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missfabulous
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Re: First Aunt Flo and Weight Loss
Posted by TwinDani
I have no idea how some people remember everything someone posts. Who cares if she has questions about weight, maybe she just needs some support and advice. It amazing me how a post from someone asking if getting AF caused them to lose weight faster caused so much drama.
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I actually happen to remember her posts because she would always seem to be posting about gaining weight while she was pregnant. They just always stuck out in my mind because as I was going through IF treatments, I would have been so happy just to be pregnant, regardless of how much weight I gained. I just remembered them myself because they always upset me a little.
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Re: First Aunt Flo and Weight Loss
I had to look back through the posts... I never remembered the OP posting anything about weight loss...
That's because the VAST majority of Karenanthony's posts about weight loss are in the dieting & exercise board... which is... hmmm... where people are supposed to talk about dieting & exercise.
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| Posted 8/21/12 3:07 PM |
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Re: First Aunt Flo and Weight Loss
Posted by alli3131
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Actually, three of the posters on this thread are being downright bullies to the OP. Nothing in their posts implies help. They are simply picking on her because they don't like what she is posting about, maybe because they are jealous of her? That is usually why people bully anyway. Hey -- She is 105 lbs? I am pretty jealous too!
I woudl go back and read some of the posts over time and you will understand why PhyllisNjoe thought she might need help.....She was definetly posting out of concern.
And to the OP you are right ....there are people on the D & E baord that obess about what they put in their mouth and I do know that a few have issues.
I think the D &E board can be a terrible place. Its all "I want to lose weight....I weigh 100lbs and want to get smaller". And you never hear soemone say hey you might have a problem. But we shoudl be saying it. People on here are so afraid to say anything outside of roses and sunshine because then you are....wait for it.....yes a BULLY! Really a bully because you are telling someone based on what that person puts out there an honest opinion. You put soemthing out on a public forum you are goign to get all kinds of responses. Soem you will liek and some you won't. And soemtimes the ones you don't liek will make you think about things a bit and if there is an issue you can change it. If there is not then just move on.
But don't call people bullies when they are jsut respondign to the MULTIPLE posts people put out there. The OP is not the only one. It is the same reason the girl on PG board got replies that people thought were harsh. She had so many posts about the fact she gained weight during the PG so people reacted.
Thank you.
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LoveMyHubby605
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Re: First Aunt Flo and Weight Loss
Posted by missfabulous
Posted by TwinDani
I have no idea how some people remember everything someone posts. Who cares if she has questions about weight, maybe she just needs some support and advice. It amazing me how a post from someone asking if getting AF caused them to lose weight faster caused so much drama.
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I actually happen to remember her posts because she would always seem to be posting about gaining weight while she was pregnant. They just always stuck out in my mind because as I was going through IF treatments, I would have been so happy just to be pregnant, regardless of how much weight I gained. I just remembered them myself because they always upset me a little.
first of all, I'm very, very, VERY sorry you had a hard time getting pregnant and am thrilled that you are now. Sounds kind of stalkerish but there were several 2010 brides (you included)and a fellow 2011 bride that I had noticed were struggling with infertility and I was always hoping to read good news and pulling for them.
that being said, I gained a large amount of pregnancy weight that made me miserable and uncomfortable and surely vented about it on the pregnancy board. And I know for sure I posted about stretch marks a few times. Doesn't mean that I or any of the many women that didn't embrace the weight gain didn't embrace or appreciate the pregnancy. I'm sure most people with any kind of decency would never try to make a woman feel worse about having fertifility issues kwim?
Of course I would never vent about pregnancy weight gain to a friend I knew who was struggling with infertility but it's not op's fault that you or other women trying to get pregnant read her posts on a pregnancy board. I'd bet that karenanthony posted many other threads but the ones that stuck were the ones that bothered you.
as far as ladies posting out of "concern" - I have to say I don't buy that at all. applauding and  at one (self admittedly) tactless comment is mean spirited at the very least. Don't see how that is of any help to the op.
What is refreshing to me is the number of women (some who say they rarely post) who will stick up for a stranger when they think that somebody is being unfairly picked on. That is pleasantly surprising to me 
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Re: First Aunt Flo and Weight Loss
I had the opposite experience. I BFd, and lost all the weight. As soon as I stopped BF, i got AF and gained 10 lb.
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Re: First Aunt Flo and Weight Loss
Posted by LoveMyHubby605
What is refreshing to me is the number of women (some who say they rarely post) who will stick up for a stranger when they think that somebody is being unfairly picked on. That is pleasantly surprising to me
Which is why I anm defendign every last word the PhyllisNjoe wrote. He was not beign nasty or makign fun or anything else.
Venting about PG weight is normal to a pont. But when you say you don't want to gain anymore than 2 lns the first tri and that you are jealous of the girls that lost weight during their pregnancy.....that screams issue!
I usally do not say much on these treads and if I think someone's comment is off the wall I usually jsut roll my eyes to myself and move on but bashing and calling PhyllisNjoe is a bit much!!!!
And if you think soem of the comments are offbase then once again go read the treads.....I was on the PG board with the OP and I am on D & E quiet a bit so I was there for all the weight posts, that how I remember. I'm not saying OP or anyone else is a bad person but don't say others are on this thread cause they reacted to the OP's posts.
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Re: First Aunt Flo and Weight Loss
thank you.
i had a micarriage and during that difficult time i avoided the pregnancy board becuase i knew certain posts may upset me, mostly out of jealousy because i so wanted to be preggers. Many many many woman complain about their weight gain and all sort of other stuff when pregnant on that board, thats what its there for. Again, lets be fair.
I'm done with this now. I'm far from 105 lbs these days, but i will get there in time at my own pace, without any mention of it on this site.
toodles.
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| Posted 8/21/12 3:53 PM |
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LoveMyHubby605
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Re: First Aunt Flo and Weight Loss
Posted by alli3131
Posted by LoveMyHubby605
What is refreshing to me is the number of women (some who say they rarely post) who will stick up for a stranger when they think that somebody is being unfairly picked on. That is pleasantly surprising to me
Which is why I anm defendign every last word the PhyllisNjoe wrote. He was not beign nasty or makign fun or anything else.
Venting about PG weight is normal to a pont. But when you say you don't want to gain anymore than 2 lns the first tri and that you are jealous of the girls that lost weight during their pregnancy.....that screams issue!
I usally do not say much on these treads and if I think someone's comment is off the wall I usually jsut roll my eyes to myself and move on but bashing and calling PhyllisNjoe is a bit much!!!!
And if you think soem of the comments are offbase then once again go read the treads.....I was on the PG board with the OP and I am on D & E quiet a bit so I was there for all the weight posts, that how I remember. I'm not saying OP or anyone else is a bad person but don't say others are on this thread cause they reacted to the OP's posts.
I will agree with you there. I don't think phillisjoe's first response to this thread was mean or bullying. and I'm glad she sought help for her issues with weight etc. Again, there is NOTHING wrong with getting help. I am refering to the other comments.
I had dd in april so I was also on the pregnancy boards with OP and I guess never really noticed if her posts were about weight gain/weight loss. it is an issue I was dealing with myself so probably didn't stick out too much to me. *shrug*
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Re: First Aunt Flo and Weight Loss
Posted by KarenAnthony
Many many many woman complain about their weight gain and all sort of other stuff when pregnant on that board, thats what its there for. Again, lets be fair.
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I don't know you and am not familar with your posts on pregnancy or diet and fitness but all I can say is- complaining when pregnant is 100% normal- and EVERYONE does it. It doesn't mean you aren't thrilled to be having a baby. That you aren't thankful for your LO.
Let me tell you- I hated every single second and every single thing about being pregnant.
I couldn't wait for it to be over. I celebrated the night she was born- because I could turn over in bed and I wasn't pregnant anymore.
I hated every pound I gained, every swollen ankle, every ugly maternity top, every doctor's appointment, every comment from people, every ounce of attention, everything.
I almost feel traumatized by it- to the point where I can never do it again. I know that much.
I know I am a bit extreme- and yes ,I have issues of my own. Severe medical phobias, etc.
But guess what- I wanted to have a baby. I was thrilled to be creating a life, creating a family.
I love my DD more than life itself. And she is worth all of that. Every single second of misery I endured. Every second of those 9 months that I loathed.
But I was also human. And for me, it sucked.
And yes, I was mindful of getting that weight off- ASAP.
So maybe I have an issue too and needed to seek therapy.
But if that is the case, then 3/4 of the women I know had the same issue.
Maybe we could get a discounted rate for group therapy sessions.
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First Aunt Flo and Weight Loss
People seem to forget that you have to give up your entire body for 9 months plus and it's not easy for some women.
Maybe a lot of the responses have to do with internalizing.
We internalize people who complain about the woes of pregnancy symptoms when we struggle with fertility.
Mothers who have autistic children who have speaking issuea probably internalize and cringe at the posters who complain that their children never stop talking or asking questions.
People who are severely overweight probably internalize posters who hate that they are a size 2 now and not a size 0 that they normally are.
And so on.
That is where I think most responses we see as cruel or poking fun or someone laughing to another posters response - I think that's where it stems from. Not in all cases, and it's not an excuse either, but that's just my observation.
Maybe I am entirely wrong.
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All I have to say is.... I was obsessed with my weight post baby.... And still am. Even after losing all the weight and then some.
Some people just are. I just keep it to myself because it interests no one but me.
I had an eating disorder in HS. I will always be disordered in how I see myself. Luckily, my body is healthy. But how I view it won't ever be... I had to make peace with that. But I relate when other people post on this topic.
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