Re: Does anyone suscribe to any of the "attachment parenting" theories/beliefs? If so, come on in!

i had no idea what this was until i read what you copied from the website.

i guess we do use this theory - yes.

co-sleep
NO cio
she makes her own schedule
i have worn emma, but with my back & neck, not all the time
not allowing long periods of crying (this one makes dave's mom CRAZY, but i do agree with the mentioned theory - the cry MEANS SOMETHING. em doesn't cry just to cry - she cries if something is wrong, upsetting her).

i didn't know there was a name for how we were doing things most of the time. we just do what works for us, as parents.

Re: Does anyone suscribe to any of the "attachment parenting" theories/beliefs? If so, come on in!

I definitely incorporate some aspects of attachment parenting. I didn't wear DS often, but he wanted to be held 24/7 as a newborn. He was always in my arms. I'd like to wear future children, especially if they need to be held as much as DS. We co-slept for 10 months and then after several illnesses around 12 or 13 months, we started co-sleeping again. I EBF DS. I don't believe in rigid schedules at all. I fed DS on demand and followed his tired and hunger cues. I tried a very modified version of CIO to get DS into the crib. It was awful and I don't know if I will ever feel comfortable trying CIO again. I know it works for some families, but I don't see it working for ours.

Re: Does anyone suscribe to any of the "attachment parenting" theories/beliefs? If so, come on in!

I do lean towards some theories...but not all.

I did not breastfeed, for medical and personal reasons.

I would love to co-sleep with DD and did so when she was a newborn, but she prefers her own space and cannot get comfortable when she is in bed with us. DH and I both say that when/if she wants to sleep with us, we will allow her to.

I do not believe in CIO and tend to DD when she needs to be tended to.

I tried wearing her in a baby carrier, but she hated it, just cried and cried and the carrier was very uncomfortable for me. I think she would just rather be independant.


ETA: I also do not have a rigid schedule for her. I feed her on demand and she naps when she's tired.

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Re: Does anyone suscribe to any of the "attachment parenting" theories/beliefs? If so, come on in!

Posted by hunnybunnyxoxo

total attachment parenting.. not by choice but by instinct.

all the things you listed are things that i've done without subscribing to a style.

i bf, mady slept in a bassinet up to 5/6 months, i wore her in a bjorn when we went outside for walks...

pretty much everything you listed.

i did eventually introduce a modified CiIO but only when i thought she was ready and old enough and only because she left us no choice but to do CIO. ( she got into a habit of waking up everytime we put her in her crib and this would be done 3/4 times in a row)i would be up late getting her back to sleep.
i transitioned her slowly and she no longer wakes up when i put her down to sleep.
i still bf her to sleep though! i have no idea how i will put her to sleep when i stop bfing!!

Re: Does anyone suscribe to any of the "attachment parenting" theories/beliefs? If so, come on in!

Re: Does anyone suscribe to any of the "attachment parenting" theories/beliefs? If so, come on in!

I just go with my natural instinct..

I hold my DS and rock him to sleep (if he lets me - he doesn't always).

We do not co-sleep and I have done CIO but only a few times - my DS is in general a good baby and if he is crying for a long time there is usually a reason (dirty diaper etc).

Re: Does anyone suscribe to any of the "attachment parenting" theories/beliefs? If so, come on in!

We do but ours is a little different story as we adopted our DD at 8 mos. We needed to promote the bonding process.

Re: Does anyone suscribe to any of the "attachment parenting" theories/beliefs? If so, come on in!

Yes there are a few principles that I do and a few that don't quite work out for me. For example I am a firm believer in Bfeeding while I do not like co sleeping so much

Re: Does anyone suscribe to any of the "attachment parenting" theories/beliefs? If so, come on in!

I've done some of these without subscribing to it as a "style" per se, just based on what felt right for me and my family. I EBFd to the extent possible because I loved the bonding experience we had doing it. I carried her a LOT and let her sleep on me, rather than making her nap in a crib. That one kind of backfired because now she WILL NOT nap in a crib, but oh well She went right in a crib after coming home from the hospital because we have two dogs who couldnt be trusted not to dive on top of her in the middle of the night and our room was too small for a bassinet. BUT she did great with that transition; if she hadn't, I would have amended the arrangement.

If we have another one someday I will definitely investigate slings and get a bassinet (if we have a new house).

We did CIO at 6 months to help her learn to fall asleep on her own without being BFd to sleep, but again, she did great. We never had to let her cry for more than a few minutes. I can't say whether I could have endured the extinction CIO.

Whatever feels right for you is the right parenting choice, whatever it's called