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kokomo181
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Formula Feeding v. Breatfeeding
Okay so I am kind of curious. I am pretty sure that when I have a child, I will 90% not breastfeed. Instead, I want to go straight into formula feeding. This is a tradition in my family and there are reasons for which I will not name of why I really don't want to breastfeed.
How many other people out there chose not to breastfeed? I know that there are people who dont due to medical reasons but I am mainly curious who chose not to for other than medical reasons?
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michele31
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Re: Formula Feeding v. Breatfeeding
While I am a breastfeeding mom I know many women who simply did not want to do it. It was not because of a medical reason at all- they just did not feel like it.
Now for the tradition in your family- that was always the tradition in my family but of course, it was also tradition for my mom to hold me in the car on the way home from the hospital. You should not chose to or not to breastfeed because of tradition. It is a personal decision that you should be comfortable with.
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| Posted 11/17/09 1:54 PM |
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Sassyz75
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Re: Formula Feeding v. Breatfeeding
I tried with my DD to BF and was unsuccessful..
this time around when DC is born, we're going right to the bottle.
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| Posted 11/17/09 1:56 PM |
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kokomo181
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Re: Formula Feeding v. Breatfeeding
Posted by michele31
While I am a breastfeeding mom I know many women who simply did not want to do it. It was not because of a medical reason at all- they just did not feel like it.
Now for the tradition in your family- that was always the tradition in my family but of course, it was also tradition for my mom to hold me in the car on the way home from the hospital. You should not chose to or not to breastfeed because of tradition. It is a personal decision that you should be comfortable with.
Well I am not doing it because of tradition...i am not doing it because I personally do not feel comfortable with the whole breastfeeding idea in addition to the breastfeeding being extremely inconvenient for working moms. Well lets just say there are other reasons which I will keep inside 
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| Posted 11/17/09 1:56 PM |
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Diana1215
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Re: Formula Feeding v. Breatfeeding
I didn't breastfeed. It's just not for me. I give BF moms SOOOO much credit though - it's true dedication!
It also helps that I get free formula! 
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| Posted 11/17/09 1:58 PM |
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KateDevine
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Re: Formula Feeding v. Breatfeeding
Posted by Diana1215
I didn't breastfeed. It's just not for me. I give BF moms SOOOO much credit though - it's true dedication!
It also helps that I get free formula!
Minus the free formula, ITA
ETA-the decision was pretty much made for me because I never got milk as well
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| Posted 11/17/09 2:01 PM |
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donegal419
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Re: Formula Feeding v. Breatfeeding
i tried to BF my DD, but was unsuccessful (very low supply).
Many people choose not to bf, some reasons are medical, some are on medications that transfer to breastmilk, and others simply do not have the time due to work constraints, etc. (you have to nurse every two hours or more in the beginning and then you need resources and a place to pump, etc. if you have to go back to work).
There are pros and cons to both forms of feeding and you need to do what's right for you and your baby. Do not feel bad that you're not breastfeeding.
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| Posted 11/17/09 2:04 PM |
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kokomo181
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Re: Formula Feeding v. Breatfeeding
Posted by donegal419
i tried to BF my DD, but was unsuccessful (very low supply).
Many people choose not to bf, some reasons are medical, some are on medications that transfer to breastmilk, and others simply do not have the time due to work constraints, etc. (you have to nurse every two hours or more in the beginning and then you need resources and a place to pump, etc. if you have to go back to work).
There are pros and cons to both forms of feeding and you need to do what's right for you and your baby. Do not feel bad that you're not breastfeeding.
Thanks for this! I mean I totally agree with everyone above that I respect those who can breastfeed...just mentally..its not something I can do or handle for that matter!
I just needed someone to tell me hey you are not a bad person because you dont want to try breastfeeding (especially when I know my MIL is going to treat me like i am the devil!!)
I am also hoping that now a days the formula has a lot more vitamins and nutrients that werent offered in the past that made breastfeeding a MUST
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| Posted 11/17/09 2:12 PM |
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lucyloo
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Re: Formula Feeding v. Breatfeeding
I didn't. Don't let anyone guilt you into it- it's not for everyone.
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| Posted 11/17/09 2:15 PM |
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JoJo2010
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Re: Formula Feeding v. Breatfeeding
Crashing from the pregnancy board
My mom did not BF me my brother or sister. My MIL did. I am so on the fence. But whatever I choose, people will have to realize its my body, my baby my decision!
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| Posted 11/17/09 2:19 PM |
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CrankyPants
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Re: Formula Feeding v. Breatfeeding
Posted by Diana1215
I didn't breastfeed. It's just not for me.
ITA
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| Posted 11/17/09 2:31 PM |
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CrankyPants
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Re: Formula Feeding v. Breatfeeding
Posted by kokomo181
[I just needed someone to tell me hey you are not a bad person because you dont want to try breastfeeding (especially when I know my MIL is going to treat me like i am the devil!!)
Of course you are not a bad person if you decide to formula feed.
I chose to formula feed my DD and I will formula feed my DS and I am still a great mom!
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| Posted 11/17/09 2:34 PM |
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headoverheels
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Re: Formula Feeding v. Breatfeeding
I want to BF for a few reasons:
- the antibodies that the baby gets from the colostrum and breastmilk.
- it's easier for babies to digest.
- it's free.
That being said, I supplemented wtih formula for DS and will probably do the same for DD. It's nice to get a break sometimes!
I don't think there is a single thing wrong with formula feeding. It took me a long time to get over the "embarrassment" of BFing in front of anyone other than DH and I completely understand when a woman says she just cannot imagine ever BFing.
It's been said soooo many times: Happy Mommy=Happy Baby!!! 
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| Posted 11/17/09 2:43 PM |
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Leeners
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Re: Formula Feeding v. Breatfeeding
Posted by CrankyPants
Posted by Diana1215
I didn't breastfeed. It's just not for me.
ITA
Ditto!
Just be 100% in your decision. You may have nurses at the hospital and then random friends and family that will be just appalled that you're not BF  Your baby, your body, your decision. A sane mother and a FF baby is wayyyyy better than a mother who BF's only b/c she thinks she should but hates it and it puts a ton of stress on her.
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| Posted 11/17/09 2:46 PM |
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Kristin616
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Re: Formula Feeding v. Breatfeeding
I did not. Just not me either. I do not feel guilty at all. It's a personal choice.
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| Posted 11/17/09 3:00 PM |
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JennyPenny
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Re: Formula Feeding v. Breatfeeding
I was 100% about breastfeeding- until I saw my friend do it, and all the pain she was in. She also was upset their first day home because she had no idea if he was getting any food. I decided that it was not for me. I would rather not be in any more pain than I already was from delivery, and I wanted DH to beable to help me with feedings.
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| Posted 11/17/09 3:02 PM |
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ddunne2
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Re: Formula Feeding v. Breatfeeding
I attempted to with my son out of guilt knowing deep down it was not what I wanted to do. That lasted about two weeks.
With DD I went straight to formula. No one judged me (to my face at least) and if they did I really wouldn't even be affected by it.
Everyone knows what is best for them, be it the same their mother did or not.
Do what you are most comfortable with and know that formula fed babies are just as healthy as BF ones. Both of my kids are healthy, rarely get sick, never had issues with digesting formula, etc.
Make your decision based on you and not what others have done or expect you to do.
Choosing to or not to BF is just one of the many decisions you will make for your kids that many will agree with and many will disagree with. Every parenting topic usually has two sides to it (spank or not spank, work or SAHM, blankets in crib, blankets not in crib)...the list goes on and on. Always trust your gut and do what you know to be best for you, with no regard to others opinions.
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| Posted 11/17/09 3:06 PM |
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alisonggg
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Re: Formula Feeding v. Breatfeeding
Posted by Sassyz75
I tried with my DD to BF and was unsuccessful..
this time around when DC is born, we're going right to the bottle.
this was me too....I was so unhappy breastfeeding DD that I've decided whenever we have #2 I'm not even going to attempt it again.
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| Posted 11/17/09 3:07 PM |
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Xelindrya
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Re: Formula Feeding v. Breatfeeding
Posted by dita
I didn't. Don't let anyone guilt you into it- it's not for everyone.
ITA
Too much pressure is put on us to BF these days its frankly sickening.
I knew from the get go she wouldnt be BF past 3mo cause I had to go back to work. Then she was born... a FANTASTIC BF she was ... but due to health issue I could not. No biggie, I mean I planned on stopping anyway and pumping was horrible. 
But for those first few months (pretty much her whole first year) everyone just assumed she BF. If I said no, they almost silently asked for explanation.
Honey these are my boobies and my kiddo I'll do what I please with both, thank you. 
AJ was formula fed that first day cause I was all messed up. Later she BF, then two weeks in she moved exclusively to formula.
I'm no less of a mom and she's no less protected. Its just a choice not the determination if they go to grad school.
That said.. BF is cheaper! which was my primary reason for trying..  to the moms who manage it and SUPER hats off to the moms who do it for longer than a year! 
You do what you want to do. Don't let anyone change your mind. You and your child will be just fine.
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| Posted 11/17/09 3:18 PM |
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SweetTooth
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Re: Formula Feeding v. Breatfeeding
While I do breast feed, I also give one bottle of formula a day, before bedtime, and have since the beginning.
Whether or not you choose to breastfeed is a personal decision, and whatever you choose, you are doing what you feel is best for you and your baby. Choosing to formula feed does not make you a bad person in the slightest.
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| Posted 11/17/09 3:19 PM |
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Ian&EmmesMommy23
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Re: Formula Feeding v. Breatfeeding
DS is 4 weeks old and I just decided to stop BFing and change to formula. I have a low supply and we had latching issues and hes not gaining enough weight. this decision was so hard for me. ive literally been crying all week because i feel horrible that i cant give my baby what he needs and i felt like giving formula was a way of giving up. i know thats crazy thinking. now that i finally made my decision i do feel better.
ive been giving DS formula for the last 24 hours and i already see a difference. hes happier and sleeps much better and im a lot less stressed and i know how much hes eating. i will miss the bonding (it is different from giving a bottle), but each baby is different and my baby needed the formula. i do feel good that at least he got 4 weeks of breastmilk and the colostrum.
ETA u dont realize how hard BFing is until you do it. it was seriously the hardest thing i ever did and i only did it for 4 weeks! hats off to you ladies!
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| Posted 11/17/09 3:24 PM |
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kerrycec03
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Re: Formula Feeding v. Breatfeeding
I went right to formula feeding. Never tried breastfeeding. Maybe if I didnt' have to rush back to work I would have considered it.
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| Posted 11/17/09 3:25 PM |
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maybesoon
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Re: Formula Feeding v. Breatfeeding
I tried (a little) with DS and he didn't latch so I pumped for 3.5 months. I will never pump again! I will try again to BF but if it doesn't work, I'm not stressing and baby will go right to formula. I 'm just not really into it, and I can't imagine being suckled on. I think I'm the weirdo LOL
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| Posted 11/17/09 3:31 PM |
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teenigrrl
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Re: Formula Feeding v. Breatfeeding
i am a mom who BFs and loves it. that being said, there is absolutely nothing wrong with formula feeding. you should not feel guilty for wanting to formula feed. you have to do what you feel is best for you and your baby, and if it's to formula feed, then that's it. you're still providing food and nourishment to your baby, and that's all that matters.
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| Posted 11/17/09 3:43 PM |
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Peainapod
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Re: Formula Feeding v. Breatfeeding
I had tried to get DS to latch at the hospital and had no luck. I didnt have much luck pumping either. DS started on formula at the hospital and I didnt pursue BF much after i had trouble pumping.
I was already an emotional mess from having DS and being hormonal. then we had issues that required 2 dr. visits and a trip the ER all within 4 days of DS life. I was in no mental shape to think about BF'ing. I felt guilty at first and felt like a terrible mother b/c I had NO DESIRE to continue to try to BF or pump. ITs just not for me.
I was formula fed, my brother and DH were, and so was the rest of the kids in my family. we're all fine so i took comfort in that.
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