Re: FTWM - How do you feel now that your back at work?

Posted by GioiaMia

i love my job
but i wish every single day i could stay home

now at night, my DD says "mommy go to work? im gonna miss you!" and i usually cry

I was not made to be a working mom, I cant explain it but its like it goes against my soul

but i have no choice, so i dont think about it and i carry on

Re: FTWM - How do you feel now that your back at work?

I went back to work when DD was three months. I started off just going part time untill she was 9 months and have been going full time since then. She is now almost 18 months and I am going to have DD#2 in July. I dont love what I do, but I love having a career and having something to show for all of the hard work that Ive put into it. DH and I have decided that I will take a year off with the possibility of more. I have never been ok with leaving her though. I do have trouble with my patience and being home with 2 under 2 is going to be crazy but I want to be the one to spend all day with my girls and teach them things. I feel like I am such an indecisive person in life. I am always struggling with decisions (big and small) and I find myself regreting a lot of things (for example I hate my wedding dress ) but I feel like this is one big decision in life that I am making that I know will be so so so so hard...but I also know that I will never regret it.

Re: FTWM - How do you feel now that your back at work?

I have been back to work for a year now, and I still wish I could be a SAHM.

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Re: FTWM - How do you feel now that your back at work?

I work PT (usually 2 days a week, sometimes 1) and it works pretty well. I do wish I could just stay home but we don't want to change our lifestyle. I do start to feel like Groundhog Day when I'm home too much, especially with two. As much as I'm not one of those people who loves to work, it is sorta my 'me time' these days (sad as that is)! I work a super stressful, fast paced job and I can never decide which is harder- being there or being home.

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I don't love my job.
I don't even like my hours.
I work overnight and I'm always tired.
I need and enjoy my income.
I make more $ and carry our health insurance.
We need to pay the bills and enjoy spending money on entertainment. We are planning a cruise this fall.
I hate how DD always is sick with ear infections and I need to take her to the doctor and put her on antibiotics and then DH and I get sick too.
There really has to be a better way.
I really wish I could work part time.

FTWM - How do you feel now that your back at work?

I have to say the people I work with make it wonderful for me. I don't have the option to stay at home, but in a perfect world, I'd work part time...

FTWM - How do you feel now that your back at work?

I loved what I did but I hated the hours - I was an attorney at a law firm. I just couldn't get the hours I needed and spend the time I wanted to for my kids.

I ended up quitting my job when they needed me to travel more. Now I work part time for myself and do some contract work. I finally have the best of both worlds - I needed tons of flexibility.

FTWM - How do you feel now that your back at work?

I have to say, I am in retail and this is one of the few perks is I can be flexible with my hours and after 12 yrs I have so much vacation time that I often work 4 days, half shifts etc. we are 5. Min from home which is great, but my husband works retail as well and all we do is cross each other, we have no family time really

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I was on maternity leave for almost 6 months (2 months longer than planned bc I ended up changing jobs during my leave) and by the end of it I was incredibly sad to leave DD but was ready for a change bc I too felt like I was living Groundhogs Day.

I was more than fine in the beginning but a few months in I became miserable. I just didn't like what I was doing anymore, and didn't concentrate well--however I think it had more to do with the position than leaving DD but I still felt so sad that I was away from DD especially for something that I didn't enjoy doing and I didn't feel was advancing my career. I was away from her all day 8am -7pm. After being there 7 months I decided to take some time off to figure out a way to work less hours or find a more rewarding position. I'm working 1-2 days a week now and doing some contract work also and I really do enjoy having that balance. It makes me appreciate the time with DD more-- and it allows my brain to work on a different level etc.. it also keeps me fresh in my field for if I want to go back to work full time.
I do think PT is ideal, although I miss the consistency of a full time job and the financial benefits so I toy with the idea of going back to work full time. I think if money was not an issue at all I would love being a PTWM forever

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I went back to work p/t...doing 32 hrs wk. It's a great work/home balance for me. I can truly say I'm a much better Mom because I work. (if that makes sense)

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I can't work part time and can't take years off without losing everything. Not in my field. It's super male dominated.

DS will be 3 and I struggle with working FT every minute.

Thing is, I've got a great job that pays well and I don't dread it. It makes bills easy to pay, we are saving for college and for retirement. We make investments.

In 2 short years, DS will be in kindergarten. Heck, in 1 he will be in preschool. I know one thing... When he's in school, I can't just be sitting around. I don't like to cook, I hate cleaning... I'd really want to be working.

BTW: my kids do still love me. Every minute of my free time is spent with them. I'm very tired when we go to sleep, but I feel like I'm really living!

This all being said, I will try to guide DD into a part time available field... I think that would be the best of both worlds.

FTWM - How do you feel now that your back at work?

Honestly, I hate going to work everyday because I would rather be home. THat said, I despise my job so that could have a lot to do with it lol!

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Sorry Im so late responding to my own post! Well like many of you - We are truly a 2 family income – in order to lead the life that we do.
I went back to work at about 9.5 weeks its been rough. I am back part time however this cant be for forever. 1) because the two days I don’t work – I don’t get paid and it makes a difference… 2) My boss is working with me because she knows this has been hard. When I accepted this position it was because of the greater flexibility and better pay and to work my boss.

I guess I just feel after having DS – its just not that important any more. Im ok with not having all the designer luxuries in this world if I get to see my little dude…and watch him grow. Then on the flip side I do like coming to work – I think its stressful because I am learning a new function/job… and at times I feel lost in this fog... Im slow on retention and things… My concern is could all these feelings be just my hormones playing tricks…

Im not making any decisions yet… just trying to process all this. I never thought I would feel this way….

Re: FTWM - How do you feel now that your back at work?

I work 4 days and am pretty content. I wish it was only 3 days but I can deal. I like the comfort of being 100% comfortable and saving so my DC can have a stable home and we can provide for them and pay for school, etc.

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its not an option for us... to continue to pay the mortgage....

its exhausting. way more so now that its two kids. I think the sleep deprivation affects my day the most... shortens my patience when crazy stuff is happening at the office.

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I hated working full time. Seeing your kid 2 hours a day is just not enough. I also did not like staying home full time. I thought I was losing my mind. I felt I spent my whole day trying to get my 2yo to take a nap while not waking up his baby brother who was already taking a nap.

I now work part time. It is the best of both worlds. I used to feel guilty about not sticking it out as a SAHM but I love our preschool. They go to school 9-3 everyday while I work.

FTWM - How do you feel now that your back at work?

I could not imagine staying at home. I loved my time with DD and hated when I had to go back to work, but I need it. Could we survive if I didn't work? Yes, but we prefer the life we have with my salary.

DD is a great baby. She's been STTN since she was 5-6 weeks.

FTWM - How do you feel now that your back at work?

I hate it! After the twins were born I was looking forward to goi back and getting time for me with other adults. When Ds was born I was gone 3 days a week with all three of them, the. The twins went to daycare 2 days a week. I loved it, but still was looking forward to going back to work and getting that adult contact. Now that in back (I've been back at work for almost 6 months) I absolutely hate it and wish I could stay home with them. I feel so rushed during the week and it often makes me irritable and cranky. I have less than 2 hours for dinner, baths and bed. I often do t get to eat dinner myself and I feel like I have no time with my babies. The twins will be going to preschool within the year, so once they do I will quit my job to be home when they get home and ill have a year and a half with the baby before he starts preschool. I want to be the mom that is home for her kids when they get home from school. We are looking to possibly move out of state too. If we do, then dh and I agreed if stay home.

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Re: FTWM - How do you feel now that your back at work?

I went back to work when DS was 12 weeks. He is almost 9 months now. While I like my job and I think its good for me to be in a routine, I do wish that I could work part time. This way it would give me a balance of getting out of the house and seeing DS more. Also I wish my commute was 5 min vs. 40 min. We can't afford for me to work part time though, so here I am.

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Re: FTWM - How do you feel now that your back at work?

Posted by Jenny614

Posted by GioiaMia

i love my job
but i wish every single day i could stay home

now at night, my DD says "mommy go to work? im gonna miss you!" and i usually cry

I was not made to be a working mom, I cant explain it but its like it goes against my soul

but i have no choice, so i dont think about it and i carry on

Ok your post just made me want to cry

Re: FTWM - How do you feel now that your back at work?

Question...for all of you that work PT...where do you work?

Re: FTWM - How do you feel now that your back at work?

I completely understand the long commute times.. mine is in excess of an hour.
I work in orange county - in Healthcare ( hospital) and in administration. I live in Westchester

Re: FTWM - How do you feel now that your back at work?

I'm also going through this; but I know we can't afford for me to stay home

I am sad every day when I am at work. I'm usually ok leaving him in the morning; but my mid afternoon I'm so sad and literally want to cry.

I am looking forward to vacations and time off with my little boy this summer.