I feel like Ive totally lost it..

DH just told me that my SIL is pregnant with her second child and I burst into tears. Now he is mad at me and not speaking to me...
I feel terrible that I reacted that way but I am just so sad for myself, its not that Im not happy for her. It just feels so unfair KWIM

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I have been there ALOT. Hang in there hun!

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Awww, Im so sorry I dont think he should of gotten upset with you though. He should understand your sadness and frustration. Im sorry again

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Posted by bettybcafe

Awww, Im so sorry I dont think he should of gotten upset with you though. He should understand your sadness and frustrating. Im sorry again

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i think your DH should be a little more sensative to what youve been through the last few months... id be really angry at him in turn for being angry at you!!

you did nothing wrong...

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boys just dont understand what we go thru- i mean its happening in our bodies- they dont get it....
Dont worry he'll come around and you can explain why you reacted that way....
it always seem like when you start trying that EVERYONE seems to get pregnant around you....

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I'm so sorry, it's frustrating. Especially since we're all TTC I think it's more prevalent now that others are getting preggers or have babies

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Posted by bettybcafe

Awww, Im so sorry I dont think he should of gotten upset with you though. He should understand your sadness and frustrating. Im sorry again

ITA, I feel so bad for you. I hope you feel better soon and that DH realizes how much you need him during this time.

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I've been there and it totally s*cks everywhere I turn theres pregnancy DH gets mad at me he just doesn't get it

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Posted by AngnShaun

i think your DH should be a little more sensative to what youve been through the last few months... id be really angry at him in turn for being angry at you!!

you did nothing wrong...

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Posted by AngnShaun

i think your DH should be a little more sensative to what youve been through the last few months... id be really angry at him in turn for being angry at you!!

you did nothing wrong...

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Posted by AngnShaun

i think your DH should be a little more sensative to what youve been through the last few months... id be really angry at him in turn for being angry at you!!

you did nothing wrong...

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Totally been there

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I'm so sorry and BOO to your hubby for getting mad at you.

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What your feeling is so normal. Your DH should have understood your feelings instead of getting upset with you. I would feel and react the same exact way.

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100% know what you mean when you say it feels so unfair....my SIL is due the same week I was I was due first but she came out to everyone before we even told our parents...so not only did she steal some of our excitement (which totally sucked by the way) and now she is still pregnant and i'm not...everytime it comes up it feels like salt in a wound....this month was bad b/c she found out the sex and july is going to horrible - even if we are pregnant again with a perfectly healthy baby it's still going to be a reminder that our baby was due that time as well...i can't help but be depressed about it and i avoid her which isn't necessarily right but its what i have to do to keep from losing it....it helps that we live in FL and i don't have to actually see her kwim? everyone tells me its normal to feel that way and it will go away with time....

what stinks is that your DH doesn't understand....for me, my DH is with me 100% and we both have the same feeling about SIL...he is trying to do the right thing by keeping his relationship with her going but it kills him to speak to her...he spoke to her this week when she told him the sex of the baby and he wasn't himself the whole night

maybe your DH will come around and realize how you are feeling...for me, i didn't have to explain b/c my DH feels the same way i do and we both think the timing and situation sucks and it hurts us....but maybe if you explain what you are feeling your DH will understand?

don't worry our time will come!

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Thanks so much for your responses. DH and I are talking but he is still upset with me and cant understand why I cant be happy for his sister. I dont know how to explain to him how I am feeling. When i say it out loud I almost feel guilty for feeling the way I do

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I'm so sorry you are going through this. Everything you are feeling is totally normal, it has nothing to do with jealousy, it has more to do with someone having what you've lost and wanted most in this world. I pray that you find peace. Keep your head up and think positive, half of the battle is getting pregnant and you've reached that twice which means you and DH are fertile (although it may feel discouraging anyway, let it be a comfort knowing that you can get pregnant). I went through the same as you and I know EXACTLY how you feel, it sucks, but you will feel better.

Hang in there sweetie I will keep you in my prayers to St. Gerard

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Posted by Nik211

100% know what you mean when you say it feels so unfair....my SIL is due the same week I was I was due first but she came out to everyone before we even told our parents...so not only did she steal some of our excitement (which totally sucked by the way) and now she is still pregnant and i'm not...everytime it comes up it feels like salt in a wound....this month was bad b/c she found out the sex and july is going to horrible - even if we are pregnant again with a perfectly healthy baby it's still going to be a reminder that our baby was due that time as well...i can't help but be depressed about it and i avoid her which isn't necessarily right but its what i have to do to keep from losing it....it helps that we live in FL and i don't have to actually see her kwim? everyone tells me its normal to feel that way and it will go away with time....


This is why it is esp hard for me, bc I had a strong feeling that she was pregnant on Christmas day, the day we told his family and then later lost the baby. It is so hard knowing that she was and still is and Im not. I feel so selfish but Im not ready to feel excited for her yet. I will be thinking about all the milestones I should have been hitting as she goes through her pregnancy. Our babies wouldve been about a month apart, I think that will forever kill me.

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