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How to tell a bride the bridal party dress is too expensive?
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elizabeth78
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Re: How to tell a bride the bridal party dress is too expensive?
Posted by MorningCuppaCoffee
Re: the you know what you are getting into is expensive comments.
While that is true, I personally think that's only true to an extent.
When you sign up to be in a wedding, it does NOT mean you sign up to an unlimited budget.
I also haven't seen such a selfish mentality until I moved to Long Island.
What is so special about "Long Island" that we need to just bow down and accept that this is "how it is"?
I've seen people in my profession make similar comments on other threads about sucking it up or giving some ridiculous amount towards a gift and it's left me  : .
I don't make a lot of money and I'd be pissed if I was put into this situation.
I guess people have different priorities when it come to finances, as well as friendships.
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tara73
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Re: How to tell a bride the bridal party dress is too expensive?
Posted by Chai77
I feel like some brides just want their "girls" dressed up in their BM uniforms to act like like props or a backdrop for their wedding pics.
YES!!
This is what I was trying to get to with my post, but couldn't find the words. This is exactly how my husband and I felt about our girls in that particular wedding. Like they were props, and it was even worse when the bride started hinting maybe our youngest's food allergies were "too much to deal with" and maybe we should consider not bringing her to the reception after the church and pics........
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| Posted 6/23/14 9:31 AM |
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dpli
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Re: How to tell a bride the bridal party dress is too expensive?
Here's the thing about weddings.....it may be the most important day in the life of the bride, but it isn't for everyone else (except maybe the parents.) It might be a lot of fun, a great party, a happy occassion, but at the end of the day, it's just another celebration for a friend or family member. People need to get their heads out of the asses and realize that the world doesn't revolve around their wedding.
And my wedding was not the most important day of my life, I would say the birth of my son was a more important day than that. Or the day my husband went into remission, that was a good day too. In the span of one's life, your wedding day is a very important one, but as you experience more of life and have some perspective looking back, it may not even be your most important day. It's unrealistic (maybe even delusional) to think everyone else should feel that way about your wedding.
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| Posted 6/23/14 10:49 AM |
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saraH
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Re: How to tell a bride the bridal party dress is too expensive?
Posted by tara73
Posted by Chai77
I feel like some brides just want their "girls" dressed up in their BM uniforms to act like like props or a backdrop for their wedding pics.
YES!!
This is what I was trying to get to with my post, but couldn't find the words. This is exactly how my husband and I felt about our girls in that particular wedding. Like they were props, and it was even worse when the bride started hinting maybe our youngest's food allergies were "too much to deal with" and maybe we should consider not bringing her to the reception after the church and pics........
What?!?! Really. With so many people with allergies, I can't imagine one child was "too much to deal with". I'd just pull my kid out. 
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| Posted 6/23/14 10:58 AM |
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AllyMally
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How to tell a bride the bridal party dress is too expensive?
Tell the truth. I have posted about the mess that is my sister's wedding and in the end I had to be honest. WIth all the fees and parties I couldn't afford the $400 dress which didn't include alterations and so on. Come to find out a lot of us couldn't and her wedding is q mnth before Christmas so you do have to factor that in. We now have awesome dresses we got to pick and mine was $186 base. Roughly $250 after alterations. Just talk to her. It's hard to talk about money, but ike a pp said just because you agreed to be in a wedding doesn't mean you agreed to spend your life savings. It's HER day not yours. It's not up to you to spend a small fortune just on the dress.
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| Posted 6/23/14 11:44 AM |
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ISpoilHim
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Re: How to tell a bride the bridal party dress is too expensive?
Posted by dpli
Here's the thing about weddings.....it may be the most important day in the life of the bride, but it isn't for everyone else (except maybe the parents.) It might be a lot of fun, a great party, a happy occassion, but at the end of the day, it's just another celebration for a friend or family member. People need to get their heads out of the asses and realize that the world doesn't revolve around their wedding.
And my wedding was not the most important day of my life, I would say the birth of my son was a more important day than that. Or the day my husband went into remission, that was a good day too. In the span of one's life, your wedding day is a very important one, but as you experience more of life and have some perspective looking back, it may not even be your most important day. It's unrealistic (maybe even delusional) to think everyone else should feel that way about your wedding.
I agree with this completely. My brother got engaged in November and has not spoken to me since I wasn't excited enough when they set a wedding date. Really?!?!?
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