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2BEANS
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How do you handle a fustrated toddler..
who has started hitting? Shes not hitting hard but I can see the fustration in her face and just starts to hit. Shell hit anything just b/c shes mad. I tried the whole "dont hit thing".. and doesnt seem to help.
Just before she got mad b/c I was bfing her little sister and she wanted to hold her. so she went around hitting her toys.
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Re: How do you handle a fustrated toddler..
I am readint The Happiest Toddle on theb block, it addresses all that fun stuff
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| Posted 3/3/09 9:47 AM |
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Re: How do you handle a fustrated toddler..
Ryan used to do this when he was mad at me or frustrated (which would happened A LOT since he has a speech delay), and it would drive me crazy.
I would do everything, say no sternly, take him away from the situation, warn him, but the only thing that works for him is time out. He HATES time out, which he knows as going in the corner. I would consistently put him there everytime the first time he started to hit, and it has stopped finally. I wouldn't even warn him like I would for other things. The first hit, RIGHT to the corner. Hitting is not tolerated and I didn't wanted it escalating in him hitting at school. Once in a while he will still do it at home, but maybe once every 2 weeks or so.
ETA: I would do this for him hitting us or his sister, not if he was hitting a toy, or banging a toy around.
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| Posted 3/3/09 9:52 AM |
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cantbelieveit
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Re: How do you handle a fustrated toddler..
I put her in time out and just pray that this stage ends quickly!
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| Posted 3/3/09 9:53 AM |
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2BEANS
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Re: How do you handle a fustrated toddler..
Posted by dottiemchugh
Ryan used to do this when he was mad at me or frustrated (which would happened A LOT since he has a speech delay), and it would drive me crazy.
I would do everything, say no sternly, take him away from the situation, warn him, but the only thing that works for him is time out. He HATES time out, which he knows as going in the corner. I would consistently put him there everytime the first time he started to hit, and it has stopped finally. I wouldn't even warn him like I would for other things. The first hit, RIGHT to the corner. Hitting is not tolerated and I didn't wanted it escalating in him hitting at school. Once in a while he will still do it at home, but maybe once every 2 weeks or so.
Thanks! I told dh yesterday I think it was time we put her in playyard with no toys as time out. Ill try doing this.. I just was afraid b/c now new baby is here and we start this I dont want her to get resentful against her sister.. KWIM?
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Re: How do you handle a fustrated toddler..
Posted by dottiemchugh
Ryan used to do this when he was mad at me or frustrated (which would happened A LOT since he has a speech delay), and it would drive me crazy.
I would do everything, say no sternly, take him away from the situation, warn him, but the only thing that works for him is time out. He HATES time out, which he knows as going in the corner. I would consistently put him there everytime the first time he started to hit, and it has stopped finally. I wouldn't even warn him like I would for other things. The first hit, RIGHT to the corner. Hitting is not tolerated and I didn't wanted it escalating in him hitting at school. Once in a while he will still do it at home, but maybe once every 2 weeks or so.
yup, time out!!!
dd will hit me when she is frustrated, I give her one warning and then it is time out
I put her in TO yesterday for this reason. After the 2 minutes was up, I went down to her level, asked her if she knew why she was in TO. She said "yes" (not sure if she really knew) so I said, no hitting, I know you are frustrated but you have to use your words not your hands
she said sorry  , gave me a big hug and all was forgiven
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Bxgell2
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Re: How do you handle a fustrated toddler..
Time out.
But, it's not just timeout - what is most effective is the conversation afterwards. After I put Alex in timeout, I come to get her, sit on the floor with her, look her in the eye and explain clearly why she was in timeout. Then I explain the house rule, i.e. "we don't hit in this family", and then I also try to talk to her a little about emotions, saying something like, "It is ok to be angry or frustrated, but it's not ok to hit. Use your words next time to tell Mommy you are angry"
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| Posted 3/3/09 9:55 AM |
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pinkandblue
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Re: How do you handle a fustrated toddler..
Posted by dottiemchugh
ETA: I would do this for him hitting us or his sister, not if he was hitting a toy, or banging a toy around.
me to, I use time out for hitting people or the dog, not toys or the couch or her leg or whatever else she feels like hitting
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| Posted 3/3/09 9:55 AM |
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Re: How do you handle a fustrated toddler..
Posted by Bxgell2
Time out.
But, it's not just timeout - what is most effective is the conversation afterwards. After I put Alex in timeout, I come to get her, sit on the floor with her, look her in the eye and explain clearly why she was in timeout. Then I explain the house rule, i.e. "we don't hit in this family", and then I also try to talk to her a little about emotions, saying something like, "It is ok to be angry or frustrated, but it's not ok to hit. Use your words next time to tell Mommy you are angry"
Yes, explaining afterwards is the key too. I forgot to add that. Even if you think they don't get it, they do. Just keep doing this everytime and you will see it stop.
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dawnygirl25
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Re: How do you handle a fustrated toddler..
Posted by cantbelieveit
I put her in time out and just pray that this stage ends quickly!
Aly gets put in time out too. when she gets out, she says Im sorry for hitting and is usually fine. (til thenext day LOL)
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| Posted 3/3/09 9:56 AM |
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2BEANS
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Re: How do you handle a fustrated toddler..
Posted by Mikismom
yup, time out!!!
dd will hit me when she is frustrated, I give her one warning and then it is time out
I put her in TO yesterday for this reason. After the 2 minutes was up, I went down to her level, asked her if she knew why she was in TO. She said "yes" (not sure if she really knew) so I said, no hitting, I know you are frustrated but you have to use your words not your hands
she said sorry , gave me a big hug and all was forgiven
I think dd knows when I tell her no hitting.. b/c she gives me that eye squint look.. like "im mad"..  I just dont want her to feel like shes bad.. I just want her to not hit.
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| Posted 3/3/09 9:56 AM |
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Re: How do you handle a fustrated toddler..
If she is hitting toys, I would ignore it. If she is hitting you, I would give an immediate time out with no talking. If you are bfing have DH give time out. I would be proactive though and give her a lot of attention before bfing and let her know what you are doing...
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| Posted 3/3/09 10:21 AM |
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annie
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Re: How do you handle a fustrated toddler..
time out & conversation. (they do this at her school too)
take away toys.
it's not working. DD has turned into the class bully. I pray this stage ends quickly!!
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| Posted 3/3/09 3:40 PM |
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2BEANS
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Re: How do you handle a fustrated toddler..
Posted by lipglossjunky73
If she is hitting toys, I would ignore it. If she is hitting you, I would give an immediate time out with no talking. If you are bfing have DH give time out. I would be proactive though and give her a lot of attention before bfing and let her know what you are doing...
Shes not mad at the attention im giving baby, shes mad that Im not letting her hold baby. Its really cute, that shes soo into her sister.. wants to constantly hug, kiss and hold her.. and dont want her to stop wanting to be with her. Im afraid that if I do put her in timeout for the hitting.. shell get the wrong idea.
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