How can I politely not accept a family member's Facebook friend request?

So, DH's aunt has sent me a Facebook request.

I absolutely do not want to accept it for several reasons.

1) She has said and done things in the past that are extremely rude and irritating, so because of that she already gets under my skin. For example, she didn't come to our house one year for Christmas Eve because she was too sick. We saw her the next day at someone else's house and she walked in with a surgical mask on and proceeded to tell us she would wash her hands so that she could hold DS (he was 3 months old at the time) When we politely told her no she got all offended and didn't talk to us for a while. She also told my DH after I had my DD that she knew I was having a girl because my "a$s got big".

2) She has my email address and the only emails I get from her (constantly) are forwarded chain emails, political emails that I don't agree with... let's just say I don't even open them up on my computer for fear that she's going to send me a virus.

3) I looked at her Facebook page and all she does is play online poker and gambling games so I just know all I am going to get from her are requests to play the games with her.

4) I can see that she changed her profile picture to one of her and my DD and that just bugs me.

5) She's just overall a woman with no class and she has no filter so I just don't want to take my chances on what she will post on my wall. She posted a comment on her son's girlfriend's page "Hi sexy..." which I just thought was weird.

I have ignored her friend request so far. I don't do anything with it... don't confirm and don't ignore. She just sent me a Facebook message yesterday that simply said "ADD ME". In all capital letters, nothing else.

So needless to say I don't want to add her. Is there any graceful way out of this?

Re: How can I politely not accept a family member's Facebook friend request?

Accept her and block her from seeing your wall.

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I never accepted my dad. I love him like crazy but I'm not really that concerned.

He has never brought it up.

How about seeing if you don't accept it what happens?

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I added a few people from DHs family and blocked them only to find out they were still able to see my pics and what I was posting. Now I feel wierd deleting them. NAy new requests that I have from his family I just don't answer - don't accept and don't click ignore. I feel like they are only adding me to snoop around my pictures and report back what I am doing
One person I never even met! And I have been with my DH for 14 years

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I would accept her request & block her from seeing my wall & photo albums, friend lists, etc, remove her from my newsfeed.

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Sorry to hijack, but how do you block an individual person from seeing your wall, etc...? I thought if you did this, it blocked everyone from seeing it?

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accept her but make it limited profile

block her from your pictures, wall, status updates feed

also as soon as she posts and update - X out her update to remive all updates from your filter.

she should be pretty much under control after that

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Message edited 9/1/2011 6:57:43 PM.

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I am friends with DH's sister on FB (refuse to call her SIL which gives you a hint of how I feel about her)...I have her blocked from being able to see almost all my information.

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I blocked the members I didnt want to accept.

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Posted by JennZ

I blocked the members I didnt want to accept.

Re: How can I politely not accept a family member's Facebook friend request?

Just leave it in the pending that's what I do

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sorry to crash - if i block an individual from my wall, can they see when someone else posts on my wall, replies to a status/photo if they are a mutual friend?

thank you!

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i wouldn't be shy about it. i would just deny her and block her from friending you again. if you really don't want to be friends with her just do that. maybe she'll get the hint and back off. sorry if it sounds harsh but that's just me. good luck hon!!

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Adding someone and blocking them from EVERYTHING seems like playing games... why even add them, then? I'd rather not be added then know that I am blocked from everything.

Since she sent you a rude message, I'd send this one back: NO

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I just reread that she send you a message. I'd just block her & be done with it. If she asks why, tell her you have no interest in adding her as a FB friend but she can feel free to continue to email you if she needs something.

Message edited 7/6/2011 12:19:07 PM.

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I didn't mean blocking some things - I have some things hidden from people. If just seemed like some people were saying block everything - all pics, all status updates, etc, not just certain albums or statuses. If you block it all... why even friend them?

I would just block the aunt, if she's gonna start sending you annoying messages.