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Beth
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Re: I am so upset- my night keeps getting worse
well, now the weather forecast for tomorrow went from nice to not so nice
this should be fun
I am thinking about coming home after her bachlorette party instead of staying out there
I can act nice for a few hours- but not for 24
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pinkandblue
Our family is complete, maybe
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Re: I am so upset- my night keeps getting worse
Posted by Beth1210
Posted by Sassyz75
they'll get over it eventually.
I might not
after years of abuse
I think I am offically DONE
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| Posted 8/15/08 8:40 AM |
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vmac
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Re: I am so upset- my night keeps getting worse
I'm sorry for the way your family is reacting, it is totally uncalled for and downright mean.
But, maybe your sister and her DH are offended that Jake isn't going to play golf. I know if it was my DH and my sisters FH (when the time comes for her) I would want my husband to go whether or not it's his favorite thing to do.
My DH just picked up golf, but before he played he would just go for events like bachelor parties and drive the cart and have a few beers with the guys.
You sisters FH will be family just like your DH is family. If it was me and my DH, he'd go with the boys that day.
HTH! And good luck this weekend. I really feel for you.
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| Posted 8/15/08 8:42 AM |
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pinkandblue
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Re: I am so upset- my night keeps getting worse
Posted by dm24angel
Posted by Beth1210
Posted by dm24angel
well I think its weird and I wouldnt want a guy there if I was a BM...And it wasnt your place to invite him along..
BUT....That reaction is weird and uncalled for? Why would they say those things to you? Thats awful over the top no?
he's not a guy- he is my husband- her brother inlaw
and half the bridal party is family
I didn't just invite him- I asked her if it was ok- she said no, I said no big deal he will find something else to do
and then she called my brother b1tching
it's normal for those 2
my brother likes to play the big shot hero
Hes not a guy? Husband or not, hes a guy ....
I dont think the fact he's family matters.
Its a girls thing and she probably felt like it was taking away from it being all about her...At least if I put myself in her shoes, thats how I would see it.
But the reactions were regardless uncalled for and seemingly blown out of proportion? Were other things said to make it worse?
she needs to grow up...so WHAT if a guy is there, I mean give me an ***** break....I would tell both of them to shove it, but that is just me 
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| Posted 8/15/08 8:43 AM |
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Beth
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Re: I am so upset- my night keeps getting worse
Posted by vmac
I'm sorry for the way your family is reacting, it is totally uncalled for and downright mean.
But, maybe your sister and her DH are offended that Jake isn't going to play golf. I know if it was my DH and my sisters FH (when the time comes for her) I would want my husband to go whether or not it's his favorite thing to do.
My DH just picked up golf, but before he played he would just go for events like bachelor parties and drive the cart and have a few beers with the guys.
You sisters FH will be family just like your DH is family. If it was me and my DH, he'd go with the boys that day.
HTH! And good luck this weekend. I really feel for you.
her FH wouldn't care- trust me
it's not it isn't Jake's favorite thing to do, he has no idea how to play
and he can't twist his knee- he just had an operation 2 weeks ago- so it's not like he can try it either
he had 2 major operations this year- neck and knee
so it goes beyond he doesn't play golf
she told me- that she figured he would just sleep late- so now I will too
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| Posted 8/15/08 8:46 AM |
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J9-13
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Re: I am so upset- my night keeps getting worse
Posted by Beth1210
it's not a big deal that she doesn't want him there - I see why she didn't- it personally wouldn't bother me or my friends one bit
and he felt like since he didn't play golf- he should do something that day- but he doesn't want to come either
I really don't care about that- my brother has no right to say anything to me about anything
and now that I thought about it- she didn't even come with me to get my nails done the day before the my wedding- she went to her own place
it's a pedicure- it's really not worth all of this- I am just going to my own place- like she did
all I did was ask- she said no- I said ok, and then some how I became the wicked witch of the northeast
but this is how it always is- they are never wrong, I am always the bad guy
there are many more issues here then just this
I think it was thoughtful of you to ask first...she said "no" you said "ok" end of story. Sounds like your sis and bro feed off of each others drama. Personally, I wouldn't care if my BIL came for a pedicure. I would think its pretty cool considering my DH would never! I mean...its not like you were all going for a group bikini wax or anything!!! 
I know you are trying to be the bigger person and just act nice. Stick with it! Don't let them break you down!!!
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| Posted 8/15/08 8:46 AM |
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Tine73
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Re: I am so upset- my night keeps getting worse
Posted by 5ofClubs
Ok odd man out here. I think the comments made were wrong and uncalled for but I can see how your sister would want to only have all girls there.
And honestly DH wouldn't even want to go with me. We would take 2 cars or he would just go golfing and ride around in the cart
Sorry they were so nasty to you
ITA!
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| Posted 8/15/08 9:09 AM |
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JennasMom
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Re: I am so upset- my night keeps getting worse
I think you should go get your pedi at your place, and tell your brother to $%^& off.
It seems that those who do nothing have so much to say.
You seem like an awesome sister!!
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| Posted 8/15/08 9:27 AM |
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MrsB-07
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Re: I am so upset- my night keeps getting worse
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mamabear
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Re: I am so upset- my night keeps getting worse
I'm so sorry! That's awful of both of them. I really really don't understand the separation of the sexes thing. Especially because you just asked--and for a very good reason. I'm really mad for you.
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| Posted 8/15/08 10:15 AM |
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Waste06
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Re: I am so upset- my night keeps getting worse
I think your sister totally over reacted. She had her reasons for saying no, which is fine. But then to turn to your brother and totally trash you - not cool.
As for your brother, he sounds like a real winner. You've mentioned him before. He's not worth stressing over. He's wrong, once again. (Sorry, he's your brother and I shouldn't judge, but from what you said about him before, he doesn't exactly come across as Mr. Personality.)
I say go to your own salon for a pedicure and bring Jake along if he's up for it. You don't need to do EVERYTHING with your sister just because it's her wedding. You wouldn't want your mere existence to stress her out! 
Don't make the bingo cards. With 45 women at an out-door shower, probably only half will be watching her open her gifts. You'll be too busy handing her the gifts, throwing away the wrapping paper, writing down who-gave-what, making the hat with all the bows, and staying out of the way so everyone can take fabulous photos of her to even notice who's playing bingo anyway!!!
It will all be over soon.
Message edited 8/15/2008 11:44:28 AM.
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| Posted 8/15/08 11:42 AM |
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MrsPornStar
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Re: I am so upset- my night keeps getting worse
Beth-
I want to send you some hugs. I can COMPLETELY understand what it's like to have siblings who only create drama. Your sister is very lucky to have you. I am sure the shower will be wonderful and her guests will appreciate your hard work, even though she doesn't.
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| Posted 8/15/08 11:58 AM |
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Donna
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Re: I am so upset- my night keeps getting worse
Sorry you're dealing with this but have they always been like this? If so, then maybe after the weddiing it is time to separate from them for a bit.
I believe your brother has no right getting involved but IF this is new behavior/attitude from your sister I would chalk it up to her missing your mom, being nervous about the wedding, maybe just wanting to be with you only the day before her wedding.
I remember when I was getting married that there were things I thought was a huge deal - now thinking back they really weren't.
Enjoy the shower and be a great host, don't let them ruin your time
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| Posted 8/15/08 12:22 PM |
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eroxgirl
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Re: I am so upset- my night keeps getting worse
Maybe because it's been so many years since I got married, but your brother and sister are being RIDICULOUS!!
Okay, she doesn't want him there. But to flip out because you asked?? Obviously I don't know your sister at all, but I think when she looks back she's going to feel pretty silly. At least she should. It's so completely insane that your brother would have screamed at you like that. It's not like you asked if you could wear a white gown to the wedding!
I think it's very thoughtful of Jake to feel he should still participate in a wedding event since the golf thing isn't going to work for him. My DH would stay home and play xbox.
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| Posted 8/15/08 2:02 PM |
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Beth
The Key to your new home....
Member since 2/06 24849 total posts
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Beth
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Re: I am so upset- my night keeps getting worse
thanks everyone! I appericate all the nice comments
here's a little update
my Dad told my brother he is out of line
and now my brother just texted me
"Are we friends again?"
I am not responding
b/c we are not friends again- nor will we be for a while
we are talking about a pedicure here- I didn't insist Jake walk her down the asile
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| Posted 8/15/08 2:40 PM |
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nancy6485
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Re: I am so upset- my night keeps getting worse
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