Re: Have you slept away from your DC

Posted by Ang-Rich

Nope...haven't done it yet and seem to have a hard time even thinking of it. I actually haven't even had anyone take him other than daycare for the day.

But this weekend we are sending him to my MIL for the day so we can get stuff done around the house for his party...not sleeping over (although it would be a huge help) - I just can't. I start thinking about him having a hard time getting to sleep, not being in his crib, not being there if he wakes, messing up his schedule, all that stuff and I panic.

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I went away for 2 nights but left her with dh. I am not ready at all to leave her overnight with anyone other then him.

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i feel like the MOST awful mom on the boards. DS sleeps away often at my MILs. First time he was a month old and i was literally on the verge of a nervous breakdown. All in all it was 12 hours apart. That was hard.

But since I've been back to work my MIL watches DS 2 days a week (thursday and friday) so he would stay over there thursday nights (made sense because by the time I'd pick him up it would be 6:30 and he goes to sleep at 7). Otherwise my MIL would have to leave her house at 6am both mornings to get him because she gets stuck in MAJOR traffic. eventually he actually started staying there sometimes wed. and thurs nights. Sometimes she gets him on wed. at 7 when he is ready to go down. And sometimes I bring him there and put him to sleep. This is a weekly occurrence.

And then there was one time when I went to a wedding on LI (we live in Jersey) where he stayed overnight with MIL. And then recently I went to jamaica for 5 days and he stayed with DH and MIL.

After writing this out I really do feel like I"m going to throw up because I feel like I'm not as attached to him as maybe I should be. I love him though. Not sure why this doesn't bother me! He loves his grandma though and I know that she (as well as my two SIL's that still live there) are on cloud 9 when he is there. But he still always loves him mommy the most. And i do miss him terribly when he's not with me.

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Kaitee was 14 months old when I had Brooke. The night I was in the hospital was the only night I have been away from her. She is now 21 months.

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Looks like I am in the minoity, but DS sleeps at Grandma's a lot since he's about 5 weeks old. My parents live 2 miles away and they'll take him at least once a month overnight. He loves to spend time with them and my mother is over the moon to wake up with him there. DH and I are not 'party'ers' but we go to dinner with friends and we've had numerous parties/weddings to attend. It doesn't make sense to wake him up that late and bring him home when we can just get him in the morning.

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The only nights DW was ever away from DC is when DD was born, and DW and DD were in the hospital, and I was home with DS. DS just turned 5 this month....

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Posted by Janice

Oddly enough...what is so much more shocking to me is mothers who leave babies home with the dads My friend in FL is in a wedding in Buffalo. Leaving the 4 month old home with her DH for the weekend.

I told Leo there is no way I could do that, and he said great...there is no way that I would ever want that to happen

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Yes....DS has slept at my parents and inlaws, more than once~ I don't see anything wrong with it~

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DS is 10 1/2 months and I have never slept away from him. Actually he has never slept anywhere except his crib (except daycare for naps) I'm just not ready to let him sleep over anywhere. Also no one has ever put him to bed but me..which I want to change but I dont know how. :0 another thing i need to change LOL

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Not yet, DS is 5 months old. We do have a wedding in the Caribbean when he is 10.5 months so we are planning on leaving him for 4 days at that point, but I am already a mess about it! And we haven't even decided if we are going or not.

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Twice - once for a funeral, when they were 8 months and once for a wedding - this past weekend. At this age I'm not sure I could leave them more than one or two nights.

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Yes...the first time DD#1 was 8 mos. and we traveled to the Jersey Shore overnight for a wedding. DD#2 slept at ILs when she was 6 mos. DH was interviewing in DC and we took DD#1 with us.

Currently, DD#1 (who is 2.75) has monthly sleepovers with one of her cousins at grandma's house.

Maybe I'm a bad mom, but I wish she would take them both!!

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This Saturday will be the first time. I'm really hesitant, but DH wants to go out and it's just better if she spends the night at my mothers. We only live 5 minutes away but honestly, I don't think I'm going to have a good time.

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Only for business trips. When DH goes away (fairly frequently depending on the time of year), I am home. When I go away (only 1-2 times a year), DH is home.

I can imagine sleepovers with our parents when they are older, but for the most part we do not plan on dropping the kids off for overnight visits unless there is a special reason/occasion (hopefully we will take a trip to Italy soon!)

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Posted by jms100303

Posted by Janice

Oddly enough...what is so much more shocking to me is mothers who leave babies home with the dads My friend in FL is in a wedding in Buffalo. Leaving the 4 month old home with her DH for the weekend.

I told Leo there is no way I could do that, and he said great...there is no way that I would ever want that to happen

Really? This I don't understand - it is his dad! I don't get why some women won't leave their children with their dads.

That said DS is almost 7 months and I haven't left him overnight. I was just talking to my SIL about this yesterday and it really surprised me. I never expected that I wouldn't want to leave him. However, a few more nights of now sleep and he might be going to grandma & grandpas.

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I never slept away from Jacob. This Saturday we are going into the city for a show and that is only the second time that DH and I will be going out without him

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dd has slept at my IL's a few times when we had to go somewhere....they live accross town so if they will be watching her at night, she sleeps there. They have a crib for her. I think it is fine if you are comfortable with it......it is healthy to have time with just DH and you too even after you have kids

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Posted by ME75

Posted by jms100303

Posted by Janice

Oddly enough...what is so much more shocking to me is mothers who leave babies home with the dads My friend in FL is in a wedding in Buffalo. Leaving the 4 month old home with her DH for the weekend.

I told Leo there is no way I could do that, and he said great...there is no way that I would ever want that to happen

Really? This I don't understand - it is his dad! I don't get why some women won't leave their children with their dads.

That said DS is almost 7 months and I haven't left him overnight. I was just talking to my SIL about this yesterday and it really surprised me. I never expected that I wouldn't want to leave him. However, a few more nights of now sleep and he might be going to grandma & grandpas.

i agree...a child's father should be competent in taking care of their own child too. i would have no problem leaving DD with DH for a weekend or whatever. although i haven't had the opportunity yet. anyway, i trust him completely he is amazing with her!

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Never have...not sure that we will any time soon either.

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Diana is 4, and I never have. Honestly, I just was not ready (she would probably be fine.. lol). We were thinking about maybe doing one night soon. (letting her stay at my sisters). we'll see

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Posted by jms100303

Posted by Janice

Oddly enough...what is so much more shocking to me is mothers who leave babies home with the dads My friend in FL is in a wedding in Buffalo. Leaving the 4 month old home with her DH for the weekend.

I told Leo there is no way I could do that, and he said great...there is no way that I would ever want that to happen

Really? This I don't understand - it is his dad! I don't get why some women won't leave their children with their dads.

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I would absolutely leave DS home for the weekend with DH!! If I have a shower to attend or plans with friends,my DH will watch DS~
I don't doubt my DH one bit!! He is amazing with DS and is capable of caring for DS~

I also wanted to add that by us allowing DS to spend the night with the grandparents, it allowed him to adjust sleeping in a different environment. DS is not the type of kid who if he is 1 minute off his schedule all helll breaks lose.

Message edited 5/20/2008 12:59:21 PM.

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Only for 3 nights total and she is 16 months old.

One night for my best friend's bachelorette party out of town and my DH was with her. She was 6 months old.

The other two nights were a trip to Vegas with our best friends who live in NY. We never get time alone with them. But my DD had my sister, my mom, my dad and grandmother with her so I didn't worry a bit- Ok, maybe just a little. She was 8 months old.

I can't imagine leaving my child with someone who isn't family.