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johnsae
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Does your DH help out with nighttime feedings?
Just wondering. DH works hard during the day and is up by 5:30 am, so I feel bad asking him to wake up during the night, but lately her sleep schedule has been bad so I'm considering asking him for help.
Do your DH's help with your baby wakes at night?
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dandr10199
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Re: Does your DH help out with nighttime feedings?
Posted by johnsae
Just wondering. DH works hard during the day and is up by 5:30 am, so I feel bad asking him to wake up during the night, but lately her sleep schedule has been bad so I'm considering asking him for help.
Do your DH's help with your baby wakes at night?
My DH had the same schedule, but after a while I was a crazy witch of a sleep deprived zombie, I finally asked DH for help.
I felt bad asking for help, I felt defeated like I should have been able to it ALL and do it ALL on 1-3 hours of sleep a night. Then, I realized that I was turning into a crazy person and I needed my DH's help. He was the type of man that needs to be asked to a sink full of dishes, even if they are in front of his face and knows they need to be put into the dishwasher.
Don't get me wrong, he is an awesome DH, I needed to learn that he needed me to ask him for help and he was more than happy to help me. I pumped out two bottles an night for him and he took the 1AM and 5AM feedings. I Slept from 11PM-3AM, then from 3AM-7AM. OMG! This was the best thing for my sanity, my DD and my marriage. HTH. Having BTDT, I definately vote to ask him for help, he might surprise you. No doubt he sees that you are sleep deprived and need the help, but as my DH thought, he might be thinking that you do not want him to help. There is no harm in asking. 
Message edited 8/19/2007 2:40:21 PM.
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| Posted 8/19/07 2:39 PM |
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heidla
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Re: Does your DH help out with nighttime feedings?
I have asked a couple of times that if DS has awakened a lot during the night and wakes close to when DH is getting up anyway to feed him for me. I know that he works all day, but so do I. I just don't get paid.
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| Posted 8/19/07 2:44 PM |
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monkeybride
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Re: Does your DH help out with nighttime feedings?
Message edited 11/24/2007 10:07:09 PM.
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| Posted 8/19/07 2:48 PM |
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smdl
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Re: Does your DH help out with nighttime feedings?
I don't ask him. But he usually helps on the weekend and relieve me for some feedings. Day and VERY early feeding at 5am like this morning. I was so tired, I could not even move.
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| Posted 8/19/07 2:58 PM |
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MrsBlueSash
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Re: Does your DH help out with nighttime feedings?
I do not while I'm home and DH is working.
One schedule that worked for my girlfriend is that she fed her DD at 7pm and went to bed. Her DH gave the baby her 10:30 bottle then he went to bed, then my friend was up at midnight for that bottle and any other nighttime feedings. That way she at least got close to 5 hours straight of sleep.
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| Posted 8/19/07 3:32 PM |
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ddunne2
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Re: Does your DH help out with nighttime feedings?
Posted by MrsBlueSash
I do not while I'm home and DH is working.
One schedule that worked for my girlfriend is that she fed her DD at 7pm and went to bed. Her DH gave the baby her 10:30 bottle then he went to bed, then my friend was up at midnight for that bottle and any other nighttime feedings. That way she at least got close to 5 hours straight of sleep.
That is what DH and I would do when both kids were infants.
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| Posted 8/19/07 3:39 PM |
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ana6178
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Re: Does your DH help out with nighttime feedings?
Posted by MrsBlueSash
I do not while I'm home and DH is working.
One schedule that worked for my girlfriend is that she fed her DD at 7pm and went to bed. Her DH gave the baby her 10:30 bottle then he went to bed, then my friend was up at midnight for that bottle and any other nighttime feedings. That way she at least got close to 5 hours straight of sleep.
This what we did. It was the only way to survive.
Seriously, if you need help you should ask. 
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| Posted 8/19/07 5:52 PM |
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InShock
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Re: Does your DH help out with nighttime feedings?
Now that we give DD a bottle (I BF), DH does 1 night feeding on the weekends. Since he has to be up at 5:30 for work, I let him sleep. However, if it got to be too much, I would ask him for more help.
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| Posted 8/19/07 6:01 PM |
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Elizabeth
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Re: Does your DH help out with nighttime feedings?
My DH always did. When they would get nighttime feedings (I dont miss those days in that respect!!) he preferred getting up in the night to getting up at 6am. And I preferred not doing a 3am feeding and getting up at 6am. Of course that was when he was not working overnight. I hated those middle of the night feedings!!!!
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| Posted 8/19/07 6:07 PM |
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Aga
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Re: Does your DH help out with nighttime feedings?
I had to ask dh for help because it was taking me too long (I had to feed ds, change him, put him to sleep and then go and pump)...
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| Posted 8/19/07 6:37 PM |
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dm24angel
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Re: Does your DH help out with nighttime feedings?
No b/c DH gets up at 5:30 am for work.
But Noah sleeps through the night now so its no bidg deal, but he took Friday and Saturday nights and even now wakes on a Sat or Sunday morning to do the first feeding, so I can sleep in on the weekends.
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| Posted 8/19/07 6:45 PM |
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Diane
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Re: Does your DH help out with nighttime feedings?
when they were younger, yes, I took one and DH took the other. When Matthew was waking up in the night for feedings. I did them.
Now that Matthew is FINALLY sleeping through the night, I get some sleep
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| Posted 8/19/07 6:51 PM |
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laurenM
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Re: Does your DH help out with nighttime feedings?
Up until dd was a month old I did a 8pm feeding and went to bed. DH did a 11 feeding before he went to bed. Then she eliminated that 11 feeding, and dd lost the only responsibility he seemed to have.
Now that dd sleeps from 9-7 there are no night feedings, but I would love for him to do one of the 7 am feedings on the weekend. He does not wake up to her so I have to literally shake him and shake him to get him up, and by that point I am totally awake and figure why bother.....its frustrating! Next month when I go back to work I am going to be more insistant about getting a morning to sleep a little.
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| Posted 8/19/07 6:56 PM |
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EmmaNick
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Re: Does your DH help out with nighttime feedings?
I wouldn't feel bad asking for help and if I had a DH, you bet he would've been waking up to help out. You have to work all day too at taking care of a little baby. Sleep deprivation makes people unable to function and while I realize that your DH's job is important, so is your health and well being and your ability to be able to take care of the baby during the day.
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| Posted 8/19/07 7:05 PM |
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hazeleyes33
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Re: Does your DH help out with nighttime feedings?
Since I was home for 3 months and was not working, my dh would take up to midnight and the rest of the night was mine. On the weekends, he would do the night, we would switch off every 3 hour feedings.
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| Posted 8/19/07 7:11 PM |
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GoldenRod
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Re: Does your DH help out with nighttime feedings?
With DS, his room had an extra bed in it at the time, so for the first few months, one of us would get some sleep in our bedroom, and the other would sleep in the room with DS. I would do the weekends, and DW would do the weekdays. It helped out a lot, I think. With DD, we didn't have that luxury, so we would alternate (not an even alternating, I'll admit, but I did help out, mainly on the weekends.)
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| Posted 8/20/07 8:19 AM |
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nmp070106
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Re: Does your DH help out with nighttime feedings?
only on the weekends now........
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| Posted 8/20/07 8:22 AM |
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LuvMy2Girls
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Re: Does your DH help out with nighttime feedings?
Mine does as always did...
I work hard during the day too and he knows my job at home, even when i was working, is just as grueling as his if not more, he gets it and i love him more for it
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| Posted 8/20/07 8:26 AM |
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SweetCin
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Re: Does your DH help out with nighttime feedings?
Mine does 1 feeding thru the night but only on weekends (I'm still home thru the summer)
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| Posted 8/20/07 8:40 AM |
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CathyB
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Re: Does your DH help out with nighttime feedings?
When Sarah was a newborn I felt bad asking since I figured that I wasn't working and could nap during the day.
Then Andy came along and I couldn't nap during the day anymore. And I thought "He had no problem getting up in the middle of the night to make the kid...."
He actually didn't mind, he works long hours so he doesn't see them M-F, and he knows how hard it is to do everything for them so he wants to help out when he can. I really got lucky when it comes to getting help from him.
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| Posted 8/20/07 8:44 AM |
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robcoll1002
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Re: Does your DH help out with nighttime feedings?
When DD was just born I did most of the night feedings because I would jump up the quickest when she started to cry. Now that DD sleeps through the night my DH does the first morning feeding every day.
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| Posted 8/20/07 8:45 AM |
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dawnie
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Re: Does your DH help out with nighttime feedings?
I BF so I never woke my DH up. I woud want my DH to help with some night feedings if he was bottle fed. He is great with everything else though!
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| Posted 8/20/07 8:52 AM |
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BaroqueMama
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Re: Does your DH help out with nighttime feedings?
It was never even a question of whether or not he'd help with her nighttime feedings. Whether he had to go to work or not, he's still her parent. We alternated nights.
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| Posted 8/20/07 8:54 AM |
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Juliet
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Re: Does your DH help out with nighttime feedings?
Posted by Aga
I had to ask dh for help because it was taking me too long (I had to feed ds, change him, put him to sleep and then go and pump)...
I had low milk supply in the beginning so I was doing something similar. I met with an LC who had me nurse for 10 minutes each side, give a bottle and then pump for 15 minutes. I definitely had DH help me. If I didn't I never would have slept with that crazy merry go round.
Ironically, when I finally got my milk up, DD was sleeping through the night and it wasn't that bad for me to get up and nurse her when she needed it.
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