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maymama
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he's like a different child
all of a sudden, tantrums, screaming, fighting me  
he is almost 13 months. if he tries to grab something and i take it away, if I close a door to a room he wanted to go into, if i walk out of a room or give him something to eat that he doesnt want  screaming, flailing, shrieking! i can tell he is frustrated so how do i help him?
do i comfort him or just let him have the tantrum and once he quiets down, then comfort him?
ahhhh i want to rip my hair out.
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JennZ
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Re: he's like a different child
Its the age. Buckle up, its going to last awhile. Its also a test, to see what you will and will not allow. Stay firm, they are slick little suckers at this age. You can break him
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| Posted 6/1/11 7:47 AM |
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headoverheels
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Re: he's like a different child
At that age it's all about distractions! If they have something they can't have, replace it with something they can have. They want to get in the bedroom door? Move them to the living room. They are trying to open the fridge? Give them pots and pans to bang on.
It's also at this age I would start saying the reasons why along with the "no" - DD, we don't touch that because it's hot." "DS, we don't open that because it's not yours." They don't like it but you will be AMAZED at how much they understand - receptive language is huge at this age.
And when all else fails I put her in the booster seat with a snack and milk and put on the TV 
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| Posted 6/1/11 7:58 AM |
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maymama
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Re: he's like a different child
Posted by headoverheels
And when all else fails I put her in the booster seat with a snack and milk and put on the TV
currently in the highchair with cheerios and ya gabs  
its just so strange. like a switch flipped. we went away over the weekend and he was with my inlaws for three days. he wasnt like this before we left. all of a sudden. i think its also teething but I am HOPING its not related to his increased dairy intake
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| Posted 6/1/11 8:02 AM |
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skinny
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Re: he's like a different child
I understand your pain! Hopefully it's a quick stage.
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| Posted 6/1/11 8:08 AM |
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cheryl28
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Re: he's like a different child
I am going through it also. Our babies are a few weeks apart and it's so annoying. She turned 1 and when I say no with a reason it's crying shrieking and tantrums. She threw herself down and kicked the other day. I was like no way and let her have it. Other times I distract. I think it depends on the type of fit they are throwing. I actually just read an email from babycenter this morning about tantrums. Maybe do some research on it. It said it was trial and error on whT will work for your child !
You are not alone!
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| Posted 6/1/11 8:18 AM |
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NervousNell
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Re: he's like a different child
DD has been doing this for months now.
God FORBID you take away something she has in her hand- she will FREAK out.
Screams that can wake the dead.
I swear sometimes I worry the neighbors will think I'm committing a murder in my house.
She has actually laid down on the floor in a tantrum position too.
I pretty much just ignore it- I feel like if I give into it, I'm only encourgaing it. Not that it has helped much, but I'm sticking to it.
If she screams because I took something away that she shouldn't have, I will just try to distract her with something else.
Her attention span is so short at this age that it usually works pretty quick!
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| Posted 6/1/11 9:19 AM |
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LoveyQ
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Re: he's like a different child
Haha, it's definitely the age. There are times where DS wants something and we take it away and he freaks - the crying/screaming, I'm like SERIOUSLY? lol! I 100% agree that distraction is key in moments like these. So far that has been working very well with DS. Also, I found that sometimes I just have to put things out of sight for him. There are certain things that if he can still see them out, no amount of distraction will help keep him away.
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| Posted 6/1/11 9:50 AM |
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mommyIam
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Re: he's like a different child
I'm here to sing a different tune.
But I'm not in the mood to type it and get cynical comments today, about how it doesn't work, how its weird, wrong, or otherwise. Just hoping it might help someone to get a different view. Some links to the best parenting articles I've read online.
Positive Parenting in the Tantrum Zone
Baby Discipline Person To Person
Toddler Tantrums Whos In Control
Toddler Testing 3 Steps to End the Nightmare
eta: new article today
5 reasons toddlers dont need redirection and what to do instead/
I follow RIE and I love it. I'm not a fundamentalist but I think I understand the core and practice it well. Any questions I'm more than happy to direct you to any information you want. There is nothing to buy, if you don't want to
Its just a different way to look at what you say and do with your baby, and it has made us calmer and happier all around.
Message edited 6/1/2011 11:08:07 PM.
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| Posted 6/1/11 10:14 AM |
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BethanyLynn
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Re: he's like a different child
Sorry but Kiera started this too around this age. Now at 16 months it worse than ever. Even hits her own face out of frustration. Wants to do everything herself. If you say "NO" its a meltdown! Seriously every day its whiny whiny whiny. Clinging to my legs and screeching! Its not fun 
hang in there!
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| Posted 6/1/11 10:16 AM |
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