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gporka23
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I feel like a bad person...
I have to get this off my chest..
Of course above all I want a healthy and happy baby...
however, I feel like I have my heart set on one sex and that on Friday if this baby cooperates and we find out and its not the sex I thought it was I am going to feel dissapointed. I am also scared it is going to show and I am going to look like an idiot.
This sounds even more ridiculous when it is in writing. Obviously I am going to love my baby no matter what, I am just concerned at my initial reaction
its ok to judge me!
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MrsJakob
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Re: I feel like a bad person...
You are not. I really want a girl. My husband doesn't care. OF COURSE, I want a healthy baby but my heart is set on a girl.
To sum it up, you are normal.
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| Posted 7/14/10 1:45 PM |
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fakie-name
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Re: I feel like a bad person...
Even if you have a momentary reaction of disappointment, it will be soon overtaken by happiness and excitement that you will be having a BABY!
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| Posted 7/14/10 1:47 PM |
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Re: I feel like a bad person...
I think you're really normal and I don't judge you at all! You're being honest! We are team  and even though I know I'll love either a boy or girl, I definitely am hoping for a little 
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LadyBug1209
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Re: I feel like a bad person...
I could have written this myself...
Before my sono, I was CONVINCED that I was having a girl. I mean, absolutely, 100% could have put money on it. When the sono tech found a little penis, I was in complete and utter shock. DH was doing backflips and I was sitting there trying to digest it. I feel like it was written all over my face. I wasn't disappointed, just shocked. Believe me, once you see your litle peanut again... you will be happy with whatever gender it is! Now that I know we are having a boy.. I'm kinda excited to be the only lady of the house! 
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headoverheels
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Re: I feel like a bad person...
It's totally normal.
I got lucky - I had a boy first, then a girl, just how I wanted it.
I was worried that if DD wasn't a girl I'd be upset.
Well, now I look at mommies of two boys, and how cute they are together, and get a little jealous. How ridiculous is that??
We ALL want healthy, happy babies, it's okay to want a certain sex, even prepare for the initial disappointment if that's not what you "get"... but just know in the end you'll love that baby even if it's a monkey  because it will be YOURS!!
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ItsaJoya19
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Re: I feel like a bad person...
I'm right there with you. I woud love to have one of each but I am partial to little s
This has been a substantial part of my decision to stay team .
I think it's totally normal to have a preference after hoping for a healthy and happy baby, of course.
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KGools
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Re: I feel like a bad person...
I feel like there is always disappointment.
I had no preference either way for boy or girl. DH wanted a boy and made it known to all he wanted a boy.
When we found out we were having a boy, we were both thrilled beyond belief but there was that slight disappointment that it wasn't a girl. And I think it would've been the same if we found out we were having a girl.
It's natural and normal. A friend of mine kind of put it this way.... you almost mourn the loss of the child you're not having or the loss of the idea of having one and not the other. make sense??
You're not a bad person nor will you be a bad mom.
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| Posted 7/14/10 1:54 PM |
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Pray4Baby2010
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Re: I feel like a bad person...
I want a girl in the worst way too- so totally there with you- but at my 16 week sono- I thought I saw a penis- (turned out to be the arm  )
before I knew it was the arm- I actually got excited thinking about my son! So I think when you actually find out what you are having- you will be happy either way
and if you're not thrilled right away, you have plenty of time until the birth to get thrilled
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jambalady
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Re: I feel like a bad person...
It's totally normal to have a preference.
It does not mean that you are going to love your baby any less!
I really wanted another DS for my son to be best friends with and play with and I just pictured 2 little boys.
When I found out that I was having a , yes there was a split second where I was disappointed, but I got over that quick and now I am sooo super excited to have a .
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Diana1215
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Re: I feel like a bad person...
Before I had kids I always saw myself having a girl. I think it's because it's all I've known (obviously I'm a girl LOL) and then I had my first son. Let me tell you, there are no words to describe the love you will feel for your child, whether it be a boy or a girl.
Now I have two amazingly gorgeous, healthy, happy boys, and I can't see my life any other way. We will be going for the third. Not to try for a girl - but just to have one more. If I have three boys I will be over the moon, but if I have a girl I will be beyond thrilled also.
What you are feeling is completely normal and does not make you a bad person at all. I also think it's good to find out the sex and 20 weeks if you sort of have a preference. It gives you time to get excited, plan, and see your life with your new little or 
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Re: I feel like a bad person...
Posted by MrsJakob
You are not. I really want a girl. My husband doesn't care. OF COURSE, I want a healthy baby but my heart is set on a girl.
To sum it up, you are normal.
ITA!!! I have the same fear as you Jen! Im afraid if its a boy Im gonna have a disappointed face on and the ultrasound tech is going to notice. What i might have the tech do is write it on a piece of paper and put it in an envelope and then Eric and I will open it in private.
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Re: I feel like a bad person...
I am sure it is normal! I am secretly hoping one of my guys is a !
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bride07
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Re: I feel like a bad person...
It's totally normal, you are def not a bad person.
So many women have an idea of what they want their first child to be wether girl or boy and I am sure there is an initial shock when you find out it's the opposite.
You will love that baby regardless when they arrive.
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| Posted 7/14/10 2:37 PM |
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Re: I feel like a bad person...
yup i agree it's totally normal. . I def want one more than the other and know that I will be dissapointed but then get over it. .
and I really do think you adjust. .
funny story . . my sis wanted a really badly - got her sono and the doc said it was a well she was really dissapointed and first and then got really excited about having a boy. . then the next sono doc says oops it's a so then she went through the reverse dissapointment. . in the end I think you just will love your LO and I'm sure the tech has seen ALL types of rxs and it's really none of their business how you rx!!!
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zoe282
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Re: I feel like a bad person...
Posted by MrsJakob
You are not. I really want a girl. My husband doesn't care. OF COURSE, I want a healthy baby but my heart is set on a girl.
To sum it up, you are normal.
I agree here...this is me exactly! I feel you! I have been open about wanting a girl and have been preparing myself for it to be a boy..lol It will take a moment to process if it is a boy...but I think you are completely normal!
I hope so cause if you aren't then I am not either!
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gporka23
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Re: I feel like a bad person...
Thanks ladies... I feel alot better. I reallllly want a but of course will love a
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missa
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Re: I feel like a bad person...
Posted by Diana1215
Before I had kids I always saw myself having a girl. I think it's because it's all I've known (obviously I'm a girl LOL) and then I had my first son. Let me tell you, there are no words to describe the love you will feel for your child, whether it be a boy or a girl.
Totally agree with Diana!! I thought my son was gonna be a girl I had dreams about a girl when we found out it was a boy I honestly had tears in my eyes.. But got over it pretty fast now I am so happy to have my little mama's boy it is the best!!! good luck!!
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gporka23
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Re: I feel like a bad person...
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Posted by MrsJakob
You are not. I really want a girl. My husband doesn't care. OF COURSE, I want a healthy baby but my heart is set on a girl.
To sum it up, you are normal.
ITA!!! I have the same fear as you Jen! Im afraid if its a boy Im gonna have a disappointed face on and the ultrasound tech is going to notice. What i might have the tech do is write it on a piece of paper and put it in an envelope and then Eric and I will open it in private.
We were thinking about this too... but I also want a shot of the goods so I think if i see it printed out ill know what it is..
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Harlow-J
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Re: I feel like a bad person...
I think it's normal-but you know what?
No matter what it is, when it's in your arms you're going to love it so unconditionally you will be thrilled no matter what.
I think that's sort of the caveat to finding out the sex-there is the possibility of initial dissapointment but it all goes away when baby gets here
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Re: I feel like a bad person...
Posted by gporka23
Posted by EndlessSummer719
Posted by MrsJakob
You are not. I really want a girl. My husband doesn't care. OF COURSE, I want a healthy baby but my heart is set on a girl.
To sum it up, you are normal.
ITA!!! I have the same fear as you Jen! Im afraid if its a boy Im gonna have a disappointed face on and the ultrasound tech is going to notice. What i might have the tech do is write it on a piece of paper and put it in an envelope and then Eric and I will open it in private.
We were thinking about this too... but I also want a shot of the goods so I think if i see it printed out ill know what it is..
Maybe they can put a pic of the goods in the envelope too?
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| Posted 7/14/10 4:00 PM |
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mlny
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Re: I feel like a bad person...
Posted by fakie-name
Even if you have a momentary reaction of disappointment, it will be soon overtaken by happiness and excitement that you will be having a BABY!
It's true! I thought for sure I was having a that when the sonogram tech said i started hysterical crying lol
i was ashamed of myself but you can't help how you feel. i still love and can't wait to meet him regardless!
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gporka23
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Re: I feel like a bad person...
Posted by EndlessSummer719
Posted by gporka23
Posted by EndlessSummer719
Posted by MrsJakob
You are not. I really want a girl. My husband doesn't care. OF COURSE, I want a healthy baby but my heart is set on a girl.
To sum it up, you are normal.
ITA!!! I have the same fear as you Jen! Im afraid if its a boy Im gonna have a disappointed face on and the ultrasound tech is going to notice. What i might have the tech do is write it on a piece of paper and put it in an envelope and then Eric and I will open it in private.
We were thinking about this too... but I also want a shot of the goods so I think if i see it printed out ill know what it is..
Maybe they can put a pic of the goods in the envelope too?
What are we even worried about.. my Grandma told us what we were having.. and we screamed like little girls. I believe her over any sono 
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Re: I feel like a bad person...
Posted by gporka23
Posted by EndlessSummer719
Posted by gporka23
Posted by EndlessSummer719
Posted by MrsJakob
You are not. I really want a girl. My husband doesn't care. OF COURSE, I want a healthy baby but my heart is set on a girl.
To sum it up, you are normal.
ITA!!! I have the same fear as you Jen! Im afraid if its a boy Im gonna have a disappointed face on and the ultrasound tech is going to notice. What i might have the tech do is write it on a piece of paper and put it in an envelope and then Eric and I will open it in private.
We were thinking about this too... but I also want a shot of the goods so I think if i see it printed out ill know what it is..
Maybe they can put a pic of the goods in the envelope too?
What are we even worried about.. my Grandma told us what we were having.. and we screamed like little girls. I believe her over any sono
I cant wait to see if she was right with you!!!!!!
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rosalie
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Re: I feel like a bad person...
I'm in a similar boat... I'd be happy with either for baby #1 but I really want to have a daughter eventually
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