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klingklang77
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Domestic violence in these times
What do you do?
I’ll make a long story short. I have had tons of problems with my landlord. I have had problems with my landlord because she has basically said I was drunk once and she fears for her son’s life. I came back from Oktoberfest and just went into my apartment to sleep it off. I did not see anyone while walking in.
Today I got locked out of my apartment and had to call a locksmith. Luckily my upstairs neighbour was around and was able to call for me. A few weeks ago theY were fighting pretty bad and I sent her a message asking if she was OK.
Today while we waiting for the locksmith, she basically told me that he beats her all over. I said, hey just come over and you can stay here if it’s bad. What else can I do for her?
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Re: Domestic violence in these times
I’m a little confused. What does the landlord have to do with this other person unless are THEY the landlord?
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Re: Domestic violence in these times
Posted by valentinesbaby
I’m a little confused. What does the landlord have to do with this other person unless are THEY the landlord?
Also not to flame and while I think that is a very nice thing to do, it could be scary the retaliation from the abuser and you are willing to take someone in right now but made your boyfriend leave?
That second paragraph is really unnecessary.
Anyway...You did what you could. You offered her a place to go. It’s tricky with an abuse Situation. You can’t get too involved because she has to want to get out in order for her to really get out, ya know? Maybe see if she’d like to be friends. With what’s going on, I’d stick to phone calls or standing out on your balconies, etc. she may not have people to turn to and maybe if she begins to feel more comfortable with you, she could get out of there.
If any of that makes sense. I just woke up lol
Start by becoming friendly and go from
There. The offer has been made and that’s a good first step. Just knowing she can leave for safety
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Re: Domestic violence in these times
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Posted by valentinesbaby
I’m a little confused. What does the landlord have to do with this other person unless are THEY the landlord?
Also not to flame and while I think that is a very nice thing to do, it could be scary the retaliation from the abuser and you are willing to take someone in right now but made your boyfriend leave?
That second paragraph is really unnecessary.
Anyway...You did what you could. You offered her a place to go. It’s tricky with an abuse Situation. You can’t get too involved because she has to want to get out in order for her to really get out, ya know? Maybe see if she’d like to be friends. With what’s going on, I’d stick to phone calls or standing out on your balconies, etc. she may not have people to turn to and maybe if she begins to feel more comfortable with you, she could get out of there.
If any of that makes sense. I just woke up lol
Start by becoming friendly and go from
There. The offer has been made and that’s a good first step. Just knowing she can leave for safety
The last paragraph was unnecessary, but that doesn’t mean anything.
I am friendly with my upstairs neighbour. The landlady has had problems with me because she is unhappy that I am not a millionaire after being divorced. She has said really horrible things about me. Basically I’m a whore because I have a boyfriend after my divorce. She sends letters saying that she is afraid for her kids because of that. I can get more into it, but I’m not going to for legal reasons. I pay rent and I’m a good tenant. I am very quiet and do not cause disturbances.
I live my life with my cats, and, yes, I kicked out my boyfriend for germ reasons. But I will not be dealing with a neighbour being beaten up. She has also been inside and totally isolated.
And Valentine, really? I’m asking for help about a neighbour being abused and you throw it in my face about the fact that my BF, SO can’t stay here GTFO. Big difference. You really have no clue.
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valentinesbaby
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Re: Domestic violence in these times
Posted by klingklang77
Posted by PhyllisNJoe
Posted by valentinesbaby
I’m a little confused. What does the landlord have to do with this other person unless are THEY the landlord?
Also not to flame and while I think that is a very nice thing to do, it could be scary the retaliation from the abuser and you are willing to take someone in right now but made your boyfriend leave?
That second paragraph is really unnecessary.
Anyway...You did what you could. You offered her a place to go. It’s tricky with an abuse Situation. You can’t get too involved because she has to want to get out in order for her to really get out, ya know? Maybe see if she’d like to be friends. With what’s going on, I’d stick to phone calls or standing out on your balconies, etc. she may not have people to turn to and maybe if she begins to feel more comfortable with you, she could get out of there.
If any of that makes sense. I just woke up lol
Start by becoming friendly and go from
There. The offer has been made and that’s a good first step. Just knowing she can leave for safety
The last paragraph was unnecessary, but that doesn’t mean anything.
I am friendly with my upstairs neighbour. The landlady has had problems with me because she is unhappy that I am not a millionaire after being divorced. She has said really horrible things about me. Basically I’m a whore because I have a boyfriend after my divorce. She sends letters saying that she is afraid for her kids because of that. I can get more into it, but I’m not going to for legal reasons. I pay rent and I’m a good tenant. I am very quiet and do not cause disturbances.
I live my life with my cats, and, yes, I kicked out my boyfriend for germ reasons. But I will not be dealing with a neighbour being beaten up. She has also been inside and totally isolated.
And Valentine, really? I’m asking for help about a neighbour being abused and you throw it in my face about the fact that my BF, SO can’t stay here GTFO. Big difference. You really have no clue.
My bad then as I wasn’t trying to say you were not trying to do a good thing.
Not really understanding where the landlord comes into this situation though. Am I missing something?
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| Posted 4/12/20 6:00 AM |
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klingklang77
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Re: Domestic violence in these times
Posted by valentinesbaby
Posted by klingklang77
Posted by PhyllisNJoe
Posted by valentinesbaby
I’m a little confused. What does the landlord have to do with this other person unless are THEY the landlord?
Also not to flame and while I think that is a very nice thing to do, it could be scary the retaliation from the abuser and you are willing to take someone in right now but made your boyfriend leave?
That second paragraph is really unnecessary.
Anyway...You did what you could. You offered her a place to go. It’s tricky with an abuse Situation. You can’t get too involved because she has to want to get out in order for her to really get out, ya know? Maybe see if she’d like to be friends. With what’s going on, I’d stick to phone calls or standing out on your balconies, etc. she may not have people to turn to and maybe if she begins to feel more comfortable with you, she could get out of there.
If any of that makes sense. I just woke up lol
Start by becoming friendly and go from
There. The offer has been made and that’s a good first step. Just knowing she can leave for safety
The last paragraph was unnecessary, but that doesn’t mean anything.
I am friendly with my upstairs neighbour. The landlady has had problems with me because she is unhappy that I am not a millionaire after being divorced. She has said really horrible things about me. Basically I’m a whore because I have a boyfriend after my divorce. She sends letters saying that she is afraid for her kids because of that. I can get more into it, but I’m not going to for legal reasons. I pay rent and I’m a good tenant. I am very quiet and do not cause disturbances.
I live my life with my cats, and, yes, I kicked out my boyfriend for germ reasons. But I will not be dealing with a neighbour being beaten up. She has also been inside and totally isolated.
And Valentine, really? I’m asking for help about a neighbour being abused and you throw it in my face about the fact that my BF, SO can’t stay here GTFO. Big difference. You really have no clue.
My bad then as I wasn’t trying to say you were not trying to do a good thing.
Not really understanding where the landlord comes into this situation though. Am I missing something?
Like I said I can’t talk about it for legal reasons. In Germany they take public things posted very seriously.
Rundown:
Landlord spoke to the Renter association after. She said I was an alcoholic because I came home drunk one day from Oktoberfest. She said I was subletting. She said I had too many bikes. She called the police on me because my registration wasn’t renewed. I could go on and on. And I won’t for legal reasons.
But yeah, I’ve just listened to them fighting for a few hours. I’m going to go up and suggest we go for a walk.
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Re: Domestic violence in these times
Posted by klingklang77
Posted by valentinesbaby
Posted by klingklang77
Posted by PhyllisNJoe
Posted by valentinesbaby
I’m a little confused. What does the landlord have to do with this other person unless are THEY the landlord?
Also not to flame and while I think that is a very nice thing to do, it could be scary the retaliation from the abuser and you are willing to take someone in right now but made your boyfriend leave?
That second paragraph is really unnecessary.
Anyway...You did what you could. You offered her a place to go. It’s tricky with an abuse Situation. You can’t get too involved because she has to want to get out in order for her to really get out, ya know? Maybe see if she’d like to be friends. With what’s going on, I’d stick to phone calls or standing out on your balconies, etc. she may not have people to turn to and maybe if she begins to feel more comfortable with you, she could get out of there.
If any of that makes sense. I just woke up lol
Start by becoming friendly and go from
There. The offer has been made and that’s a good first step. Just knowing she can leave for safety
The last paragraph was unnecessary, but that doesn’t mean anything.
I am friendly with my upstairs neighbour. The landlady has had problems with me because she is unhappy that I am not a millionaire after being divorced. She has said really horrible things about me. Basically I’m a whore because I have a boyfriend after my divorce. She sends letters saying that she is afraid for her kids because of that. I can get more into it, but I’m not going to for legal reasons. I pay rent and I’m a good tenant. I am very quiet and do not cause disturbances.
I live my life with my cats, and, yes, I kicked out my boyfriend for germ reasons. But I will not be dealing with a neighbour being beaten up. She has also been inside and totally isolated.
And Valentine, really? I’m asking for help about a neighbour being abused and you throw it in my face about the fact that my BF, SO can’t stay here GTFO. Big difference. You really have no clue.
My bad then as I wasn’t trying to say you were not trying to do a good thing.
Not really understanding where the landlord comes into this situation though. Am I missing something?
Like I said I can’t talk about it for legal reasons. In Germany they take public things posted very seriously.
Rundown:
Landlord spoke to the Renter association after. She said I was an alcoholic because I came home drunk one day from Oktoberfest. She said I was subletting. She said I had too many bikes. She called the police on me because my registration wasn’t renewed. I could go on and on. And I won’t for legal reasons.
But yeah, I’ve just listened to them fighting for a few hours. I’m going to go up and suggest we go for a walk.
Yeah you can do that :)
I just didn’t understand why the landlord was included in this post about this family.
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LIRascal
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Domestic violence in these times
KlingKlang, this is what I have been worried about with regards to our "Stay at Home orders"-(that Children, adults pets) would be trapped with their abusers. You took the right first step. You let her know you're there for her and that your home is a safe place if she needs a place to go. I commend you for your huge heart and good intentions.
I don't know what kinds of resources you have in Germany, but obviously she's going to need a lot of help.he's probably a mess mentally, and she'll keep running back to him even if she leaves temporarily. I think you're giving her a valuable taste of peace that might help her to get away from him. His ass needs to get scared straight...
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Posted by LIRascal
KlingKlang, this is what I have been worried about with regards to our "Stay at Home orders"-(that Children, adults pets) would be trapped with their abusers. You took the right first step. You let her know you're there for her and that your home is a safe place if she needs a place to go. I commend you for your huge heart and good intentions.
I don't know what kinds of resources you have in Germany, but obviously she's going to need a lot of help.he's probably a mess mentally, and she'll keep running back to him even if she leaves temporarily. I think you're giving her a valuable taste of peace that might help her to get away from him. His ass needs to get scared straight...
all of this.
you are a wonderful, loving person to give this to her. even if it is temporary.
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Re: Domestic violence in these times
Personally I am not so sure I would get involved if I were you. You are all alone right now. You’ve already stated that you do not get along with your landlord so you can’t turn to her. What if he flips his lid and comes after you? I feel sorry for your neighbor and if I heard him beating the crap out of her I think I would make an anonymous call to the police but I would leave if at that.
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You did the right thing.
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klingklang77
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Thank you everyone for your replies. The landlord lives on the first floor. I’m in the middle, so it is a 3 story house. That is kind of why she is involved in this discussion. They (upstairs) stopped fighting for now. I don’t think I want to get further involved. I just offered her a place to stay and go out if she wants to take a walk. I’ll only call the police if it sounds really bad. Ugh this sucks. I’m so sick of this lockdown.
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Domestic violence in these times
Call the police with an anonymous tip. I would not have her come to your house as he lives right upstairs and could come barging through your door. If she is telling you he always beats her then it is enough to call the police. The landlord has nothing to do with this situation at all.
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klingklang77
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Re: Domestic violence in these times
Posted by KarenK122
Call the police with an anonymous tip. I would not have her come to your house as he lives right upstairs and could come barging through your door. If she is telling you he always beats her then it is enough to call the police. The landlord has nothing to do with this situation at all.
I can’t call the police with an anonymous tip here. They track everything.
Ugh, just not sure what to do at this point but let her stay here. It’s fUc$ing frightening.
I guess I will see what happens tomorrow.
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Re: Domestic violence in these times
Posted by klingklang77
Thank you everyone for your replies. The landlord lives on the first floor. I’m in the middle, so it is a 3 story house. That is kind of why she is involved in this discussion. They (upstairs) stopped fighting for now. I don’t think I want to get further involved. I just offered her a place to stay and go out if she wants to take a walk. I’ll only call the police if it sounds really bad. Ugh this sucks. I’m so sick of this lockdown.
It is very sad all around. Did this just start happening since the lockdown?
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klingklang77
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Re: Domestic violence in these times
Posted by valentinesbaby
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Thank you everyone for your replies. The landlord lives on the first floor. I’m in the middle, so it is a 3 story house. That is kind of why she is involved in this discussion. They (upstairs) stopped fighting for now. I don’t think I want to get further involved. I just offered her a place to stay and go out if she wants to take a walk. I’ll only call the police if it sounds really bad. Ugh this sucks. I’m so sick of this lockdown.
It is very sad all around. Did this just start happening since the lockdown?
It's been ongoing. I thought it was just newlywed fights. Then she told me yesterday that he had actually been beating her. It's frightening. I hear the fights, but I don't hear beating. It goes on for a few hours a day.
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Re: Domestic violence in these times
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Thank you everyone for your replies. The landlord lives on the first floor. I’m in the middle, so it is a 3 story house. That is kind of why she is involved in this discussion. They (upstairs) stopped fighting for now. I don’t think I want to get further involved. I just offered her a place to stay and go out if she wants to take a walk. I’ll only call the police if it sounds really bad. Ugh this sucks. I’m so sick of this lockdown.
It is very sad all around. Did this just start happening since the lockdown?
It's been ongoing. I thought it was just newlywed fights. Then she told me yesterday that he had actually been beating her. It's frightening. I hear the fights, but I don't hear beating. It goes on for a few hours a day.
But it you let her stay with you and he knows where she is you are just opening yourself up to him retaliating against you. If she is not a friend I am not sure why you would take that risk. Then he will just be hurting her and you. If you can call a domestic abuse hotline and ask them what to do I would do that. And also, how well do you know her? She could be a wild card to. Who knows?!?! Honestly I would just not get involved as callous as that may sound.
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you can help her by keeping track of the dates, times and duration of the fights. In addition you can track what she says to you, date, time and if you see an visible bruises etc. Letting her know, and you have, you are supportive, very heplful. You can call the police when you hear fighting but in the end she has to decide if she wants to leave or when she feels ready to make a change. Until that happens there is little you can do.
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Re: Domestic violence in these times
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Thank you everyone for your replies. The landlord lives on the first floor. I’m in the middle, so it is a 3 story house. That is kind of why she is involved in this discussion. They (upstairs) stopped fighting for now. I don’t think I want to get further involved. I just offered her a place to stay and go out if she wants to take a walk. I’ll only call the police if it sounds really bad. Ugh this sucks. I’m so sick of this lockdown.
It is very sad all around. Did this just start happening since the lockdown?
It's been ongoing. I thought it was just newlywed fights. Then she told me yesterday that he had actually been beating her. It's frightening. I hear the fights, but I don't hear beating. It goes on for a few hours a day.
But it you let her stay with you and he knows where she is you are just opening yourself up to him retaliating against you. If she is not a friend I am not sure why you would take that risk. Then he will just be hurting her and you. If you can call a domestic abuse hotline and ask them what to do I would do that. And also, how well do you know her? She could be a wild card to. Who knows?!?! Honestly I would just not get involved as callous as that may sound.
So if you can hear then fighting and know he is abusing her you would just MYOB?
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I would call the police. The fact that he beats her, IMO, constitutes it being "really bad."
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Re: Domestic violence in these times
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Thank you everyone for your replies. The landlord lives on the first floor. I’m in the middle, so it is a 3 story house. That is kind of why she is involved in this discussion. They (upstairs) stopped fighting for now. I don’t think I want to get further involved. I just offered her a place to stay and go out if she wants to take a walk. I’ll only call the police if it sounds really bad. Ugh this sucks. I’m so sick of this lockdown.
It is very sad all around. Did this just start happening since the lockdown?
It's been ongoing. I thought it was just newlywed fights. Then she told me yesterday that he had actually been beating her. It's frightening. I hear the fights, but I don't hear beating. It goes on for a few hours a day.
But it you let her stay with you and he knows where she is you are just opening yourself up to him retaliating against you. If she is not a friend I am not sure why you would take that risk. Then he will just be hurting her and you. If you can call a domestic abuse hotline and ask them what to do I would do that. And also, how well do you know her? She could be a wild card to. Who knows?!?! Honestly I would just not get involved as callous as that may sound.
So if you can hear then fighting and know he is abusing her you would just MYOB?
In this particular situation, yes I would other than calling the authorities if I heard violence. I don’t know if calling the authorities falls under the definition of minding your own business or not. Klingklang is all alone, with the only other person in earshot being her landlord who clearly despises her. I would not take that risk of housing a person in an abusive situation that I barely know when her abuser is right upstairs. Not to mention the woman has not explicitly asked for help and has the opportunity to seek help on her own and has not done so. If the woman was running from him and asked me for help, of course I would let her in and call the police, but that’s not what’s happening here. I would do what the PP suggested as far as documenting dates and times, etc and I would call the police if I heard violence. But that’s where I would draw the line.
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Re: Domestic violence in these times
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Thank you everyone for your replies. The landlord lives on the first floor. I’m in the middle, so it is a 3 story house. That is kind of why she is involved in this discussion. They (upstairs) stopped fighting for now. I don’t think I want to get further involved. I just offered her a place to stay and go out if she wants to take a walk. I’ll only call the police if it sounds really bad. Ugh this sucks. I’m so sick of this lockdown.
It is very sad all around. Did this just start happening since the lockdown?
It's been ongoing. I thought it was just newlywed fights. Then she told me yesterday that he had actually been beating her. It's frightening. I hear the fights, but I don't hear beating. It goes on for a few hours a day.
But it you let her stay with you and he knows where she is you are just opening yourself up to him retaliating against you. If she is not a friend I am not sure why you would take that risk. Then he will just be hurting her and you. If you can call a domestic abuse hotline and ask them what to do I would do that. And also, how well do you know her? She could be a wild card to. Who knows?!?! Honestly I would just not get involved as callous as that may sound.
So if you can hear then fighting and know he is abusing her you would just MYOB?
In this particular situation, yes I would other than calling the authorities if I heard violence. I don’t know if calling the authorities falls under the definition of minding your own business or not. Klingklang is all alone, with the only other person in earshot being her landlord who clearly despises her. I would not take that risk of housing a person in an abusive situation that I barely know when her abuser is right upstairs. Not to mention the woman has not explicitly asked for help and has the opportunity to seek help on her own and has not done so. If the woman was running from him and asked me for help, of course I would let her in and call the police, but that’s not what’s happening here. I would do what the PP suggested as far as documenting dates and times, etc and I would call the police if I heard violence. But that’s where I would draw the line.
These are all very good points. I have found a few organizations that I can call anon. But the fact of the matter is that the landlord absolutely hates me. I get blamed for the upstairs fights. SO and I don’t even fight. We just go sulk for a bit and then we talk about it. He’s not here with me now because of the quarantine. But because things have happened upstairs, the landlord blames it all on me.
If I hear them fighting today again, I’ll call this one Organisation and see what the options are. The woman would be safe, at least financially, away from him. It isn’t a case of she needs him.
But she has, unfortunately, made very bad choices in men. I can’t get into details, but my landlord has blamed me a lot for all of what happened with my upstairs neighbour. My landlord is relentless. She actually really shouldn’t be at this time because they have a rule now that we can’t get evicted because of the crisis. I have savings, so I pay. And that’s the right thing to do. I’m just sick of my landlord. I’m also just really worried about my upstairs neighbour. Now I have numbers that I can call if/when they fight today.
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ap123
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Have you considered that she doesn't want you to call anyone? You may be putting her in more danger by making a call and getting him angry. You say she would be financially ok if she left, so then why didn't she leave before the quarintine? Maybe she doesn't intend to leave. I wouldn't get involved at all. Hand her the phone numbers the next time you see her and let her make a decision about if she wants your help or not. Sadly, not all woman are ready to walk away from their abusers because they have been mentally abused into thinking they can't. And you as the neighbor are not going to solve this problem with one phone call an an offer of a place to stay. It's very sweet, but i think misguided.
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Re: Domestic violence in these times
Posted by ap123
Have you considered that she doesn't want you to call anyone? You may be putting her in more danger by making a call and getting him angry. You say she would be financially ok if she left, so then why didn't she leave before the quarintine? Maybe she doesn't intend to leave. I wouldn't get involved at all. Hand her the phone numbers the next time you see her and let her make a decision about if she wants your help or not. Sadly, not all woman are ready to walk away from their abusers because they have been mentally abused into thinking they can't. And you as the neighbor are not going to solve this problem with one phone call an an offer of a place to stay. It's very sweet, but i think misguided.
I wish I could explain it better. Yes, she can leave. I have called a few numbers today asking what to do. If one calls the police enough, then he can eventually be kicked out. But the restraining orders are wonky here.
I don’t want to see her get killed or hurt even more.
I talked to her today and said that she should send me a safe word and I’ll call the police.
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| Posted 4/13/20 6:26 AM |
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LIRascal
drama. daily.
Member since 3/11 7287 total posts
Name:
Michelle
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Domestic violence in these times
I am the odd man here, because I would get involved. That dirtbag could come and retaliate against me,but I could not live with myself knowing he's beating her and doing nothing.
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| Posted 4/14/20 6:08 PM |
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