Have you ever been let down by a REFERENCE

When applying for a job or a place to stay? You put down someone you THINK would be a good reference and it turns out they don't have very nice things to say about you and purity much give you a bad reference..

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How would one know if they gave a poor reference? None of my references have ever called me saying, "Sorry, but I talked $hit about you."

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I was applying to colleges and asked one of my HS teachers to write a reference and it went straight into my college file which was reviewed by my high school's Guidance Counselor who was responsible for sending the transcripts/college materials for students..

She met with every student to discuss college and in reviewinf my file, came across the reference letter and told me it wasn't a letter I should include. Although she didn't physically show me the letter, she did quote that the teacher said somthing like "although __is a proficiient student in __ subject, she isn't the best student I've taught - however I have confidence her skills will only grow as a student at your university.."

Needless to say I was and didn't include that recommendation letter in my apps!!! After that experience, I made sure every reference letter I secured for a job, grad school application, etc was absolutely glowing and even asked my recommenders if I could read it once they sent it..

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You should always confirm with the person that they will be a reference for you. Never just put someone down -- make sure they know in advance and ask for their permission. That gives them the chance to decline if they don't want to say positive things.

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I make sure that I ask my references in advance if they mind me using them as a reference. I used to verify references (back in the day when people actually gave them and not just verified dates of employment ) and it was shocking what people would say. Always made me wonder why an applicant would even list them. Here's a classic example:

I was checking references for a direct care counselor at AHRC. This person listed someone that she had done summer work for at a horse stable. When I called for a reference the woman said that the applicant had neglected and KILLED HER HORSE and she couldnt recommend her to care for living things

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Posted by Domino

Here's a classic example:

I was checking references for a direct care counselor at AHRC. This person listed someone that she had done summer work for at a horse stable. When I called for a reference the woman said that the applicant had neglected and KILLED HER HORSE and she couldnt recommend her to care for living things

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No. I hand pick my references and I ask them first.

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was this a "friend" or an old co worker?

I would always let someone know if I was using them as a reference...

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All of them have been good so far because I ask coworkers that I have befriended if they wouldn't mind being my referece.