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jinglemommy
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Re: Have you slept away from your DC
whenever we have a wedding ds sleeps at either grandparents house...and that is at least once a month. I think they get such a kick out of having him there! Some nights he is bed with them And they can to experience him from the moment he wakes up---and so excited to see them!
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betty
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Re: Have you slept away from your DC
All the time!!! At 11 months I went to California for the weekend without DS. He just got back from a weekend in Rochester with my mother (2.9yrs) and he sleeps at my mothers almost every Sunday night .
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| Posted 5/20/08 4:39 PM |
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CkGm
They get so big, so fast :(
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Christine
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Re: Have you slept away from your DC
Posted by lbelle821
i feel like the MOST awful mom on the boards. DS sleeps away often at my MILs. First time he was a month old and i was literally on the verge of a nervous breakdown. All in all it was 12 hours apart. That was hard.
But since I've been back to work my MIL watches DS 2 days a week (thursday and friday) so he would stay over there thursday nights (made sense because by the time I'd pick him up it would be 6:30 and he goes to sleep at 7). Otherwise my MIL would have to leave her house at 6am both mornings to get him because she gets stuck in MAJOR traffic. eventually he actually started staying there sometimes wed. and thurs nights. Sometimes she gets him on wed. at 7 when he is ready to go down. And sometimes I bring him there and put him to sleep. This is a weekly occurrence.
And then there was one time when I went to a wedding on LI (we live in Jersey) where he stayed overnight with MIL. And then recently I went to jamaica for 5 days and he stayed with DH and MIL.
After writing this out I really do feel like I"m going to throw up because I feel like I'm not as attached to him as maybe I should be. I love him though. Not sure why this doesn't bother me! He loves his grandma though and I know that she (as well as my two SIL's that still live there) are on cloud 9 when he is there. But he still always loves him mommy the most. And i do miss him terribly when he's not with me.
Its sounds like you are doing what you have to do- not being a bad mommy!  I love my DD with all my heart but when my DH and I went to Vegas for a couple of nights, I definately didn't miss her as much as I thought I would- I really enjoyed my alone time with my DH. Don't feel badly!
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| Posted 5/20/08 4:44 PM |
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Disneygirl
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Re: Have you slept away from your DC
Nope not yet. It's not like we have a large pool of babysitters to choose from. I live with my mom and my MIL is "unstable" to put it nicely. My mom has watched DD a lot but works f/t so going away for a weekend and leaving her with my mom wouldn't be fair to her.
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| Posted 5/20/08 4:48 PM |
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Dani922
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Danielle
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Re: Have you slept away from your DC
Yes I have. DD was 2 the first time I slept away from her. I've gone on 2 weekend trips where DD stayed with DH & our honeymoon (4 nights) where she stayed between both sets of Grandparents. She has spent a night at Grandma's a couple of times. DH & I are going away for 3 nights in July. We told DD that she was going to have a sleep over with Grandma soon & she was thrilled! She was ready to leave right away
I was absolutely terrified of spending a night away for the first 2 years & when I did go the first time, I was so nervous, but DD really enjoys her sleepovers with grandma & granpa & they love having her.
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| Posted 5/20/08 5:47 PM |
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Tonia
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Tonia
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Re: Have you slept away from your DC
DS will be spend 2 nights and grandma's house next weekend for the first time (he's 10 weeks old). I have to go upstate for my cousin's wedding (I am the MOH). I have completely freaking out about this! I'm going to miss not having him with me, however I know he'll be in good hands and it will be nice to have some grown up time with DH 
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| Posted 5/20/08 5:50 PM |
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nadia
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Re: Have you slept away from your DC
Not yet, but I will in June she will be about 6 months old. I'm going away for a retreat one night only with my church and dd is staying with dh. I won't be far anyway....I will still be on the island.
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| Posted 5/20/08 5:51 PM |
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beachgirl13
Mommy to 3 boys!
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Re: Have you slept away from your DC
only once. DH was in the wedding party, and it was in RI. DS was 11 months old at the time. That was it, though.
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| Posted 5/20/08 6:26 PM |
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maybebaby
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Re: Have you slept away from your DC
A few times! It doesn't bother me. I think its important to have downtime and sleep in once in a while.
Does he wake up upset sometimes? Yes but it goes away after a few minutes and he is fine. I will be going away again in June, just overnight and can't wait!!
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| Posted 5/20/08 6:39 PM |
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Diana1215
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Diana
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Re: Have you slept away from your DC
Posted by lbelle821
i feel like the MOST awful mom on the boards. DS sleeps away often at my MILs. First time he was a month old and i was literally on the verge of a nervous breakdown. All in all it was 12 hours apart. That was hard.
But since I've been back to work my MIL watches DS 2 days a week (thursday and friday) so he would stay over there thursday nights (made sense because by the time I'd pick him up it would be 6:30 and he goes to sleep at 7). Otherwise my MIL would have to leave her house at 6am both mornings to get him because she gets stuck in MAJOR traffic. eventually he actually started staying there sometimes wed. and thurs nights. Sometimes she gets him on wed. at 7 when he is ready to go down. And sometimes I bring him there and put him to sleep. This is a weekly occurrence.
And then there was one time when I went to a wedding on LI (we live in Jersey) where he stayed overnight with MIL. And then recently I went to jamaica for 5 days and he stayed with DH and MIL.
After writing this out I really do feel like I"m going to throw up because I feel like I'm not as attached to him as maybe I should be. I love him though. Not sure why this doesn't bother me! He loves his grandma though and I know that she (as well as my two SIL's that still live there) are on cloud 9 when he is there. But he still always loves him mommy the most. And i do miss him terribly when he's not with me.
You are a great mom and don't ever doubt yourself. He is in great hands and it's making it easier on everyone by having him sleep there. In order for us to be great moms we do need a break every now and then - it's just hard for us to realize that sometimes!
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| Posted 5/20/08 6:52 PM |
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Erica
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Re: Have you slept away from your DC
It was probably 11 months when my first spent the night at the grandparents. #2 stayed over at 6 weeks!  (we had a wedding and it was great!)
I have left DH and DS for a girls' weekend a few times and DH has taken one kid at a time to MIL's OOS.
DH and I have not gone away alone since becoming parents though
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| Posted 5/20/08 6:53 PM |
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Chica
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Erica
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Re: Have you slept away from your DC
DD is sleeping at my parents house on Sunday night because we have a wedding. They are so excited to have her sleep over and I'm looking forward to a night alone with DH!
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| Posted 5/20/08 7:02 PM |
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ExpectingJoy
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Cari
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Re: Have you slept away from your DC
Gosh, Carolyn sleeps over my inlaws ALL the time- probably about once every other week. It started when she was about 6 months old and I would leave her for vacations, weddings, and occasional weekends with my husband.
Honestly, we use the time for my husband and I to replenish and rejuvenate and focus on each other. Also now, after I had Lauren in early April, when Carolyn goes there, it allows me to focus on her alone.
One more thing- At 2 1/2, she literally started begging me to sleepover there and is so excited when she gets to. It is such a treat for her and she gets giddy. My inlaws spoil her rotten.
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| Posted 5/20/08 7:07 PM |
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InShock
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Re: Have you slept away from your DC
Not yet. But I definitely don't see anything wrong with it. In August, DH and I are going away for 2 nights for our 5 year anniversary. DD (who will be 13 mos.) will stay with my parents. I will miss her TREMENDOUSLY, but I know my parents will take excellent care of her (as they do 2 days per week when I'm at work) ... and DD is in LOVE with my mom, so I bet she'll hardly miss me anyway!  
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| Posted 5/20/08 7:31 PM |
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stayandjohn
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Stacey
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Re: Have you slept away from your DC
My son slept at my moms for the 1st time when he was 2 months. He loves sleeping there and they love having him. He sleeps there at least once a month
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| Posted 5/20/08 7:37 PM |
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Moehick
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Re: Have you slept away from your DC
First time she was 5 months old...we had a wedding. Then after that it was more frequent....I saw how much my parents and in laws loved spending the time with her and DH and I enjoyed the time to ourselves....try it, you may like it
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| Posted 5/20/08 7:49 PM |
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HillW9608
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Member since 5/08 5916 total posts
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Hill
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Re: Have you slept away from your DC
No, you're not abnormal at all!! DD was about 4 months when we left her for the first time for a weekend. She stayed with my mom with whom we are very close, she has a crib and a whole nursery pretty much
I think it depends on the person, we get invited to a lot of OOT weddings and sometimes we like to take a mini vacation by ourselves.. but not all the time..
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| Posted 5/20/08 7:52 PM |
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lbelle821
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Member since 2/06 5285 total posts
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Lisa
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Re: Have you slept away from your DC
Posted by Moehick
try it, you may like it
I agree with this....and certainly not knocking on anyone who isn't ready yet because it is a huge step. BUT, when DC is with someone you absolutely trust....PLUS you know how much they like to spend time with that person...it does set your mind at ease and makes it a little easier. You never know, they might like it too. Typically grandparents spoil the grandkids. I know when Matthew is at MILs he get fed delicious homemade meals and is held and played with all day long. Is always going for walks, it always out and about. And gets new toys all the time. I probably should squash that now before he becomes a royally spoiled brat
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| Posted 5/20/08 8:06 PM |
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Salason
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Re: Have you slept away from your DC
We have once when he was 5 months old. We didnt like it much but know we need our time too. Luckily that was a "test" to see how we'd all do if we left him for a long weekend vaca. Guess who's coming to Punta Cana with us next week  One night is one thing but vacationing without him isnt for us AT ALL.
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| Posted 5/20/08 9:07 PM |
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alexlynn7
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Re: Have you slept away from your DC
we spent one night away from ds when he was almost 6 months old - it was barely 24 hours, but it was still a night away...
then this past weekend we had my in-laws stay at our house for 2 nights while we went to washington dc for a conference. he is 7 months now.
i really, really miss ds when we're away from him... but i also enjoy getting a little break and a chance to really sleep in
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| Posted 5/20/08 9:15 PM |
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BaroqueMama
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Re: Have you slept away from your DC
Ummm, Ava sleeps at my parent's house whenever we have the chance!
We both work hard, and parenting ontop of it is exhausting, so I'll take the break when I get the chance! I have zero guilt about it because my parents love her more than life itself, and so do JT and I, so it's a win-win situation that they get to spend time with her and we get to spend time without her
I cannot even count the amount of times she's stayed over without us.
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| Posted 5/20/08 9:18 PM |
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WoodIAm
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JoAnne
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Re: Have you slept away from your DC
We went away one night when he was 13 months then I went away for 4 nights when he was 14 months. I don't think you are abnormal at all. It killed me to leave the first time and if I had to do over again, I would not have gone away for the 4 days!
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| Posted 5/20/08 9:21 PM |
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saraH
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Re: Have you slept away from your DC
No, but my IL's live in the next town and my parents are less then 20 minutes away so there has never been a reason to sleep away from her.
I don't think it's abnormal at all.
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| Posted 5/20/08 9:42 PM |
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patti08
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Patti
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Re: Have you slept away from your DC
DD is almost 9 months old and I've never spent a night away from her.
12 days after she was born my c-section burst open and I spent several hours at the hospital and was almost admitted. I was crying and begging not to be. They let me go home. She was at my mother's while I was there. DH was ferrying breast milk that I pumped at the hospital to her at my mother's. It was about 10 hours total. I think that's the longest we've ever been apart.
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| Posted 5/20/08 10:14 PM |
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rojerono
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Jeannie
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Re: Have you slept away from your DC
I don't think you are abnormal at all.
I was in my best friend's wedding when Robbie was 5 months old. I spent the night away from him from around 9 (when he left with my sis) until we got home the next morning. I called 1000000 times and begged Rob to leave the hotel at like 5 in the morning. We had to wait for our friend to take us and so I got home at around 8 and was SO RELIEVED.
The next time I slept away was when I was in Vegas for my bachelorette party last year. I had a great time - but called a million times each day and even wanted to leave a day early (they were 5 & 3 at the time). Then on our wedding day last year (Robbie was 2 weeks shy of his 6th bday and Noah was 2.5 months short of 4), Rob and I spent the night (our honeymoon) at the Hyatt. We left first thing in the morning. Most recently we took a trip to Mohonk for our anniversary a few weeks ago. 2 nights. And we ran our room bill up the wazoo with the phone calls.
So yeah - we have a 7 year old and a 4 year old and I can count the number of times we've been away from them on one hand.
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