FTWM - How do you feel now that your back at work?

Anyone feel like they want to be a SAHM? If so -do you think its still the crazy hormones?

Just curious... been battling this for a couple of weeks now...

I just cant tell if its too early to make a decision... Ive been back to work since the end of february and am in a new position...

I know I still feel in a fog... but work isnt just a priority anymore... I want to be with DS. I dunno... just curious if anyone has felt the same

FTWM - How do you feel now that your back at work?

I've been back since early march and while I couldn't wait to go back, now that I've been there awhile, I wish I could stay home. I kind of feel like it's a "grass is always greener" thing though. I feel like if I did stay home, then I'd wish I was at work. Unfortunately though, I absolutely have to work, staying home is not an option, so regardless of how I feel, it is what it is.

FTWM - How do you feel now that your back at work?

Im going through this too. I only work pt and i still just want to be home with dd. I have a decision to make and im just not sure how to make it. I wish i had advice but i dont. I just know like you i dont enjoy my job anymore. And al i think about is dd and what i would rather be doing. Its like if i focus on work dd suffers and the house suffers (like housework and cooking) but if i focus on that work suffers. And i just feeel like i dont care i would rather focus on home

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I've been back since mid March, and it was tough. I miss being with DD all day, especially now that it is so nice out. But I do appreciate having time with adults again, and not having to constantly think about bottles, diapers, formula, etc. Towards the end of my maternity leave, it started to feel very groundhogs day like.

I'm also lucky in that I work near my apt, so I can pop out and meet DD for a class or have my nanny stop by with her on walks. That's definitely helped with the transition.

In all honesty, while I would eventually like to be a SAHM, I'm not quite ready for it yet.

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In the week or two leading up to my return (I went back a few days after DD turned 5-months), I really thought I was going to have a nervous breakdown. I absolutely did not want to go back and felt so guilty every time I looked at DD. I cried quite a few times over it. But I promised myself I'd go back for at least two months before making any decisions about quitting.

I've been back for almost a month now and I'm so happy. I loved my job before I left for maternity leave and now that I'm back, I'm relieved to still be enjoying it.

Before I went back my DH and I would often say that we wished I didn't like my job so much, because then it would be an easy decision to quit and be a SAHM.

I love my DD more than anything, but I know that being a SAHM isn't for me. I appreciate my career and for right now at least, I'm enjoying the madness of trying to do it all.

It definitely helps that I work from home on Wednesdays and that my husband is home with DD a few days a week, so she's only in daycare three days a week (I think we'll be decreasing it to two days next month).

If my job wasn't willing to work with me on a schedule that allows me enough time with my DD, I definitely wouldn't have gone back (at least not full time).

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FTWM - How do you feel now that your back at work?

i've been back for 4 months,, and i wish every day that i could at least work part time.
unfortunately, we can't afford to not have my full time salary.
i have a lot of mom guilt and i feel like i hardly get to see her and it sucks :(

Re: FTWM - How do you feel now that your back at work?

I stayed home for a year with my daughter and went back to work in September. I still wish I could stay home with her. It got easer to leave her (a relative watches her) but I still want to stay home and think about it constantly. I love my job but to me the time with DD is just so precious

FTWM - How do you feel now that your back at work?

DS is 5 months. I went back to work when he was 8 weeks. It's hard leaving him, but it makes me cherish the weekends and days off even more. I LOVE my job so that helps a lot. I could never be a SAHM. I love my job and that the lifestyle that having 2 FT incomes allows us to live.

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The guilt never goes away. I have 2 kids now and i would much rather spend time w them than go to work. But we cant go down to one salary it would be too stressful for my DH to carry the financial weight alone. So im very blessed to have a very understanding boss who is a FTWM herself so she understands how i feel. She allows me a flexible schedule and understands hat my kids come first.

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When I went back to work, DS was 4 months. I hated leaving him, and this surprised me. I never pictured myself as a stay at home Mom.

I hated my job, I worked for a woman who was a workaholic with no kids, madevmynlife miserable. I was able to resign when my DH got a job out of state.

That was 4 years ago, and I still love bing at home.

However, I think if I had a job that I was happy in, I would have been fine working FT.

Re: FTWM - How do you feel now that your back at work?

I'm happy being at work. SAHM is not for me. I'm way more functional and productive when I work. I also feel like I'm A better mom because I have my space, I get my "break" from mom duties and I have the patience to deal when I get home.

FTWM - How do you feel now that your back at work?

DS is 19 months and I have been back at work since last May. I hate it. Actually told my boss I was leaving last summer but he refused to let me leave. I am still there. I only work pt now but I have to work more than I want to break even with daycare and gas. But that's me. I always saw myself as a SAHM. We are trying for #2 now and boss knows I will not be coming back. I won't even be there the whole pregnancy, I'll be out of work by 20 wks.

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DS is 2.5 years old and I have been back to work since he was 14 weeks old. I am out of the house everyday from 6am-6pm. I am not happy and have never got used to leaving him. I have 36 days vacation and can leave early a lot and still its not good enough for me. I cant wait to be SAHM , its what I always wanted.

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Re: FTWM - How do you feel now that your back at work?

I work..

Thank GOD for work..

Can't imagine staying home every single day all day every day for ever. It would destroy me.

I love my kiddo and sure it would be nice to spend more time with her but I enjoy the managed time we have.

Daycare has been the best thing I could have EVER done.. ever! She got sick those first two years and now has a strong consitution and gets sick only once a year tops!

Daycare dropped her bottle.. then us
Daycare dropped her paci.. then us
Daycare fed her better than us while we learned
Daycare taught her to follow directions and share and all sorts of social skills by instilling them every single day from someone other than bribable mom and dad!
She loves the routine, the friends and the interactions.

I could NEVER give up my job and all my hard work I put into my career.

I stay home every now and then and it can become a disaster! I get frustrated, she gets frustrated, its not pretty. I can't just haul her to a park every day and a museum and this or that. So staying at home with her would probably ruin us. I think she's just as happy to go back to school as I am to go back to work.

Working makes home time even better. Work gives me appreciation of all the time I have with her. Work gives me the resources to spend the time with her better. Work lets us vacation, work lets us do special crafts, work lets us play hookie for ice cream! lol

JMHO

Re: FTWM - How do you feel now that your back at work?

It'll be 2 years on 5/4 that I had to go back to work. I wish I could be a SAHM. I feel like I cannot get anything done WFT. I want to spend my weekends doing fun things with DD but I have chores and shopping to do instead. It doesn't help that I hate my job.

FTWM - How do you feel now that your back at work?

Guess it doesn't help that I hate my Job too
I really feel part time would be the best of both worlds
But we can't even afford for me to do that.
LI is just too freaken expensice

FTWM - How do you feel now that your back at work?

In a perfect world I would be home with DS until he went to school. I was home the first year but had to go back, I love my job but I do wish I was able to be home until he was in school.

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i hate it

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Re: FTWM - How do you feel now that your back at work?

i love my job
but i wish every single day i could stay home

now at night, my DD says "mommy go to work? im gonna miss you!" and i usually cry

I was not made to be a working mom, I cant explain it but its like it goes against my soul

but i have no choice, so i dont think about it and i carry on