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pharmcat2000
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DS circumcision
Do they let you be in the room? I've never heard of a mom being in there when it was done, but I don't understand why not. If a Jewish family does a bris, the parents are there, so why not when done in a hospital by a surgeon?
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Posted 7/9/13 9:51 AM  |
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DS circumcision
I wouldn't want to be to be honest. But I have heard that it is allowed, I think it depends on the doctor/hospital
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| Posted 7/9/13 10:03 AM |
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imyself
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Re: DS circumcision
I have 2 ds's and both had it done by my ob. At first I wanted to be there but with ds1 I was in too much pain to walk down to the nursery to be there. When he came back without even shedding a tear I let ds2 go alone without a second thought.
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| Posted 7/9/13 10:10 AM |
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caps612
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Re: DS circumcision
It never even occurred to me to ask. Honestly, he was gone for 15 minutes and was not upset at all when he came back. One of my OB's did it, I knew he was in good hands 
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| Posted 7/9/13 10:17 AM |
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july4mrsO
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Re: DS circumcision
Posted by caps612
It never even occurred to me to ask. Honestly, he was gone for 15 minutes and was not upset at all when he came back. One of my OB's did it, I knew he was in good hands
Exactly this. I don't think I would want to be there for it, JMO
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| Posted 7/9/13 10:26 AM |
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ali120206
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Re: DS circumcision
Posted by july4mrsO
Posted by caps612
It never even occurred to me to ask. Honestly, he was gone for 15 minutes and was not upset at all when he came back. One of my OB's did it, I knew he was in good hands
Exactly this. I don't think I would want to be there for it, JMO
Same here. I had two boys and didn't think twice about it.
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| Posted 7/9/13 10:31 AM |
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alli3131
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DS circumcision
I had my DS's done way after the fact so I was not allowed in since it was done as a surgery and he was ptu out.
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| Posted 7/9/13 11:29 AM |
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Hofstra26
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Re: DS circumcision
We had it done at St Charles, they took DS out of the room and brought him back about an hour or so after. They didn't give us the option to be there during the procedure. Honestly, I'm a bit squeamish so I wouldn't have wanted to be there anyway. And if he cried at all I would've died. I was happy to stay behind.
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| Posted 7/9/13 11:31 AM |
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TyReseGreen
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DS circumcision
When I had DS at NSUH I was not present at the time. I have witnessed hundreds of circumsions and would not recommend you watching it unless you can stomach it!
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| Posted 7/9/13 11:32 AM |
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JDubs
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Re: DS circumcision
Posted by july4mrsO
Posted by caps612
It never even occurred to me to ask. Honestly, he was gone for 15 minutes and was not upset at all when he came back. One of my OB's did it, I knew he was in good hands
Exactly this. I don't think I would want to be there for it, JMO
ITA!
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| Posted 7/9/13 12:13 PM |
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gdubs
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Re: DS circumcision
Posted by ali120206
Posted by july4mrsO
Posted by caps612
It never even occurred to me to ask. Honestly, he was gone for 15 minutes and was not upset at all when he came back. One of my OB's did it, I knew he was in good hands
Exactly this. I don't think I would want to be there for it, JMO
Same here. I had two boys and didn't think twice about it.
Same here, it was so fast... I thought I would have time to shower while he was gone but he was back before I could even get my clothes out of my suitcase.
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| Posted 7/9/13 7:46 PM |
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MandJZ
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Re: DS circumcision
Even at a Jewish bris the mother typically is not in he room (almost never) and the father is advised to look away. It's MUCH more traumatic for the parents than the baby 
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| Posted 7/9/13 8:07 PM |
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Re: DS circumcision
Posted by ali120206
Posted by july4mrsO
Posted by caps612
It never even occurred to me to ask. Honestly, he was gone for 15 minutes and was not upset at all when he came back. One of my OB's did it, I knew he was in good hands
Exactly this. I don't think I would want to be there for it, JMO
Same here. I had two boys and didn't think twice about it.
same here!
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| Posted 7/10/13 8:42 AM |
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NYCGirl80
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Re: DS circumcision
Posted by MandJZ
Even at a Jewish bris the mother typically is not in he room (almost never) and the father is advised to look away. It's MUCH more traumatic for the parents than the baby
 That's not true at all.
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| Posted 7/10/13 9:17 AM |
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MandJZ
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Re: DS circumcision
Posted by NYCGirl80
Posted by MandJZ
Even at a Jewish bris the mother typically is not in he room (almost never) and the father is advised to look away. It's MUCH more traumatic for the parents than the baby
That's not true at all.
Really? Maybe then it's different in NY? I'm not from here but every single bris I've been to, and I've been to many, the mother waits in a bedroom with some family or friends to keep her busy, and while the dad is in the room someone usually stands with him to keep him occupied. I'm expecting a boy and when talking to my ILs it seems a given that I won't be in the room during the actual circumcision. Afterwards, yes, and I will bring him in but I would leave the room during the procedure. Perhaps it is done differently here.
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| Posted 7/10/13 9:40 AM |
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happyface
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Re: DS circumcision
I delivered at Stony Brook both times, and for whatever reason, I decided to have my Pediatrician do the circumcision after leaving the hospital. The first time, it just worked out this way becasue my DS was in the NICU and the second time, I just lfelt more comfortable with my ped doing it once again.
It is stressful, but I liked both experiences. My doctor said that it was completely up to me if I wanted to stay. I chose to wait in the waiting room and my second DS never even cried until the very end and it was only because he was strapped down.
I cried of course.
I feel like you can do whatever you want! You are the mommy!
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| Posted 7/10/13 11:05 AM |
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Babyyy2
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Re: DS circumcision
I watched, I wouldnt recommend it. It wasnt awful but still upsetting and id rather not remember
Ds wasnt cleared for his circ at the hospital but ped said he thought it was fine. We are not jewish but the only way we could get it done without putting my poor baby under for it was to have a cantor come who does them without a bris.
I think 100% the recover was better than my first ds and i like that he wasnt restrained with straps but my little man did get upset for a bit and that is hard to watch. DH couldnt watch but he did hold DSs legs
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| Posted 7/10/13 11:37 AM |
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Naturalmama
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DS circumcision
They didn't even ask me if I wanted to be there, and I honestly don't think I would have said yes if they gave me the choice. I wouldn't have wanted to hear him cry in pain. He was 100% fine by the time they brought him back to me.
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| Posted 7/10/13 12:04 PM |
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blue11
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Re: DS circumcision
no...and honestly i don't think i would want to be there for it.
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| Posted 7/10/13 1:00 PM |
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when
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Re: DS circumcision
no! And you wouldn't want to be. Its a hospital procedure and needs to be sterile. You wouldn't want to be there anyway.
If done in the house by a moyle its a religious ceremony, which is why you are there.
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| Posted 7/10/13 2:30 PM |
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mbg1007
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Re: DS circumcision
Posted by MandJZ
Posted by NYCGirl80
Posted by MandJZ
Even at a Jewish bris the mother typically is not in he room (almost never) and the father is advised to look away. It's MUCH more traumatic for the parents than the baby
That's not true at all.
Really? Maybe then it's different in NY? I'm not from here but every single bris I've been to, and I've been to many, the mother waits in a bedroom with some family or friends to keep her busy, and while the dad is in the room someone usually stands with him to keep him occupied. I'm expecting a boy and when talking to my ILs it seems a given that I won't be in the room during the actual circumcision. Afterwards, yes, and I will bring him in but I would leave the room during the procedure. Perhaps it is done differently here.
Ive been to many brisses and every bris I have been to (they have all been in NY) the mother was present in the room (orthodox, conservative and reform). I had once read a book where it was the custom in northern England for mothers to be out of the room during a bris, community there was originally from russia so maybe that was their custom but Ive never heard of that custom being followed in the US. Where are you from?
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| Posted 7/10/13 4:14 PM |
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BabysMomma29
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Re: DS circumcision
I don't think anyone would want to be there to witness that. My mom used to be in nursing education and said that most students hated to watch and that once they saw it once, it was enough.
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| Posted 7/10/13 4:23 PM |
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maybebaby
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Re: DS circumcision
My friend is a mother/baby nurse (recover after labor &delivery) and has to assist in these all the time. she is used to it, but its still her least fav. part of her job. I think that its something parents really don't need to be there for...and like someone else stated, better to have a more sterile environment w/less people.
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| Posted 7/10/13 4:43 PM |
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MandJZ
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Re: DS circumcision
Posted by mbg1007
Posted by MandJZ
Posted by NYCGirl80
Posted by MandJZ
Even at a Jewish bris the mother typically is not in he room (almost never) and the father is advised to look away. It's MUCH more traumatic for the parents than the baby
That's not true at all.
Really? Maybe then it's different in NY? I'm not from here but every single bris I've been to, and I've been to many, the mother waits in a bedroom with some family or friends to keep her busy, and while the dad is in the room someone usually stands with him to keep him occupied. I'm expecting a boy and when talking to my ILs it seems a given that I won't be in the room during the actual circumcision. Afterwards, yes, and I will bring him in but I would leave the room during the procedure. Perhaps it is done differently here.
Ive been to many brisses and every bris I have been to (they have all been in NY) the mother was present in the room (orthodox, conservative and reform). I had once read a book where it was the custom in northern England for mothers to be out of the room during a bris, community there was originally from russia so maybe that was their custom but Ive never heard of that custom being followed in the US. Where are you from?
Toronto, but my family (grandparents) are Eastern European (Russia and Poland). Most of the Toronto Jewish community has origins in Eastern Europe so perhaps that is where it came from. My ILs live here though and also didn't seem to think it was odd when I said I would not be in the room. Maybe it is just by community.
Either way, I personally do not want to be in the room. DH and all our parents will be in the room - I'm comfortable with that and I will come in right after and get my LO.
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| Posted 7/10/13 6:32 PM |
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MrsS2005
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Re: DS circumcision
Posted by MandJZ
Even at a Jewish bris the mother typically is not in he room (almost never) and the father is advised to look away. It's MUCH more traumatic for the parents than the baby
Neither DH nor I were in the room for either of the ceremonies.
ETA: We brought them in, but did not stay for the circumcision.
Message edited 7/10/2013 8:03:46 PM.
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