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I live in a great big house and we barely use any of it. I have a lot of friends that complain about lack of space in their homes but the only rooms that we really use are the bedrooms, kitchen and family room. We are just now starting to use the finished basement now that the baby is 2.

We are actually planning to do a small extension which will create a small bedroom that will be 9x11. That will become the nursery for our next child. It will be small but it will be more than enough to fit everything that we have in my son's room now. - crib, chair and small dresser/changing table. That's really all you need. And they also make combo crib changing tables that look nice and you could always put a glider or chair in your room to feed the baby at night.

If your hubby is a packrat, perhaps you could look into renting a storage space for him to put some of his things. Or maybe purchase an inexpensive shed? That might make your life feel a little less clutter. Also, is there any way you could finish off part of your basement? That adds a ton of space and would be a lot less costly than an addition.

Good luck with whatever you decide but don't let lack of space prevent you from starting a family! That's one of those things that will work itself out and by the time the child needs more room hopefully you will have saved enough for the extension or will be in a position to move.

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I agree that you don't need much space. I bought a small house bc that's what we could afford at the time. My boys are sharing a room and it's a small room. One day we'd like to expand or move, but it works for us fine. My parents had my brother and sister in a one bedroom apt. They survived! These days people think they need so much space. You can make it work. Good luck!

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Posted by DiamondGirl



Kristin don't get yourself down.

You could always sell the home and worse case rent something larger until you can own

Like PP said, I know people who live with a baby in a one bdrm apt..it is totally doable.

It will work itself out for you

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Kristin

TRUST ME when I tell you that LOVE is all a baby needs!!! You will clothe, feed, provide shelter and love and a baby; any baby would be fine with that. We just moved into a house, but Alex was TOTALLY fine in our apartment. The opportunity came along and we bought the house, but as others said, you can make it work :)

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I'm so sorry you are in this situation

I have 2 kids in a 2 bedroom apartment. We're lucky that it's a decently sized apartment, but I still wish we had another bedroom. Either way, we make it work. You absolutely can do it. There is much more important things to provide for your child then their own large bedroom!

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Can you use your space vertically? Do you have a garage? Can you convert that space to storage? Do you have a basement? This tiny extra br you are talking about...IT'S STILL A BEDROOM!!! Take it! Enjoy it! I grew up sharing a room with my mom for YEARS b/c I lived with my grandparents, aunt and uncle and my mom and I had to share. My first own bedroom was 8x8. If it has enough room for a bed, you're good to go!

Just another thought...DH and I also live in a 1br co-op. When the time comes, we will take apart our coffee table to have more room in the living room, we will put up a curtain wall to give the baby its own space in our br, we plan on purging a lot of stuff that we don't use or need and I plan on stressing to everyone that our baby will not need tons of toys!!!

*Remember, it's not forever. The time will come when you'll be able to have a bigger house. But don't wish away the time you have now. And don't let it stop you from having kids *

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Babies and young children just need to know they're loved. When I was born, my parents had a 1br apartment in Queens. I didn't know, didn't care, and certainly don't remember it. You may want to postpone TTC until you get yourself on your feet financially, but don't let your house prevent you from having a family.

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Well I lost my job 4 days after DH and I closed on our house! A year later, I now have a part time job that pays squat. Thankfully DH has a steady job but things are still tight and there are months we pay the mortgage late (within the grace period) while waiting for him to get paid. But I am taking classes and working toward a career to get a better paying job that I will like!!!

But we are TTC. We do have three br house but even if we were still in our old apt... Your baby won't know or care how tight the quarters are!

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Posted by MrsFlatbread

Why couldn't you have a child in a two bedroom house? See...totally think there is something wrong with our generation...our parents had kids in small two bedroom apartments and we alll turned out fine. You will be fine. I would be more concerned with affording the cost of daycare if you don't have any one to watch the child. That's a huge cost!

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