how did u know u were ready to TTC?

Message edited 11/15/2008 11:27:03 AM.

Re: Looking for advice: How did you know you were ready to TTC?

My greatest wish in life is to be a mother!

I was with DH for a long time before we got married, and wanted to try immediately to get pregnant. We waited a few months after the wedding and then decided to take the "whatever happens, happens" approach.

Now, 10 months later - I'm glad that we didn't wait any longer. You never know how long it will take to conceive! By the time we actually have our first baby, we will likely be married close to 2 years. It's not the way we hoped/planned, but that's just how it is all working out right now.

I don't know that anyone is every FULLY ready, emotionally or financially, snice there are so many things can that you cannot predict before you have a child.

I just knew that this was right for us.

Best of luck with your decision!

Re: Looking for advice: How did you know you were ready to TTC?

Welcome

Have you spoken to your dh about how he feels yet?

I started to feel like I was ready when my DH brought it up to me that HE was ready! We were going to wait until our 1st anniversary, but we're both 30+ & after many years of "womens issues," we thought that it might take a long time to happen...so we wanted to get a jump start on trying. Since we have a house & we're financially stable, we didn't see any point in waiting...we both felt that the time is right...

I would speak to your dh and see where he stands...if you're both on the same page, it may be time to either start trying or to start seriously preparing to try (i.e. a job change to something more local, etc.). Either way, I think it's important to see where he stands - it may be all you need to know in order to make the decision. Best of luck to you!!!

Re: Looking for advice: How did you know you were ready to TTC?

Message edited 11/15/2008 11:26:42 AM.

Re: Looking for advice: How did you know you were ready to TTC?

Posted by jam11308

Welcome

Have you spoken to your dh about how he feels yet?

I started to feel like I was ready when my DH brought it up to me that HE was ready! We were going to wait until our 1st anniversary, but we're both 30+ & after many years of "womens issues," we thought that it might take a long time to happen...so we wanted to get a jump start on trying. Since we have a house & we're financially stable, we didn't see any point in waiting...we both felt that the time is right...

I would speak to your dh and see where he stands...if you're both on the same page, it may be time to either start trying or to start seriously preparing to try (i.e. a job change to something more local, etc.). Either way, I think it's important to see where he stands - it may be all you need to know in order to make the decision. Best of luck to you!!!

Re: Looking for advice: How did you know you were ready to TTC?

I'm not financially ready but my number one priority is to have a baby! I want this more then anything and always felt this way. Only, now that I'm married I could make it happen!

Re: Looking for advice: How did you know you were ready to TTC?

My age was the biggest factor in knowing I was ready. My biological clock went into overdrive at 32 and that's when we started. We have been TTC for 13 months and I wish I had started sooner.

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The only reason we are going to start TTC is my biological clock. I just turned 30. If it wasn't for my age, I would love to wait another year, five years, decade even. I feel like I'm way too young to be a mommy even though I'm not that young. I want to be done with all my childbearing by age 35 (advanced maternal age). We want 2 of 3 kids so we have to start now to make that happen.

We own a house and have a little savings. I don't feel completely financially ready but I think we will be fine. If DH had it his way, we would be ready when we had our unconceived children's college funds saved.

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Posted by Newly1

Hi ladies, this is my first post on here...I have been lurking for a few days (hope you dont mind), But i am really just looking for some support/advice/thoughts.

Lately (past few weeks) I have this sudden urge to start TTC (i have actually had it for longer but now that I am married it has come on in full force)....the problem is, every which way I look at it...deep down I know I am not ready (although DH and I have been together for quite a while, I am a recent 08 bride, we make decent money but are not financially ready to purchase a home, and although my job is stable, it's quite a commute and I dont see myself realitically staying there once I have a baby).

This is tearing me up inside because when I lay out all the facts, I feel like it will take me minimum another 2 years to get all these things situated! I really dont want to wait that long

My question is....when did you know you were ready?? And....did you own a home when you decided you were ready? How did that and your job play into your decision. What other factors did you take into consideration?

Any advice for me???

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I'm TTC for #2, so I guess my "readiness" is different.

But when I got PG with DD it was a surprise, so I never had to think about if I was ready or not.

We rent a house now and hopefully will buy a house before we TTC #3 in a few years.

I think you should sit down with DH and discuss all your options. Do you know/think DH will be on board too? Has he mentioned anything to you about it?

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the minute i got married.....

for me, yes, a baby does cost money, but that can't be the reason to wait, IMO. my parents rasied 4 kids in a two-bedroom apartment working their asses off.... did we have everything ewe wanted? no... was life always easy, no... but we had a wonderful childhood full of good memories and caring, loving parents.....

BUT.... i truly believe if you wait for the fancy car, or the dream house, etc. etc. it may be too late. i am sounding like my mother, but i think certain things, like LIFE, a BABY... you just can't plan to the nth degree. there will always be bills to pay, and life will throw things your way that you will never expect anyway, so why wait? i firmyl believe when you're blessed with a child, it all comes together. God will provide....

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Dh and I are in some debt and our lives aren't all that stable right now.....we're moving to NC this summer, gonna switch jobs, and a whole lot more!! BUT we decided to start trying because we just went through a huge health scare with my mother (her pancreas in covered in pre-cancerous tumors), while they're benign right now, they can change anyday! She has to go to Sloan every 3 months for testing and if it turns it's not going to be good being that the tumors are literally all over her pancreas!!!!!!! LIFE IS SHORT! No one can predict the future or that tomorrow will come! With that we decided to start trying! And besides- when is anyone truly ready?!

Re: Looking for advice: How did you know you were ready to TTC?

i am in the same boat as you. not really ready to ttc til we have a house and are a bit more financially ready. although ive had baby fever since our wedding in september. DH not so much. i feel that when he really says he is ready that will be my sign that its time. right now its just a bad case of baby fever! its so hard but hang in there - our time will come when the time is right !!

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See for me, I always said I wanted to have my first child before I turned 30. I got married at 28, turned 29 a few months later. I will be 30 this December ( lol) and 100% will not have my first child before then and most probably won't before my 31st bday either.

For us, we are just not ready. I definitely want children and think they are such a blessing, but I know just how much your life changes after you have a child and we are just not ready for that yet - we're still getting used to being married and living together (moved in together after the wedding). Also, we would like to work down our debt as much as possible first. So, as much as I love hearing stories of pregnancies and new babies, we are going to wait a bit. We will not wait until we own a house because we have no plans for that until we are debt free so that won't be anytime soon.

I feel like you will just kinda know when it's time. And also, sometimes things happen unexpectedly but for a reason, so you just never know.

My brother and SIL are having their second baby this September so I'll have him to dote over until we're ready for our own.