created, but may lead to battles about getting dressed when you do have to go places.

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Posted by Diana1215

There are days when we don't go out - and I keep Jack in his pjs till bathtime. We pretty much go out everyday though so it really is rare.

DH doesn't take him out at all during the day? Doesn't he go nutty in the house with a toddler? If we don't go out during the day - we are def. ending in a battle - one that I probably won't win!

I don't think he's having the kind of impact where Christopher will end up playing Xbox in his pjs when he's in his 30's - but I do think changing him out of his pjs wouldn't be such a bad thing either!

ETA: Does he give a reason why he doesn't change him?

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I would think not going out would have more impact than changing from PJs to regular clothes.

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Hmm. That's a good question.

Part of me feels like he should definitely get dressed everyday, but I'm not really sure why. I guess just sort of "this is what people do in general society" kind of thing.

Do they not even leave the house to play outside? Because if they do that, I think DH should dress him.

How do you feel about it?

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I dress DD every day, if we go out or not. Growing up we were never allowed to hang around in PJs and I follow that same rule now -- I just think it's inappropriate to be wearing PJs at 2 in the afternoon, KWIM?

But -- more importantly to me -- I would want DH taking him out of the house every day - fresh air, social contact, all that. Even though I know C3 has great social skills, I wouldn't want to be cooped up all day, every day so I wouldn't do that to my kid.

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I know that when I'm in my pjs all day I'm sluggish and I feel that it probably has the same effect on Jack.

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I think you should lay out his clothes in the morning and tell Chris that he needs to dress him. Or, you just dress him before you go to work. I think getting dress is just part of starting the day ya know?

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I am home right now with my DS. Generally, unless his overnight diaper leaks, I leave him in his PJs until after his morning nap (10:30 - 11:00) and then dress him when he wakes up. If we go out of the house earlier than that, I dress him before we go out. I just figure he is more comfortable sleeping in his PJs, and I am always trying to get the longest nap possible.

I think if I was taking him out in the yard, though, I would want him dressed. I guess it doesn't really matter, because they get washed, but I don't think I would want him playing in the grass and stuff in his PJs.

Would it help if you lay out the clothes in advance, as a PP said? I know when I go out early on the weekend, DH always asks me to pick out something for DS to wear and leave it out for him. He finds it easier to dress DS if it's all laid out already. It's not that big of a deal for me to do it, so I do.

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DS gets dressed every single day as part of the morning routine. With that said...

I don't see anything wrong with him not getting dressed. Like you said, if he gets dirty, Chris changes him, but otherwise...there's no biggie in wearing his PJs. I'm sure DS doesn't even know the difference!

And, as far as someone saying you should be concerned about him not going out...WHY? You said they go out with the dog, I guess in the yard. I'm sure he runs around the house all day. Why do they have to go to the park, or the farm or the gym every day all day? I never understood why people feel like they need to GO somewhere every day.

ETS: As long as he doesn't give you a hard time when you do go to dress him...I would say there's nothing to worry about.

Message edited 9/23/2008 9:17:46 PM.

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I just wanted to post something funny that happened today. I had a pair of overalls on Christopher's ottoman in his room and around noon he brought them out to DH and said "anh anh anh" until Chris dressed him

Then he walked to the back window (where our cars are parked) and kept saying "I go car" and waving

So, they took a ride, I just thought it was funny since I posted this last night

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We've been in a routine of getting DS dressed after he has his first bottle since he was born so I'm not sure if not doing that would create a bad habit or not. I do know that my BIL will sometimes leave their girls in their pajamas during the day if they're not going out (he's home with them during the day when SIL is working) but so far it hasn't caused any problems with them not wanting to get dressed.

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Ive asked this question in the past bc the sitter would do this. I am also on the fence bc I do think it is goodd to create a routine with a child but then again at their age i am unsure i it really matters whether they are dressed for the day or comfy cozy. Its not like we see a 50 yr old running around in their jammies bc their parent didnt dress them. Like I said, i am on the fence. Do what you think. Can you dress him before you leave? Even if your dh can put him in a simple pair of sweats then maybe it would lift some of your worries.