god parents/guardians

Are the people you asked to be the god parents the same people you will name the guardian of your children in your will?
DS is 9 months old and since he wasn't baptised or anything we never officially asked anyone to be the god father/mother. DH feels that it's just an honorary title, but I feel like whoever we name would be the person/people we're entrusting our son to. Hence the problem. DH obviously wants his twin brother to be the GF, but he's married to an aweful girl who ignores my son and I refuse to have her having any ties to him- it would make me turn over in my grave. i would love for my sister to be the GM, but she's already a single mom and she's not all that responsible to begin with.
So when we were discussing who would be named in our will, DH said his parents. Of course I would like to name my parents but they're already in their 70s, so I know that's not a great option. I love my ILs but I know they will not raise him the way I would. And I would like whoever he would go to to raise him as closely to the beliefs that DH and I hold as possible.
How did you handle all of this???

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At this point in time...the godfather would not be the guardian (he's too young and not settled) but over time if his situation changes we would consider it. We don't have a godmother for DS.

Right now DHs parents would be the guardians but since they are getting older we know realistically that that will have to change.

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Yes. My sister is Steven's Godmother and she will take him if anything happens to me and DH. With help from my parents and brothers, of course.

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No. My parents will be named the guardians for now.

When my parents get older we may consider the godparents as guardians.

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I've been thinking of doing a will. It's something that's been on my mind. Anyways we are planning on asking his Godparents to be Matthew's Guardians should anything (knock on wood) every happen to us.

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Sometimes people choose sisters or brothers or friends because they are close to them and want them to be the Godparents but it may not necessarily be who you would choose as their guardians. The thing is, if you have more than one child and do choose Godparents for them, you wouldn't necesarrily choose the same set of people. And if something happened to you, you wouldn't give one child to one person/godparent and the other to the their Godparent(s). I know we love and trust the Godparents we chose for our son, but they are not a couple. One is a very good friend, and the other is my sister. We had decided that my sister would be Matteo's guardian if anything happened to us. She has 2 girls, they're 8 and 9, and we know they are financially able to handle it. I'm very close with my sister, and we would be her children's guardians also.

Hope that helped!

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My twin sister is my sons guardian and she is his godmother. I feel like both are an important role, but do not have to be the same person. It needs to be the person who will take care of your child like it was their own.