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MrsR
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Re: Expecting a boy? maybe TMI
Thank you Shana, I genuinely appreciate the apology.
I do want to add that I have been to many bris' where the child doesn't even cry. I have been assured by Mohel after Mohel that the baby doesn't even feel the procedure, they are crying because they are cold!!
Also - I know some Mohels that are drs (including Marchbein), actually inject litocain so the baby def. doesn't feel a thing, but even Mohels that aren't MDs or OBs use topical so that the baby is not in pain.
I wish you luck in whatever you decide.
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pinkandblue
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Re: Expecting a boy? maybe TMI
yes, our son will be circumsized in the hospital by a pediatric urologist (sp)...they use a small injection od lidocane to numb the area prior to the surgery
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| Posted 8/31/09 7:46 AM |
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maybebaby
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Re: Expecting a boy? maybe TMI
My friend is jewish and she hated the idea of a mohel (sp?) performing it so she opted to have it done in the hospital when he was a day old. she then had a party/celebration on the 8th day at her home as well...she just didn't want it done anywhere but a hospital...I remember her feeling really conflicted over it and not wanting to offend her family but she just felt better having it done by a doctor.
I say do whatever makes you comfortable. I had both my sons circumsized in the hospital. I don't love the idea of them hurting for even a minute, but the procedure take a minute (that is what the doctor told me) and Ryan cried for all of 30 seconds and went back to sleep...it healed so quickly too!
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shapla79
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Re: Expecting a boy? maybe TMI
DS was circumcised by an OB a few hours before he was discharged. We just requested that Emla (numbing creme) be put on him before they did the procedure. Everything healed fine...no problems!
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| Posted 8/31/09 7:57 AM |
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Janice
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Re: Expecting a boy? maybe TMI
we aren't Jewish, but we don't believe in circumcising.
DS #1 isn't done.
I know of too many botched little boys.
I also believe its part of a pleasure point of the male anatomy, so he can decide if he wants it off or not.
But like I said, we aren't Jewish...maybe then things would have a different view for us.
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LaurenExp
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Re: Expecting a boy? maybe TMI
Neither of us are jewish, but I'm having him circumsized in the hospital.
I think its a nice thing to be able to honor your religion, but anything like that not done in a sterile environment scares me...I know its been done for thousands of years, I'm sure. I think its probably just an insane fear of mine.
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sj-girl
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Re: Expecting a boy? maybe TMI
Me and my Dh are not jewish, but we are going to have our DS circumcised, which will be done at the hospital before we leave to go home.
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CrankyPants
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Re: Expecting a boy? maybe TMI
Posted by Mikismom
yes, our son will be circumsized in the hospital by a pediatric urologist (sp)...they use a small injection od lidocane to numb the area prior to the surgery
Same here.
I don't see any big movement away from circumcision. I do see a small trend of people declining it compared to the past, but I wouldn't call it a big shift.
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| Posted 8/31/09 10:20 AM |
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shiv
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Re: Expecting a boy? maybe TMI
Posted by SJ-GIRL
Me and my Dh are not jewish, but we are going to have our DS circumcised, which will be done at the hospital before we leave to go home.
ditto, never even thought twice about it.
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| Posted 8/31/09 10:36 AM |
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DRMom
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Re: Expecting a boy? maybe TMI
Posted by greeneyes361708
If this baby was a boy, we would not have circumcised. We have two boys, and they've never had a problem. Contrary to popular belief, there really is no extra cleaning. At this age the foreskin doesn't retract, so you just wipe it like a finger and you're done. Plus the health benefits don't outweigh the risks IMO.
A lot of my friends are also having lots of problems with their sons circumcision. Skin readhering and having to be ripped apart  or the baby being recircumcised-yikes.
My boys were both circumcised and my one son looks like they did it with a saw-very uneven and lots of extra skin. My other son does not even look circumcised. You cannot see his penis unles you pull his skin down. We took him to the ped and asked about it and my Dr said-did you pay for this? We said not yet-he said well you should pay 1/2 since they did 1/2 a job. There is no way I will put them through that again so they are going to have to make that decision when they get older.
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DRMom
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Re: Expecting a boy? maybe TMI
Posted by Mikismom
yes, our son will be circumsized in the hospital by a pediatric urologist (sp)...they use a small injection od lidocane to numb the area prior to the surgery
I wish I had done this-apparently two Dr's at my ob/gyn did not know what they were doing
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| Posted 8/31/09 10:49 AM |
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spa118
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Re: Expecting a boy? maybe TMI
Posted by Bxgell2
Posted by LSP2005
I feel that Jewish traditions are important to follow. My family died in the Holocaust because they were/are Jewish and I feel I needed to honor their sacrifices.
I feel the same way - this is what motivates me almost everyday, that I can proudly show that I'm jewish, without any ramification, all because of the horrific sacrifices my ancestors went through. We didn't have to face the decision about a Bris because we never had any boys, but I'm sure, ultimately, we would have had one.
I appreciate the apology, and am really glad you wrote it...
So powerfully said. I'm the granddaughter of survivors too.
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Deedlebugs
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Re: Expecting a boy? maybe TMI
We are not Jewish but we will be circumsizing our son. DH would probably have a stroke if I decided against it. But, we both agree it is what we want for our son.
The procedure will be done at the hospital.
Message edited 8/31/2009 10:59:20 AM.
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MrsS2005
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Re: Expecting a boy? maybe TMI
Posted by LaurenExp
Neither of us are jewish, but I'm having him circumsized in the hospital.
I think its a nice thing to be able to honor your religion, but anything like that not done in a sterile environment scares me...I know its been done for thousands of years, I'm sure. I think its probably just an insane fear of mine.
Our mohel made it a point to show us that the instruments he used were sterile and in unopened packages.
Personally, the only stories I've heard regarding issues with circumcisions were ones done by an OB. That's not to say that circumcision issues never arise with a bris. I don't know if one is better or worse, but from what I understand, the circumcision technique is different with a mohel than what OBs are taught.
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Kissy331
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Re: Expecting a boy? maybe TMI
We are not Jewish either but will have our son circumsized at the hospital. We never even considering NOT doing it.
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HomeIsWithU
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Re: Expecting a boy? maybe TMI
We're not jewish but we had our son circumsized at the hospital before we were discharged. It was done by a pediatric urologist and we asked for him to be given something for the pain. We had no problems whatsoever and it came out just fine.
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| Posted 8/31/09 12:17 PM |
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Re: Expecting a boy? maybe TMI
It is only done in extenuating circumstances-for example, if DS was a preemie and in the NICU (my dad and his twin were both preemies and could not be released within the 8 day period.)
I feel your pain. For us, we really hope we have a girl because of the stress of planning a Bris, especially because we live in FL and our families live in NY and my ILs are clergy at their temples.
Unfortunately, with our faith, we have no option. If I have a boy, we will have a bris.
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Re: Expecting a boy? maybe TMI
Posted by spa118
Posted by Bxgell2
Posted by LSP2005
I feel that Jewish traditions are important to follow. My family died in the Holocaust because they were/are Jewish and I feel I needed to honor their sacrifices.
I feel the same way - this is what motivates me almost everyday, that I can proudly show that I'm jewish, without any ramification, all because of the horrific sacrifices my ancestors went through. We didn't have to face the decision about a Bris because we never had any boys, but I'm sure, ultimately, we would have had one.
I appreciate the apology, and am really glad you wrote it...
So powerfully said. I'm the granddaughter of survivors too.
Me three. My grandmother and grandfather were in Auschwitz. I could never dishonor them.
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Disneygirl
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Re: Expecting a boy? maybe TMI
Just wanted to add I applaude all you ladies who can plan and host a bris by day 8. I remember still feeling like I got hit by a truck on the 8th day pp not to mention I would hate to have so many people around wanting to hold/touch my newborn.
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Ophelia
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Re: Expecting a boy? maybe TMI
no circumcision for my boy.
if it matters, we are not jewish.
I would venture to guess though, that if it was a tenant of our faith, we WOULD do it. b/c we intend to raise our child in our faith, and that means all sacraments must be fulfilled.
I don't know what it's like to have to decide something like this, so I will offer you the to get through it.
good luck.
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jerseypanda
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Re: Expecting a boy? maybe TMI
We are not Jewish.
DS was circumcised at the hospital the day after he was born by a pediatric urologist.
I honestly gave DH the power to make the decision since he had the same parts as DS! DH wanted to have it done because he was circumcised also and it would make DS the same as him.
We are expecting #2 and if this one turns out to be a boy we will do the same thing as we did with DS.
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SweetTooth
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Lauren
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Re: Expecting a boy? maybe TMI
I am Jewish. DS was circumcised in the hospital. We did not do any ceremonies.
I left the decision up to DH if he wanted it done or not.
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Re: Expecting a boy? maybe TMI
We are not Jewish and our son will be circumcised in the hospital by my OB.
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| Posted 8/31/09 2:49 PM |
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Re: Expecting a boy? maybe TMI
Shana, just to add-many Mohels are actually Doctors. My nephew's mohel is also a urologist if that helps. My nephew didn't even flinch-he was fussier about his diaper being off than the actual Bris.
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bayla
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Re: Expecting a boy? maybe TMI
Posted by spa118
Posted by positivetests
my son is circumcised. we did it in the hospital -- my husband is jewish, but i told him from the get-go that no old jittery man (or woman) holding a knife would be allowed near my son's penis. yeah yeah i know mohels are so skilled in doing this but i ONLY felt comfortable with a doctor doing it.
it was fine. they numb the area with a topical solution. he was brought back to me shortly thereafter and was totally fine. if this next one's a boy i'll do the exact same thing.
I completely respect your opinion and right to have the circumcision done in the hospital, and I am very glad your son had no problems.
I just wanted to respond, so some people who are having a bris aren't scared to death - I am Jewish, and would NEVER allow a jittery old man or woman with a knife near my child either. You interview and choose your moil just as you would a pediatrician.
There can be complications in the hospital as well- I don't want to scare anyone, but I met someone at my d'rs office yesterday who told me that her son was circumcised by an OB in the hospital, and there was some extra skin left. NOt a health risk, no damage, but she said it was almost like it was never done.
There is no right or wrong answer, I agree it is a personal decision, and I do not want in any way to start any drama, I just wanted it to be clear that in having a bris, it is safe.
I wish everyone well! I'm not a religious bris- pusher, I just wanted people not to be scared.
ITA...we had a mohel too and he was great. I think it was more tramatic to me and my DH then my DS!
I also had a friend have her DS's circumcision done at a hospital and had a problem too.
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