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computergirl
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Re: Have you slept away from your DC
My 2 year old DS has spent the night at my parents' house many, many times.
About once every month or so they'll take him on a Sat night and let me and DH have a date night.
I didn't do it till he was 6 months old though, partly because of BFing getting in the way, but mostly because I wasn't ready. Nowadays though, I look FORWARD to the night with DH!!! (granted I am a SAHM so it's also a rare thing that I get ANY child-free time!  )
DS doesn't mind being away at all... he's soooo attached to his "Ma" and "Pa"! The last time they picked him up for an overnight, they decided to take him on a couple errands shortly after getting back to their house. So they buckle DS in the car, and DS starts crying and saying "NO NO NO!". They start asking him what's wrong and it turns out he thought he was going back to Mommy and Daddy's house already! They had to convince him they were just going to the supermarket!  Should I be insulted?
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Re: Have you slept away from your DC
Posted by architectnycity
I don't think you are abnormal. I think it is kind of strange when my friends drop their child off at their parents once a week to have a night off. Thats just me though.
I am curious why you think it is "Strange". If it works for the couple and the baby is happy, what is the harm?
When I was growing up I spent weekends with my grandparents for as long as I could remember. I LOVED it - and still look back at that time fondly.
My DD spends nights with my parents and inlaws all the time. Sometimes there is a reason (we might have a wedding) sometimes we just hang out at home and have some of our own QT.
I am 100% comfortable with it. I know she is well taken care of, she gets to spend qt with her grandparents, and sometimes getting a little break from eachother is exactly what we need (esp. when you are in the terrible 2's!).
My DD loves going to them...now that she is very verbal she asks me to go. She will ask if her grandma's can pick her up from school to play with her - and you know what, I let her ask them when she wants it....and they are THRILLED to do it.
In my opinion its a win-win situation, it works for us, gives everyone a break, and most importantly makes everyone happy.
I am still young, I have friends...a social life, and a man I love very much who I need some alone time with. I don't feel I need to give any of that up because I have a child. I am lucky to have family I trust and love close by to help me have it all....so I guess maybe I am a little offended when someone says its strange....I dont see anything strange about it?! 
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| Posted 5/21/08 6:54 AM |
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Re: Have you slept away from your DC
Posted by dediko
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NO.. I think I had my years of party time and playing....
I don't think I will be having many nights without Sofia Ava...
Maybe a sleepover by my moms when she is older..
but this is me
same here
Same here, but for the life of me, the only way I think I would be able to do this is if my SIL comes from NJ... my parents would never take Cailen at this age, and that is all we have now in terms of "help" - which means I have no help at all! 
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| Posted 5/21/08 6:56 AM |
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Re: Have you slept away from your DC
Posted by MrsR
Posted by architectnycity
I don't think you are abnormal. I think it is kind of strange when my friends drop their child off at their parents once a week to have a night off. Thats just me though.
I am curious why you think it is "Strange". If it works for the couple and the baby is happy, what is the harm?
When I was growing up I spent weekends with my grandparents for as long as I could remember. I LOVED it - and still look back at that time fondly.
My DD spends nights with my parents and inlaws all the time. Sometimes there is a reason (we might have a wedding) sometimes we just hang out at home and have some of our own QT.
I am 100% comfortable with it. I know she is well taken care of, she gets to spend qt with her grandparents, and sometimes getting a little break from eachother is exactly what we need (esp. when you are in the terrible 2's!).
My DD loves going to them...now that she is very verbal she asks me to go. She will ask if her grandma's can pick her up from school to play with her - and you know what, I let her ask them when she wants it....and they are THRILLED to do it.
In my opinion its a win-win situation, it works for us, gives everyone a break, and most importantly makes everyone happy.
I am still young, I have friends...a social life, and a man I love very much who I need some alone time with. I don't feel I need to give any of that up because I have a child. I am lucky to have family I trust and love close by to help me have it all....so I guess maybe I am a little offended when someone says its strange....I dont see anything strange about it?!
Well said!!!
I actually think it's wonderful for Connor to have that time to bond even more with my parents. They love having him- they say it makes them feel young
I was wildly offended when someone here criticized my choice to leave him
My mom also said that as wonderful and important as children are you need to take time for you and your husband, which is true. I tihink it does everyone a world of good.
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2PreciousBlessings
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Re: Have you slept away from your DC
Ella has slept at both sets of grandparents house. We have no problem with it at all. Her grandparents loves her dearly and they love spending time with her. It's important for her to spend time with her grandparents.
Dh and I think it is very important for us as a couple and parents to have time for each other. It helps to strengthen the marriage that we have. So, we do not have no problem sleeping away from Ella when it is necessary.
We did have a life before Ella and we will continue to have life now that she's here.
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| Posted 5/21/08 8:27 AM |
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Re: Have you slept away from your DC
Nope
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Merf99
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Re: Have you slept away from your DC
I have - I travel for work usually twice a year so I leave her home with DH. We have never been away together from her though (she's 19 months) but I don't see anything wrong with it.
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| Posted 5/21/08 10:01 AM |
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The first night I slept away from DC was our 1 year anniversary - DD was only 1 1/2 months...my mom kept her for the night...
Then we were away for 2 nights when DD was 2 1/2 months for my girlfriend's wedding in PA.
Third time was the night before my 30th birthday - DD was just about 7 months. DH took me to dinner and my mom watched.
My mom has a crib and all the toys/formula/diapers/etc. that DD needs, so occaisionally she likes to have DD sleep over. I don't think I could leave her with anyone else...
I will say I enjoyed the break the few times we've done it, but I have always wanted to get back to DD as soon as possible...I miss her!! But she's a pretty well-adjusted kid and doesn't seem to mind! But i do think it's an individual thing. I know lots of friends/family who have 2/3/4 year olds and haven't spent a night away - it's what you are comfortable with...
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Diane
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Re: Have you slept away from your DC
I dont think you are bizarre for feeling that way. I guess everyone is different.
My boys are 20 months and we have been away from them overnight a few times, when DH and I went away.
The most we stayed overnight away from them was 2 nights.
I missed them so much, but I know they were being taking care of, loved and fed very well. Sometimes you guys just need that time away.
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| Posted 5/21/08 10:47 AM |
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Re: Have you slept away from your DC
I havent been away from DD yet and she's almost 8 months. My parents never offers to have to stay the night and DH's family never sees her.
We're getting married next month and she's even coming with us on our honeymoon since my parents refuse to watch her. I don't think there will ever be a time where she isnt with us.
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nylisa
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Re: Have you slept away from your DC
We have only slept away from DS once. He was 3 months old and he stayed over at my best friend's house (who used to watch him when I first went back to work) over night because we attended my cousin's wedding.
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| Posted 5/21/08 10:59 AM |
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yaji617
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Re: Have you slept away from your DC
My kids stay over grandma's house at least 2 weekends out of the month. We have no prpblems with it b/c they are in great care! Needless to say we get a break to go out with friends or just relax at home.
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| Posted 5/21/08 11:11 AM |
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Bklyngrl
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Re: Have you slept away from your DC
i did once a few weeks ago and my parents watched her. I felt SO numb but i needed to give it a "practice run" because we have a wedding out of state in 2 months and i will need to leave her for 2 nights which i am dreading but DH is in bridal party so we need to attend rehearsal dinner and wedding
DC is 7 1/2 months
personally, i could not leave my 3 month old for a whole week
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| Posted 5/21/08 11:17 AM |
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paulandles912
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Re: Have you slept away from your DC
When I gave birth to Hannah I spent two nights away from Andrew. That's it.
I think I would love to let them sleep over with either set of grandparents, but no one's offered that yet! 
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vegalady
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Re: Have you slept away from your DC
Oh yes I have. I went away to see my girfriend in Floriday for 3 days. It was hard but relaxing. He was with DH so i wasn't worried. I will leave him with either of his grandmothers if DH and I wanted to go away together.
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mommy2bella
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Re: Have you slept away from your DC
I don't think you are bizarre...everyone is different
I was in a wedding party when Bella was 7 weeks and my MIL took her overnight...
Since then, my dad has taken her for two nights (when we had a wedding in NJ and DH was in the bridal party--that was hard for me) and also overnight on a few occasions, my sister has taken her a couple of times...and in October we went away to Chicago for two nights and my sister and MIL stayed out our house.
I LOVE that she is comfortable with other people.
I have also gona on overnight trips for work and DH has gone away without me.
I think SIL is taking her overnight on Sunday and she is going to have a sleepover with her cousins...
Just as you aren't bizarre for not wanting to leave...I feel I am not bizarre for wanting a night "off" PLUS, my family enjoys the one on one time...
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| Posted 5/21/08 12:37 PM |
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Re: Have you slept away from your DC
Posted by Janice
Oddly enough...what is so much more shocking to me is mothers who leave babies home with the dads My friend in FL is in a wedding in Buffalo. Leaving the 4 month old home with her DH for the weekend.
I told Leo there is no way I could do that, and he said great...there is no way that I would ever want that to happen
really??? DH is the one I am most comfortable leaving Bella with. I had to chaperone my sister's sweet 16 in the city when Bella was 6 weeks overnight and when she was 10 weeks I had a two day business trip I had to go on. DH is truly my equal and I never even questioned my decision a second (well, I did because it was hard to leave her at that age....BUT not because it was DH)
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Cookiegobbler
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Re: Have you slept away from your DC
Nope... DD is 13 months old and I've NEVER slept away from her...
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Elizabeth
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Re: Have you slept away from your DC
The first time we slept away from my oldest was when he was 7 months and we had a night wedding in south Jersey. It didn't make sense for anyone to go out to my SIL's house at 2am to bring him back home. My DH and I kept changing the words to every song to fit his name in on the drive home from the wedding, I guess bc we were missing him already. After that was when I had my 2nd child and then when I had my 3rd. Also my DH has taken them away to his sister's house upstate without me. It gets easier, esp if you have a few and someone is willing to keep them overnight 
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Re: Have you slept away from your DC
Absolutely I have!! Many times...
First time was at 11 months. I would have been comfortable doing it sooner (not much sooner though), but the occasion did not arise.
I don't think you are "bizarre" for not having done that yet though.
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