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Linda1003
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Re: How would you react/feel if...
Posted by maybeamommy
Posted by Smileyd17
Im sort of confused?
EBF, babies can be introduced to those things?
Sorry, I didnt with G and plan to with babies on way.
To somewhat answer it, I am lenient in a lot of ways and if it was mom/mil, I wouldnt care.
I didn't mean that EBF babies can't have those... I just was mentioning that he was EBF (could have been EFF) just to say that he is NOT having any table foods yet.
I didn't make a big deal about it, but inside I was upset!
I want to be the one to give him those first experiences and first tastes... and I just didn't feel that it was the appropriate time when we just spoke to the ped about waiting until 6 months... also I wasn't there and I would have wanted to be there for his "first" - kwim?
Hayley you need to start making a big deal out of these things!! It's not fair to you!!! What if he had an allergic reaction to one of these things!! Not ok!!! 
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Re: How would you react/feel if...
Posted by maybeamommy
I didn't mean that EBF babies can't have those... I just was mentioning that he was EBF (could have been EFF) just to say that he is NOT having any table foods yet.
I didn't make a big deal about it, but inside I was upset!
I want to be the one to give him those first experiences and first tastes... and I just didn't feel that it was the appropriate time when we just spoke to the ped about waiting until 6 months... also I wasn't there and I would have wanted to be there for his "first" - kwim?
Absolutely.
I was just asking, being that I didnt BF so I dont know.
Plus, I would like to learn/know about it, being that I will try to with babies on way.
You asked and I answered how I would react and that is me.
I understand, you are the mom and its what you say/goes.That it, ITA on that.
Dont matter what others think/do..its what you feel.
Message edited 4/26/2010 12:25:33 PM.
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Re: How would you react/feel if...
EBF or not, my kid was formula fed and I am pretty laid back - but IMO, it's up to YOU or your DH to intorduce things to YOUR child - and NO ONE else.
It's not their right, it's not cute, and aside from the allergy or whatever YOUR reasons may be, to ME the most important thing is the fact that they're being spiteful and taking the control away from you as the parent to make the choice.
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Re: How would you react/feel if...
lime or lemon, I would not care
I let kj suck on lemons, he loves them
strawberries, I would not give until they are older
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Re: How would you react/feel if...
Posted by MarisaK
EBF or not, my kid was formula fed and I am pretty laid back - but IMO, it's up to YOU or your DH to intorduce things to YOUR child - and NO ONE else.
It's not their right, it's not cute, and aside from the allergy or whatever YOUR reasons may be, to ME the most important thing is the fact that they're being spiteful and taking the control away from you as the parent to make the choice.
Exactly how I feel! How dare someone else take it upon themselves to do this. I think I'd be even more pizzed they took a video of it!
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Re: How would you react/feel if...
Posted by DPerotti
My mom gave DS a lick of chocolate the other day  I was like MOM (which is WAY worse then what you mentioned)!!! But honestly, *I* don't mind. I gave DS tastes of my banana yesterday.
If it bother you though, that is your choice, your child.
ETA: I would p*ssed if it wasn't the following people giving it to him DH,Mom,Dad MIL, Sister, SIL. (only b/c I feel these following people are responsible enough that if an allergic reaction would take place, would know how to handle)
Dont forget I gave him icing too, LOL
A taste of something, like a lick, no I wouldnt be possed....not a full piece or drink of anything though.
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Re: How would you react/feel if...
Posted by CaMacho
Depends on who did it. If it was DH, my mom or MIL I wouldn't care.
same
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Re: How would you react/feel if...
First I thought, depends on who did it.
Then I read that you were not pleased the first time, and it continued the second day. Totally not cool with me.
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Re: How would you react/feel if...
Posted by Linda1003
Hayley you need to start making a big deal out of these things!! It's not fair to you!!! What if he had an allergic reaction to one of these things!! Not ok!!!
I agree.
at the end of the day, it matters not if it was a lick of this or that, it's the TOTAL and COMPLETE lack of respect that you are given as his MOTHER.
you need to tear that up Hayley. loud and proud. or have dh do it if it's who I think it is.
but NO. you are well within your rights to express your displeasure.
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Re: How would you react/feel if...
I understand that some people would be livid, and I respect that. I think saying that he should bever be left alone with that person ever again is a little extreme, IMO.
The baby wasn't fed nails, however, that person needs to CLEARLY understand how you feel, and if they continue to go against your parenting ideas, I would be unhappy. If you 100% TRUST this person with Loey, (which you must, because I doubt you would leave for work if you didn't.. ), then I would make it very known (again), and be very ASSERTIVE with them.
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Re: How would you react/feel if...
Posted by kerrycec03
I know many on here would be livid.
Me personally, wouldn't care. In fact, my DS was eating baby food at 4 mos and we did just what you are describing.
I'm pretty laid back with he whole food thing though.
Same as me..
I actually started DS on food at 4 months (DD I held out longer- but she was my first and you tend to be more rigid w/ your first).
Honestly- I don't think it is a huge deal- in other cultures kids eat regular food long before ours do.
But I could see how it would peeve you.
Just keep in mind that the older generation was more "lax" with us in terms of when we ate, what, how, etc.... so they just dont' "get it"
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Re: How would you react/feel if...
Posted by MAC222
I understand that some people would be livid, and I respect that. I think saying that he should bever be left alone with that person ever again is a little extreme, IMO.
not at all. leaving my child with someone who FLAGRANTLY disregards my desires/feelings is NOT an option, whether it's regarding food, tv, which way to loop the knots in his sneakers....
RESPECT is key to trust and if you can't respect my wishes, you can't stay with my kid.
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Re: How would you react/feel if...
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Posted by MAC222
I understand that some people would be livid, and I respect that. I think saying that he should bever be left alone with that person ever again is a little extreme, IMO.
not at all. leaving my child with someone who FLAGRANTLY disregards my desires/feelings is NOT an option, whether it's regarding food, tv, which way to loop the knots in his sneakers....
RESPECT is key to trust and if you can't respect my wishes, you can't stay with my kid.
EXACTLY!! IT'S ABOUT THE DISRESPECT NOT ABOUT THE FOOD!!!!
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Re: How would you react/feel if...
Posted by monkeybride
I'd probably be annoyed that someone did that without asking. I think people, especially the older generation do things out of ignorance for all the new "rules" not to purposefully do the wrong thing.
I agree. Someone at a party gave my first DD at 6 mos. old a few licks of icing while she was holding her. While I didn't say anything, I was pretty annoyed that someone would take it upon themselves to do it--but as monkeybride said, she was from our parents' generation. She could have at least asked. But I was annoyed and  more than anything--far from livid.
Now, ask me in a year when #3 is 6 mos. old--I probably couldn't care any less!
However, it really doesn't matter what we all would think or how we would react--we are not your DS's mother...you are! If you think you should make your feelings known, then definitely do!
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Re: How would you react/feel if...
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Posted by MAC222
I understand that some people would be livid, and I respect that. I think saying that he should bever be left alone with that person ever again is a little extreme, IMO.
not at all. leaving my child with someone who FLAGRANTLY disregards my desires/feelings is NOT an option, whether it's regarding food, tv, which way to loop the knots in his sneakers....
RESPECT is key to trust and if you can't respect my wishes, you can't stay with my kid.
EXACTLY!! IT'S ABOUT THE DISRESPECT NOT ABOUT THE FOOD!!!!
I agree...
However... Strawberries are high on the food allergy list. I wouldn't go apeshyt over most foods, but foods that are considered high allergy risks... you bet your life I'd be pizzed.
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Re: How would you react/feel if...
ehhh, it wouldn't bother me too much. Nor would it bother my DH who is sitting here next to me.
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Posted by CaMacho
Depends on who did it. If it was DH, my mom or MIL I wouldn't care.
ditto.
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Re: How would you react/feel if...
With DS #1 I think I would have been more upset. This time around I don't think it would bother me, as long as it wasn't nuts (for obvious reasons) or strawberries (because I used to be allergic.) Other then that I may roll my eyes, but I don't think I would be too bothered.
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Re: How would you react/feel if...
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Posted by MAC222
I understand that some people would be livid, and I respect that. I think saying that he should bever be left alone with that person ever again is a little extreme, IMO.
not at all. leaving my child with someone who FLAGRANTLY disregards my desires/feelings is NOT an option, whether it's regarding food, tv, which way to loop the knots in his sneakers....
RESPECT is key to trust and if you can't respect my wishes, you can't stay with my kid.
EXACTLY!! IT'S ABOUT THE DISRESPECT NOT ABOUT THE FOOD!!!!
I totally get the disrespect..and I agree I would be unhappy at this person's decision to go against mine...and I know it can be hard to demand respect, but I'm not sure I would be so quick to give up on this person, and ban that they never be left alone with them.
I think its rude, and wrong, and I would be most mad, like Hailey said, that she wasn't there for the 1st time....
What I don't understand about this, is what difference, it would make if this is about respect, WHO did it? If mom, or MIL did it, isn't it still disrespect?
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Re: How would you react/feel if...
i guess this equates to putting your child in the pool when mommy said no
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I would have been absolutely upset---I probably wouldn't have gone off on the person, but they definitely would have heard it from me--god forbid he would have had a reaction, how in the heck would you even know what he had a reaction too since all these things were given. Just a dumb move on their part if you ask me.
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Re: How would you react/feel if...
Posted by MAC222
What I don't understand about this, is what difference, it would make if this is about respect, WHO did it? If mom, or MIL did it, isn't it still disrespect?
yes it is, and with me, I dont make a distinction. anyone doing it is disrespectful, even my dh doing it if we've discussed and agreed upon something else.
but I am not laid back about these things. I am a maniac. I know what I want for my son and that is how it will be. then end. fa lala lala la la la la
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Re: How would you react/feel if...
I think since you were upset about it the first day and then they went ahead the second day and continued doing it you need to lose your ish on this person.
They don't understand it's a big deal. To YOU. The MOTHER. THE ONE WHOSE JOB IT IS TO MAKE THESE DECISIONS!!!
It doesn't matter if I would get upset over it, and FTR I would - food before 4 months was a big no no for me, and I wanted to wait until 6 months but it didn't happen for us. But it doesn't matter if I was the type who let my child sample everything on my plate from cereal to sushi... YOU'RE not happy with it and that's all that matters. When it comes to food, in this day and age with all the allergens, the diseases (diabetes is my personal issue to try to avoid) and the obesity issues, who could honestly blame you?
At the end of the day we have to do what we think is best. We can't take on every battle and every issue, but we have every right and we absolutely SHOULD stick to the ones we've decided are most important to us.
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Re: How would you react/feel if...
I'd be upset - I'd like to be there when DS tries food for the first time.
I'd be livid though at the fact that the person was asked specifically not to do it and did it again.
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Imo I would be very upset and annoyed even if it was my dh, mil or mother. When it comes to his food/Eating I want to give him all his first tastes for many reasons. Plus, at 4 months and ebf I would not want santino to taste anything.
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